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I am going to start to journal my successes again. I have slipped since being in a relationship and it is time to get back into player mode and really show my colors.

Here is what I am going through currently.

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My goals are:


*Seduce the best of the best chicks.

*get the chicks that men die for
*get in shape
*Get financially secure
*learn to dance
*have multiple girls at once
*go back to school
*get better at text game
*get my balls back
*settle down after all of those are completed^

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What I am working with right now:



I have two consistent lady friends that I see weekly. One, I consider my main babe, the other is just a supportive babe. I have recently f-closed 32 year old women who is 9 years older than I am. So that's the biggest age gap I have done. I am hoping she becomes the third lady to join the ranks. If she joins the ranks...I think the snowball effect will be in full swing and getting chicks will be a piece of cake. I am working on cold approaches, warm approaches, but lately I have been doing pretty well online. Real easy to transition into real life and I like it.

I went out with the older woman last night, we went to some bar and restaurant which was pretty dope. She opened up to me about how she has bipolar and schizo...which didn't completely turn me off since she said she has been doing good the past 7 years. So, no cause for worry. She asked about my aspirations and I told her I want to be making a comfortable living, which she liked. She is definitely more forward since she is older. I took her home after and we chilled in her apartment. She kept talking and then finally proceeded to direct me to the bedroom. She is a pretty great fuck. She told me she was impressed that I can make her orgasm while being on top (it really is about the motion of the ocean, boys), or just with my dick in general. She told me doesn't experience that very often. She asked when I lost my virginity. I told her truthfully that I lost it at 19. She was skeptical. I told her that I am very wise beyond my years, lol. Rachel, we will call her, wanted me to stay over the night but I told her that I had to get up for work in the morning, maybe some other time. She then sent me a nude photo an hour later, telling me she expects me to show her more in the bedroom.

I think she will be the third girl in the rotation.

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I have been flaking on my regular girls. Why? No idea, it must be the ADHD, and the fact that I have been feeling down lately. I realized that I have severe body image issues. I used to be fat when I was younger. So, me achieving the best shape of my life, is very important to me. Anyway. I found fitting clothes to go out Friday night.



I went with my friend, who usually has me do all the opening and whatnot. He just got out of a relationship with an HB 9 and that ended badly. Either way here is how Friday night went.


I am always fashionably late and tend to take my sweet ass time. I know this is a huge problem with the girls I am dating and with my friends. So, I am making a mental note right now that my procrastination has to be addressed. Screw this ADD man. I get to my buddies place around 12 and we take a couple shots of tequila and head out to one of the local bars.

We get there and it is packed and sweaty. I text one of my targets and she tells me where she is but to sum it up, we don't end up meeting that night because she gets too drunk and starts going off in her own little world. So we are the bar, I feel anxiety, I feel it. It sucks bad. But I am aware of it so I am able to manage it, I have been off my game lately and I am feeling insecure. My buddy and I just drink and we still enjoy our company but I try to avoid the shark look that he is giving off and try to get him too loosen up and stop trying to find a chick to fuck. It was counterproductive..

So after shooting the shit and 30 minutes later, I finally open a set. This was a three set. Two average chicks and one really cute blonde. I used an opinion opener regarding what kind of birthday party my friend and I should throw this upcoming weekend. One of the girls digs one of the themes and I reward her. She isn't my target. But the conversation breaks off and my buddy is holding his own and mingling with the 6.5 and i am stuck with the 6. I assume she was the mother hen so I took my time winning her over. In the corner of my eye i see the really cute 7.5-8 HB in the corner just looking lonely. Perfect. I will be the oh so charming guy to save her from her boredom.

BUT out of nowhere two dudes come into the set and one I know isn't a threat but other one just starts hugging the blonde chick and then the other chicks. I don't address it, I still talk to the mother hen...my wing runs into the dude and I see that he tries to AMOG him. From what I can tell, my friend handles his own and doesn't seem to be blown out of the set. THANK GOD.

I let minutes pass and i see that the AMOG isn't gaming the blonde and she is lonely yet again. I ask the non threatening guy and the mother hen how they know each other and they are in the same architecture program. Cool beans. The will call the blonde girls Ali, she is yearning for some attention so I break off from the two people i am talking to and make my move. Now, I don't remember what I said to her but I made sure I generated some attraction. I think most of my interaction was cold reading which she was eating up, i think she used to date assholes in her past...she was digging me.

