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fusion1770
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 Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 8:16 am Post subject: Friend with Benefits |
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Hey guys,
I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and things started off great. The chemistry was right and we just hit it off from the start. We've made it clear to each other that we're just going to be friends...
We started having sex about 2 weeks ago. It's great, but the thing is I've been getting a pretty cold shoulder from her lately. I'd call her up to go do something, but she'd be always busy with other stuff. I know not to call and text alot (AFC move), so I'm giving her space.
How long should I wait to call her up again? I've never been in a "Friends with Benefits" situation, I've always had the girlfriend.
I'm looking for any advice I can get. I just don't want to lose this one just yet... |
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Kin
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Hmm.. have you been acting needy in any way?
Like calling her up too often or something like that? |
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8ball.uk
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| Run game on one of her friends or someone she's with next time you're out with her or something. Put that HB in her place. You're the prize, not her. The way she probably see's it, is you're in her pocket. Prove to her that whilst you like hanging out with her and stuff, she's just another girl. |
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Rye Lee
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| Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 2:17 pm Post subject: |
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| The key to fuck buddies is to make the girl feel like she's the one getting a favor out of the deal, not that she's doing YOU a favor. If she thinks she's doing you a favor, then it won't last long. |
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Valence
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| Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2007 5:09 pm Post subject: |
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Actions mean more than words. You guys agreed to not have a relationship but you are acting like you want one.
Do not call her again. Wait for her to call. If she does not call within the week, text her.
Do not text her to go out. She is supposed to be a friend, act like one.
Find a situation in which you can talk to her like a friend. Something along the lines of 'you will never believe what this idiot just did'.
For some reason though, I think she was the one that made the decision to be friends and you agreed to it..... You are acting way to interested, even in this post.
Either game her or realize that you two will only be friends. |
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fusion1770
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| Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 2:13 am Post subject: |
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hey guys,
thanks for the input...
I haven't called or sent her a text since friday. I know not to hover.
I'll give it some more time, if nothing happens, I'm moving on. |
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Chelsea
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| Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 2:29 am Post subject: Re: Friend with Benefits |
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| fusion1770 wrote: | Hey guys,
I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and things started off great. The chemistry was right and we just hit it off from the start. We've made it clear to each other that we're just going to be friends...
We started having sex about 2 weeks ago. It's great, but the thing is I've been getting a pretty cold shoulder from her lately. I'd call her up to go do something, but she'd be always busy with other stuff. I know not to call and text alot (AFC move), so I'm giving her space.
How long should I wait to call her up again? I've never been in a "Friends with Benefits" situation, I've always had the girlfriend.
I'm looking for any advice I can get. I just don't want to lose this one just yet... |
Maybe just maybe the sex isnt that good for her. Lets not complicate things, after you start having sex with her shes giving you the cold shoulder? you know girls do work like guys in this sense, after we get what we want we are over it 
So, try this... Start hanging with other girls IMMEDIATLEY stay busy, and try having a girl answer your phone the next time she calls. This is sure to get her interest again. Its a little ballsy and be prepared to lose her, but in this situation I think shes not interested anyway. |
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L.A. Tripp
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| Posted: Tue Oct 30, 2007 9:09 pm Post subject: Re: Friend with Benefits |
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| Chelsea wrote: |
and try having a girl answer your phone the next time she calls. This is sure to get her interest again. Its a little ballsy and be prepared to lose her, but in this situation I think shes not interested anyway. |
LOL, Chelsea, most guys don't have the balls to do that . . . because they "are afraid to lose her" with a tear running down their cheek. Although, it's perfect advice. |
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