Find a Girlfriend

A lot of the guys in the pick-up-artist forum may say they want to sleep with as many women as possible but I bet if they were pushed to the pin of their collar a lot of them would say they would really like to find a girlfriend. If they found a beautiful, engaging, fun loving woman who they connected well with I'm sure they would happily settle down and stop gaming (for a while at least). I hear a lot of guys complaining that the party girls they meet at the clubs aren't girlfriend material. So what can you do to find a girlfriend?

1. Play the numbers game
Approach, approach, approach! If you get into the habit of approaching loads of women not only will you improve your confidence and skills but you also broaden your social circle of female friends, which in turn increases your choice for a potential girlfriend.

2. Consider switching to day game
Bars and clubs are undoubtedly fun places to meet women but perhaps they're not the best place to find a girlfriend. The mix of alcohol and 'night time mentality' can mean having to waste a lot of time on first dates before really getting to know her and perhaps realising she isn't what you're looking for. By having in mind the kind of qualities you want in a woman you can navigate to areas or events where such women may be. So, if you are into healthy living and outdoor or adrenalin activities and want a woman who will enjoy that lifestyle with you then you will be better off looking for her at your local climbing wall than in McDonalds. Approaching in the day will generally give you a truer sense of the woman you're talking to, as most women aren't expecting to be approached during the day and have no guard up.

3. Know what you want in a girlfriend
A common error guys make is to base their attitude and approach in an interaction solely on the woman's looks. From that point on she can do or say no wrong because they have already made up their mind that they want her. What happens then is these guys fall into the trap of agreeing with everything the woman says in an attempt to force rapport. Not only is this unattractive it is also totally counterproductive if you want to find a girlfriend as once more you risk wasting time on women you have nothing in common with.

Before you begin your approaches have in mind a checklist of qualities you want in your ideal woman that does not include anything physical. So, for example, does she smoke? Does she drink a lot? Is she educated and well read? Does she like to travel…you get the idea. By using this framework in your interactions instead of one in which you rate her solely on her looks not only do you differentiate yourself from the 'yes' men that usually approach her, thus becoming more attractive to her, you also save yourself time from pursuing women you know outright you don't want a relationship with.

4. What kind of guy are you going to be?
We all know relationships are about compromise and consideration so why not start early. We've looked at what you might want from a girlfriend but what will she want from a boyfriend? If your ideal woman is a super ambitious, professional type then maybe your favourite Metallica t-shirt and Vans aren't going to cut it when you approach her at the wine bar in the financial district. In short, make yourself more attractive to your ideal woman. This might include specific changes but developing a purpose or passion in life is a good general way to start. By learning some skills or taking up an interesting hobby you demonstrate a zest for life and you may meet women while you're doing them.

Keep these points in mind and you might not need to find a girlfriend, she'll find you.