I spent time with this girl today and we were bantering for a while and getting to know each other. She had to warm up to me at first and become comfortable. We talked a lot and before you know it, 4 hours passed. And she opened up later on and we held hands as she become more comfortable.

I told her to text me when she gets home and let me know she's alright. It's been a while now, she's probably home. And she said, "If I remember" I said it again saying, no just do it, in a light hearted way. I'm testing for compliance. Should I send a small text or do nothing at all and send something tomorrow.

So you two had a date? 4 hours without kissing at least?

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Over thinking at its best. Don't expect women to text you every time you ask them to. Some will, some will not and that is no big deal.

Even an LTR will forget to text you she get home and that's normal. Don't we all forget little things sometimes?

You can text her later to check up on her. I usually will not text a girl I just spent time with. I will leave it up to her to text when she feels like it.

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You're becoming a little bit too outcome-dependent, which is neediness.

dont think about her at all,she will either text you or she wont,meanwhile open another girl and dont waste 4 hours without even kissing,you shouldn't be affected by her reaction,texting you or not

Hey guys, awesome response - really! Very helpful and you guys really went in depth on the best mentality to have.

Usually I go for a k-close or sleep with her on the first date but as we talked she explained personal details and I knew to build a strong connection first. Will do it on the next date.

So here's my plan, I'll text her today "Hey, at a party just thought I'd see how you're doing will call you soon."

1) Then call her tonight, have a regular convo for a little and then plan the next date. Which is movie from my laptop at her place. What do you guys think of this plan?

2) She may be hesitant about having me over, and she may give an excuse and "not know when she's free". How do I get around this?

Thinking too much.

Already way overly invested in someone you barely even know.

N, thanks for your response.
Well its not really about her, I'd like to know this in general

I agree to be detached. Go with the flow. But I want my technique to be proper. In contrast to making a mistake like waiting 3 months before contacting a girl you've dated again in general.

Strike when hot.

Let go of the stupid compliance tests and PUA.

Take initiative and text her, don't put it on her NOR ask her to tell you when she's home ok, she's not a little girl and that sounds pussy like on your part.

Btw I never said "detached" nor suggested it

Hey man, I'm not saying it has to be on her or am I saying for her to let me know when she's home? I always take initiative. I'm sorry if there's a misunderstanding man.

I'm saying, I'm going to shoot her a small text then call her later tonight. That's it. Just wanted to know if that time frame or plan was good. I agree to use less Pua and theory. Thank you for sharing that.

Small update:
Me: Hey, at a party with friends, thought I'd see how you are. Call you later
Her: I'm good, about to go meet a new family for babysitting

Is she kind of saying, don't call me now.

What do you think?

It seems like she's saying "Don't call me, at the moment" Am I right in saying that?
I said, "Great; heading back to my friends"

Lots of assumptions.