I think I teased her about being construction, since it isn't the norm for a woman to be in. I assumed that she must be rough around the edges. A quote from the night that i remember correctly was "what else are you assuming about me" I just acted like a kid who got caught reaching for a cookie in the cookie jar. She was eating it up. She then mentioned she knew how to shoot a shotgun pretty well. This was perfect. The bartender came and asked if i needed a drink, and I was like "after what she told me, fuck yeah i need a drink".


I knew I reached attraction levels when she started asking me about what I did for a living, and I told her I was a teachers aide. Her friends wanted to leave and I number closed her. We didn't get much comfort in so I knew what I needed to do.

Here is our text convo...she wasn't receptive but I hit a romantic cord and she opened up like magic


Me: Hey construction laddyyy, don't kill me with that shotgun of yours - from Mr. A

Her: Haha heyy you shouldn't have to worry city boy

me: oh and why is that? I think it's my charm isn't it?

NO RESPONSE

next day:
Me: Are you snaptually active? textually active =we have yet to see

her: haha yeah sorry I suck at texting back usually. I am snatually active though

Me: I think an intervention will have to happen ;). I'd like your snapchat

Her: It wouldn't be the first attempt at an intervention. Add me up!!

Me: My interventions involve "extreme measures" ;). Permanent effects. Okay. Added

Her: I may take it into consideration but it'll be hard to break me

Me: Hmm a way to a womans heart. 1. chocolate 2. puppies. 3. ice cream. You'll break in no time


[b]She must have dated assholes...after that line...she opened up like magic..[/b]
double text!
her: so you want a way to my heart?
her:you're pretty much dead on though haha


Me: what can i say i understand women. And that was just the basics

Her:you sure about that ? you couldn't wrap your head around me working in construction so maybe i am not so basic. I
her: I am just messing. I do love the basic girly things but I am a rough country girl.

Me: I stated the basic needs of a woman. After that it's up to the girl to be complex. And you are turning out to be complex. Which I like and it's refreshing. So rough country as in mud wrestling?

She sent me a wall of text. She is investing. We want that.



Her: those are my wants, not my needs. And trust me I'm not that complex. I've never mud wrestled but I totally would. I mudding on atvs and fishing. I'd take a night of camping in the middle of no where on a lake over a sweaty packed club any day. And I'm pretty good at aiming a shotgun. But I can definitely get down on the dance floor...don't let me fool you there.

Me: I apologize for assuming. But this is how it works. You get to know me, and I get to know you. I look forward to it. And I totally love girls who can wield a gun ;).

Her : Haha no need to apologize. Just letting you know more about me. But my basic order is puppies, ice cream, then chocolate :)
her: i also have to apoligze in advance because i'm slightly concusseed and was pretty drunk Frday night so i can't remember some details we talked about.

Me: You're pretty interesting already, lol. You made me break my rule. and then whatever we talked about Friday night I am taking to the grave. I am glad you put puppies first. I love them.

Her: Lol what's your rule?

Me: I promised myself that I wouldn't take numbers from girls I meet in bars or clubs anymore. You were pretty cool, and you made me break it.

Her: I usually don't give my number to guys I meet in bars or clubs. So you clearly used to get a lot of girls numbers..i guess it is that charm.


Me: :) On that note I will text you tomorrow. Don't want to be tired to teach the little ones how to add and subtract. Goodnight cute stuff!

Her: Aw have fun! Goodnight charming.


I'll see her again soon enough.

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Mr. Assertive wrote:
I have been flaking on my regular girls. Why? No idea, it must be the ADHD, and the fact that I have been feeling down lately. I realized that I have severe body image issues. I used to be fat when I was younger. So, me achieving the best shape of my life, is very important to me. Anyway. I found fitting clothes to go out Friday night.



I went with my friend, who usually has me do all the opening and whatnot. He just got out of a relationship with an HB 9 and that ended badly. Either way here is how Friday night went.


I am always fashionably late and tend to take my sweet ass time. I know this is a huge problem with the girls I am dating and with my friends. So, I am making a mental note right now that my procrastination has to be addressed. Screw this ADD man. I get to my buddies place around 12 and we take a couple shots of tequila and head out to one of the local bars.

We get there and it is packed and sweaty. I text one of my targets and she tells me where she is but to sum it up, we don't end up meeting that night because she gets too drunk and starts going off in her own little world. So we are the bar, I feel anxiety, I feel it. It sucks bad. But I am aware of it so I am able to manage it, I have been off my game lately and I am feeling insecure. My buddy and I just drink and we still enjoy our company but I try to avoid the shark look that he is giving off and try to get him too loosen up and stop trying to find a chick to fuck. It was counterproductive..

