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alright, seems like I need to change a lot of things...
what do you think is the right behavior ?
Here are my notes on things I'd change...
#1 You went out with a girl who you're not attracted to... Some people will tell you it's good to start practicing on anyone but I think if you're not even attracted to the girl then that's a waste of your time.
#2 She was super flaky coming up with different excuses every time and not replying for long...If you're not sexting, I'd have dropped her right here. Flaky means low interest, you can find someone who is interested.
#3 The date went pretty fine and we planned up the second date during the first date itself... I never do this. I wouldn't do this. It communicates the message that you're free all the time, it also comes off a bit needy/creepy. Maintain mystery, don't discuss the future. We live in dangerous times. You might have to go on the war path and kick ass which means you might not be around later. It communicates you have high value.
#4 The mint bullshit... Always be closing. The fact that you are insecure enough that you worry your breath might stink is ridiculous.
#5 She cancelled a date then you asked her out again... That makes you look low value and needy. Very much so.
#6 You told her that you didn't want to hurt her. This line works only sometimes. This line does not work in that situation. It makes you look soft and not strong.
Also, you're not really "dating" chicks. You're going on first dates with chicks. Otherwise you wouldn't be all hung up about this. I'm of the school that says you aren't "dating" a chick until you're hooking up with her.
This girl
might have been into you in the beginning, but her flakiness and your fumbling of the situation has likely killed off any attraction she might have had.
What do you do now? You keep going. You don't text this chick. You let her come to you. Anything else on your part right now further tarnishes her image of you.
Hey, thanks for the long reply. really appreciate it.
1,2,3,5 - all result of not having been dated for a long time + I am living in a country where foreigners are not tolerated very well when it comes to dating. I have made changes, but they will take some time to fully reflect in all my personality.
4- agreed was dumb and lame.
6- yeah, she got me. I am so gullible, especially when it comes to girls. Hopefully, it will go away in time.
About dating - I agree...I have just fixed my online game yet. Although, I have gamed girls earlier in real life (may not look like it from this post
), but they haven't been in the country I am living in right now...things will take some time to recalibrate...
working on it hard now though !!