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Every rule of being an attractive man pours into one sentence, which is: Sincerely not giving a fuck anymore when it comes to women.
I agree when in the attraction / pickup stage. A girl isn't responding to your game, who cares? There are plenty of others. You make an ass of yourself, who cares? You say something that offends them. I don't care. You are happy to take a risk with a girl. You are happy to go direct. You live your life and invite girls to join, great.
But when it comes to a relationship you two are forming a partnership, right? You help each other out, improve each other's life. I don't see how you can main a 'I don't give a fuck' frame because frankly you do; and if you don't you should. Be prepared to loose the girl? That's fine if I've been talking to her for 5 minutes, what about if I've invested 1 year? I have in fact just done this (decided to go travelling on my own to follow an adventure sport for the next 5 months) but it becomes so much harder.
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best way to do it is find a purpose, and follow and pursue it religiously. be selfish. do what you want. take up cool hobbies, make new friends, be attractive to scoures of other women.
women come 2nd last if not last on my list of priorities. and Im in a ltr with the girl of my dreams.
This is my major stumbling. If I did follow my purpose / hobbies religiously I would be permanently single. Why? Well I'm into adventure sports that take me all around the world. Before I got into PUA I was travelling 9 months of the year. Going to far flung mountain ranges is not really compatible with a relationship. I know my life is an extreme but a relationship requires a whole lot of compromise for me. It means I live in one place and take shorter trips. The major reason for me living in one place is my girlfriend. And so I can't help become a little needy. There's no way around it. When I break up I hit the road. Does this just mean I'm not ready for an LTR? It's going to be near on impossible to find a girl who could join me in this lifestyle.
As for the 4 month mark, I experienced this exact same thing. I played a near perfect PUA game (an early fluke) but it really didn't match up with where I was at in life. Discrepancies started appearing and her interest level dropped. To be honest I wasn't ready for a LTR. I wasn't comfortable enough in myself or my where my life was at. I realised you can't hide in an intimate relationship and that's a problem if you have any demons on insecurities.
But I learnt so much and was open and honest going into my next. That lasted 1 year. Again I learnt and know my next one will be even better. Perhaps LTR are like game but it just takes longer to learn because of the time frames i.e. sarge 10 girls in 1 night vs 3 relationships in 5 years...