So after shooting the shit and 30 minutes later, I finally open a set. This was a three set. Two average chicks and one really cute blonde. I used an opinion opener regarding what kind of birthday party my friend and I should throw this upcoming weekend. One of the girls digs one of the themes and I reward her. She isn't my target. But the conversation breaks off and my buddy is holding his own and mingling with the 6.5 and i am stuck with the 6. I assume she was the mother hen so I took my time winning her over. In the corner of my eye i see the really cute 7.5-8 HB in the corner just looking lonely. Perfect. I will be the oh so charming guy to save her from her boredom.

BUT out of nowhere two dudes come into the set and one I know isn't a threat but other one just starts hugging the blonde chick and then the other chicks. I don't address it, I still talk to the mother hen...my wing runs into the dude and I see that he tries to AMOG him. From what I can tell, my friend handles his own and doesn't seem to be blown out of the set. THANK GOD.

I let minutes pass and i see that the AMOG isn't gaming the blonde and she is lonely yet again. I ask the non threatening guy and the mother hen how they know each other and they are in the same architecture program. Cool beans. The will call the blonde girls Ali, she is yearning for some attention so I break off from the two people i am talking to and make my move. Now, I don't remember what I said to her but I made sure I generated some attraction. I think most of my interaction was cold reading which she was eating up, i think she used to date assholes in her past...she was digging me.

I think I teased her about being construction, since it isn't the norm for a woman to be in. I assumed that she must be rough around the edges. A quote from the night that i remember correctly was "what else are you assuming about me" I just acted like a kid who got caught reaching for a cookie in the cookie jar. She was eating it up. She then mentioned she knew how to shoot a shotgun pretty well. This was perfect. The bartender came and asked if i needed a drink, and I was like "after what she told me, fuck yeah i need a drink".


I knew I reached attraction levels when she started asking me about what I did for a living, and I told her I was a teachers aide. Her friends wanted to leave and I number closed her. We didn't get much comfort in so I knew what I needed to do.

Here is our text convo...she wasn't receptive but I hit a romantic cord and she opened up like magic


Me: Hey construction laddyyy, don't kill me with that shotgun of yours - from Mr. A

Her: Haha heyy you shouldn't have to worry city boy

me: oh and why is that? I think it's my charm isn't it?

NO RESPONSE

next day:
Me: Are you snaptually active? textually active =we have yet to see

her: haha yeah sorry I suck at texting back usually. I am snatually active though

Me: I think an intervention will have to happen ;). I'd like your snapchat

Her: It wouldn't be the first attempt at an intervention. Add me up!!

Me: My interventions involve "extreme measures" ;). Permanent effects. Okay. Added

Her: I may take it into consideration but it'll be hard to break me

Me: Hmm a way to a womans heart. 1. chocolate 2. puppies. 3. ice cream. You'll break in no time


[b]She must have dated assholes...after that line...she opened up like magic..[/b]
double text!
her: so you want a way to my heart?
her:you're pretty much dead on though haha


Me: what can i say i understand women. And that was just the basics

Her:you sure about that ? you couldn't wrap your head around me working in construction so maybe i am not so basic. I
her: I am just messing. I do love the basic girly things but I am a rough country girl.

Me: I stated the basic needs of a woman. After that it's up to the girl to be complex. And you are turning out to be complex. Which I like and it's refreshing. So rough country as in mud wrestling?

She sent me a wall of text. She is investing. We want that.



Her: those are my wants, not my needs. And trust me I'm not that complex. I've never mud wrestled but I totally would. I mudding on atvs and fishing. I'd take a night of camping in the middle of no where on a lake over a sweaty packed club any day. And I'm pretty good at aiming a shotgun. But I can definitely get down on the dance floor...don't let me fool you there.

Me: I apologize for assuming. But this is how it works. You get to know me, and I get to know you. I look forward to it. And I totally love girls who can wield a gun ;).

Her : Haha no need to apologize. Just letting you know more about me. But my basic order is puppies, ice cream, then chocolate :)
her: i also have to apoligze in advance because i'm slightly concusseed and was pretty drunk Frday night so i can't remember some details we talked about.

Me: You're pretty interesting already, lol. You made me break my rule. and then whatever we talked about Friday night I am taking to the grave. I am glad you put puppies first. I love them.

Her: Lol what's your rule?

Me: I promised myself that I wouldn't take numbers from girls I meet in bars or clubs anymore. You were pretty cool, and you made me break it.

