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I've been trying to learn game for about a year. Going out 1-2 times per week at night. I've made hundreds and hundreds of approaches. Nothing much in the way of success, though. I'm in the UK. Not entirely sure i've improved at all in that time
After you open a girl in a bar, do you do anything special in the way of conversation in order to 'hook' them?
I know some people have routines and stories and perform magic tricks etc.
When I watch infields of some of the RSD guys, they often seem to just do interview mode after teh open (where are you from? who are you here with? how old are you? what's your name?)
When I do this, I often feel as though the girl is bored. And once i've asked them questions (and assuming that she hasn't asked me anything back) i'm often struggling to think of what to say next.
Maybe this is because they usually game in places that are full of tourists, and so the 'chode questions' are actually somewhat interesting in that environment.
I had this issue last night when I approached a 2-set. 2 gorgeous blonde girls. But they just didn't want to talk to me, and after i'd asked them like 5 questions (and made a few assumptions) there was an awkward silence and they were just looking at each other whilst I was stood next to them like a weirdo. I had to bail and it was super awkward.
This isn't ALWAYS the case - Sometimes, i'll open and a girl will immediately talk a little and maybe even ask me questions and it then tends to go a whole lot smoother, but I can't rely on meeting too many of them sort of girls, especially here in the UK where it's kind of weird to talk to strangers.
So yeah, after you guys open a girl in a bar, how does the conversation usually look during the first 5 minutes or so? Do you have any sort of 'routine' that you always use?
The only form of 'routine' that I use at the moment is scripted replies to their answers - Like when she tells me her age, I might go into a very short routine from a mysterymethod manual for example.
I done this last night on the super hot girl and she laughed, but after that, it was just back to chode questions which she seemed bored by and then it fizzled out as s often the case.
IT IS NOT WEIRD TO TALK TO STRANGERS IN THE UK.
Lord have mercy!
The UK is one of the most open countries I've been to. Approach is everything.
For me, my FORMULA goes a little something like this:
1. Funny observational opener
2. Kino and eye contact to gauge response
3. Light teasing interspersed with questions about her, and maybe one or to interesting things about myself
4. MORE kino to guauge response
5. Relate to an important experience/background of hers
6. More kino
7. Isolate
My plan isn't for everyone. I am not a MASTER who claims that my formula works every time. But then again, nothing works all the time. Follow a simple pattern such like this and your results will improve