Her: I usually don't give my number to guys I meet in bars or clubs. So you clearly used to get a lot of girls numbers..i guess it is that charm.


Me: :) On that note I will text you tomorrow. Don't want to be tired to teach the little ones how to add and subtract. Goodnight cute stuff!

Her: Aw have fun! Goodnight charming.


I'll see her again soon enough.


Good convo. You really handled it well.

Are you still living with your ex? What are some of the reasons you think you may be feeling down?


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ChocolatePUA wrote:
Mr. Assertive wrote:
I have been flaking on my regular girls. Why? No idea, it must be the ADHD, and the fact that I have been feeling down lately. I realized that I have severe body image issues. I used to be fat when I was younger. So, me achieving the best shape of my life, is very important to me. Anyway. I found fitting clothes to go out Friday night.



I went with my friend, who usually has me do all the opening and whatnot. He just got out of a relationship with an HB 9 and that ended badly. Either way here is how Friday night went.


I am always fashionably late and tend to take my sweet ass time. I know this is a huge problem with the girls I am dating and with my friends. So, I am making a mental note right now that my procrastination has to be addressed. Screw this ADD man. I get to my buddies place around 12 and we take a couple shots of tequila and head out to one of the local bars.

We get there and it is packed and sweaty. I text one of my targets and she tells me where she is but to sum it up, we don't end up meeting that night because she gets too drunk and starts going off in her own little world. So we are the bar, I feel anxiety, I feel it. It sucks bad. But I am aware of it so I am able to manage it, I have been off my game lately and I am feeling insecure. My buddy and I just drink and we still enjoy our company but I try to avoid the shark look that he is giving off and try to get him too loosen up and stop trying to find a chick to fuck. It was counterproductive..

So after shooting the shit and 30 minutes later, I finally open a set. This was a three set. Two average chicks and one really cute blonde. I used an opinion opener regarding what kind of birthday party my friend and I should throw this upcoming weekend. One of the girls digs one of the themes and I reward her. She isn't my target. But the conversation breaks off and my buddy is holding his own and mingling with the 6.5 and i am stuck with the 6. I assume she was the mother hen so I took my time winning her over. In the corner of my eye i see the really cute 7.5-8 HB in the corner just looking lonely. Perfect. I will be the oh so charming guy to save her from her boredom.

BUT out of nowhere two dudes come into the set and one I know isn't a threat but other one just starts hugging the blonde chick and then the other chicks. I don't address it, I still talk to the mother hen...my wing runs into the dude and I see that he tries to AMOG him. From what I can tell, my friend handles his own and doesn't seem to be blown out of the set. THANK GOD.

I let minutes pass and i see that the AMOG isn't gaming the blonde and she is lonely yet again. I ask the non threatening guy and the mother hen how they know each other and they are in the same architecture program. Cool beans. The will call the blonde girls Ali, she is yearning for some attention so I break off from the two people i am talking to and make my move. Now, I don't remember what I said to her but I made sure I generated some attraction. I think most of my interaction was cold reading which she was eating up, i think she used to date assholes in her past...she was digging me.

I think I teased her about being construction, since it isn't the norm for a woman to be in. I assumed that she must be rough around the edges. A quote from the night that i remember correctly was "what else are you assuming about me" I just acted like a kid who got caught reaching for a cookie in the cookie jar. She was eating it up. She then mentioned she knew how to shoot a shotgun pretty well. This was perfect. The bartender came and asked if i needed a drink, and I was like "after what she told me, fuck yeah i need a drink".


I knew I reached attraction levels when she started asking me about what I did for a living, and I told her I was a teachers aide. Her friends wanted to leave and I number closed her. We didn't get much comfort in so I knew what I needed to do.

Here is our text convo...she wasn't receptive but I hit a romantic cord and she opened up like magic


Me: Hey construction laddyyy, don't kill me with that shotgun of yours - from Mr. A

Her: Haha heyy you shouldn't have to worry city boy

me: oh and why is that? I think it's my charm isn't it?

NO RESPONSE

next day:
Me: Are you snaptually active? textually active =we have yet to see

her: haha yeah sorry I suck at texting back usually. I am snatually active though

Me: I think an intervention will have to happen ;). I'd like your snapchat

Her: It wouldn't be the first attempt at an intervention. Add me up!!

Me: My interventions involve "extreme measures" ;). Permanent effects. Okay. Added

Her: I may take it into consideration but it'll be hard to break me

Me: Hmm a way to a womans heart. 1. chocolate 2. puppies. 3. ice cream. You'll break in no time


[b]She must have dated assholes...after that line...she opened up like magic..[/b]
double text!
her: so you want a way to my heart?
her:you're pretty much dead on though haha


Me: what can i say i understand women. And that was just the basics

Her:you sure about that ? you couldn't wrap your head around me working in construction so maybe i am not so basic. I
her: I am just messing. I do love the basic girly things but I am a rough country girl.

Me: I stated the basic needs of a woman. After that it's up to the girl to be complex. And you are turning out to be complex. Which I like and it's refreshing. So rough country as in mud wrestling?

She sent me a wall of text. She is investing. We want that.



Her: those are my wants, not my needs. And trust me I'm not that complex. I've never mud wrestled but I totally would. I mudding on atvs and fishing. I'd take a night of camping in the middle of no where on a lake over a sweaty packed club any day. And I'm pretty good at aiming a shotgun. But I can definitely get down on the dance floor...don't let me fool you there.

Me: I apologize for assuming. But this is how it works. You get to know me, and I get to know you. I look forward to it. And I totally love girls who can wield a gun ;).

Her : Haha no need to apologize. Just letting you know more about me. But my basic order is puppies, ice cream, then chocolate :)
her: i also have to apoligze in advance because i'm slightly concusseed and was pretty drunk Frday night so i can't remember some details we talked about.

Me: You're pretty interesting already, lol. You made me break my rule. and then whatever we talked about Friday night I am taking to the grave. I am glad you put puppies first. I love them.

Her: Lol what's your rule?

Me: I promised myself that I wouldn't take numbers from girls I meet in bars or clubs anymore. You were pretty cool, and you made me break it.

Her: I usually don't give my number to guys I meet in bars or clubs. So you clearly used to get a lot of girls numbers..i guess it is that charm.


Me: :) On that note I will text you tomorrow. Don't want to be tired to teach the little ones how to add and subtract. Goodnight cute stuff!

Her: Aw have fun! Goodnight charming.


I'll see her again soon enough.


Good convo. You really handled it well.

Are you still living with your ex? What are some of the reasons you think you may be feeling down?



Someone mentioned that I have not been living up to my name. And I have been doing some reflecting and asking myself questions. I read a book on Assertiveness and have been refreshing/practicing the techniques in it the past few days. I feel better. I also know I have image issues, which can be cured through working out and eating right. I understand that I have been allowing my ex to make me feel uncomfortable in my own home. This is a main issue that I have to address. All this came to me today. I am glad it did. This means I can have a plan of attack.

My ex is supposedly moving out June, possibly the first week. Once she moves, I can probably have real clarity and reflect on the past months. Financial woes are also to blame. Stress is the main killer.

Thanks for asking.

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Mr. Assertive wrote:
ChocolatePUA wrote:
Mr. Assertive wrote:
I have been flaking on my regular girls. Why? No idea, it must be the ADHD, and the fact that I have been feeling down lately. I realized that I have severe body image issues. I used to be fat when I was younger. So, me achieving the best shape of my life, is very important to me. Anyway. I found fitting clothes to go out Friday night.



I went with my friend, who usually has me do all the opening and whatnot. He just got out of a relationship with an HB 9 and that ended badly. Either way here is how Friday night went.


I am always fashionably late and tend to take my sweet ass time. I know this is a huge problem with the girls I am dating and with my friends. So, I am making a mental note right now that my procrastination has to be addressed. Screw this ADD man. I get to my buddies place around 12 and we take a couple shots of tequila and head out to one of the local bars.

We get there and it is packed and sweaty. I text one of my targets and she tells me where she is but to sum it up, we don't end up meeting that night because she gets too drunk and starts going off in her own little world. So we are the bar, I feel anxiety, I feel it. It sucks bad. But I am aware of it so I am able to manage it, I have been off my game lately and I am feeling insecure. My buddy and I just drink and we still enjoy our company but I try to avoid the shark look that he is giving off and try to get him too loosen up and stop trying to find a chick to fuck. It was counterproductive..

So after shooting the shit and 30 minutes later, I finally open a set. This was a three set. Two average chicks and one really cute blonde. I used an opinion opener regarding what kind of birthday party my friend and I should throw this upcoming weekend. One of the girls digs one of the themes and I reward her. She isn't my target. But the conversation breaks off and my buddy is holding his own and mingling with the 6.5 and i am stuck with the 6. I assume she was the mother hen so I took my time winning her over. In the corner of my eye i see the really cute 7.5-8 HB in the corner just looking lonely. Perfect. I will be the oh so charming guy to save her from her boredom.

BUT out of nowhere two dudes come into the set and one I know isn't a threat but other one just starts hugging the blonde chick and then the other chicks. I don't address it, I still talk to the mother hen...my wing runs into the dude and I see that he tries to AMOG him. From what I can tell, my friend handles his own and doesn't seem to be blown out of the set. THANK GOD.

I let minutes pass and i see that the AMOG isn't gaming the blonde and she is lonely yet again. I ask the non threatening guy and the mother hen how they know each other and they are in the same architecture program. Cool beans. The will call the blonde girls Ali, she is yearning for some attention so I break off from the two people i am talking to and make my move. Now, I don't remember what I said to her but I made sure I generated some attraction. I think most of my interaction was cold reading which she was eating up, i think she used to date assholes in her past...she was digging me.

I think I teased her about being construction, since it isn't the norm for a woman to be in. I assumed that she must be rough around the edges. A quote from the night that i remember correctly was "what else are you assuming about me" I just acted like a kid who got caught reaching for a cookie in the cookie jar. She was eating it up. She then mentioned she knew how to shoot a shotgun pretty well. This was perfect. The bartender came and asked if i needed a drink, and I was like "after what she told me, fuck yeah i need a drink".


I knew I reached attraction levels when she started asking me about what I did for a living, and I told her I was a teachers aide. Her friends wanted to leave and I number closed her. We didn't get much comfort in so I knew what I needed to do.

Here is our text convo...she wasn't receptive but I hit a romantic cord and she opened up like magic


Me: Hey construction laddyyy, don't kill me with that shotgun of yours - from Mr. A

Her: Haha heyy you shouldn't have to worry city boy

me: oh and why is that? I think it's my charm isn't it?

NO RESPONSE

next day:
Me: Are you snaptually active? textually active =we have yet to see

her: haha yeah sorry I suck at texting back usually. I am snatually active though

Me: I think an intervention will have to happen ;). I'd like your snapchat

Her: It wouldn't be the first attempt at an intervention. Add me up!!

Me: My interventions involve "extreme measures" ;). Permanent effects. Okay. Added

Her: I may take it into consideration but it'll be hard to break me

Me: Hmm a way to a womans heart. 1. chocolate 2. puppies. 3. ice cream. You'll break in no time


[b]She must have dated assholes...after that line...she opened up like magic..[/b]
double text!
her: so you want a way to my heart?
her:you're pretty much dead on though haha


Me: what can i say i understand women. And that was just the basics

Her:you sure about that ? you couldn't wrap your head around me working in construction so maybe i am not so basic. I
her: I am just messing. I do love the basic girly things but I am a rough country girl.

Me: I stated the basic needs of a woman. After that it's up to the girl to be complex. And you are turning out to be complex. Which I like and it's refreshing. So rough country as in mud wrestling?

She sent me a wall of text. She is investing. We want that.



Her: those are my wants, not my needs. And trust me I'm not that complex. I've never mud wrestled but I totally would. I mudding on atvs and fishing. I'd take a night of camping in the middle of no where on a lake over a sweaty packed club any day. And I'm pretty good at aiming a shotgun. But I can definitely get down on the dance floor...don't let me fool you there.

Me: I apologize for assuming. But this is how it works. You get to know me, and I get to know you. I look forward to it. And I totally love girls who can wield a gun ;).

Her : Haha no need to apologize. Just letting you know more about me. But my basic order is puppies, ice cream, then chocolate :)
her: i also have to apoligze in advance because i'm slightly concusseed and was pretty drunk Frday night so i can't remember some details we talked about.

Me: You're pretty interesting already, lol. You made me break my rule. and then whatever we talked about Friday night I am taking to the grave. I am glad you put puppies first. I love them.

Her: Lol what's your rule?

Me: I promised myself that I wouldn't take numbers from girls I meet in bars or clubs anymore. You were pretty cool, and you made me break it.

Her: I usually don't give my number to guys I meet in bars or clubs. So you clearly used to get a lot of girls numbers..i guess it is that charm.


Me: :) On that note I will text you tomorrow. Don't want to be tired to teach the little ones how to add and subtract. Goodnight cute stuff!

Her: Aw have fun! Goodnight charming.


I'll see her again soon enough.


Good convo. You really handled it well.

Are you still living with your ex? What are some of the reasons you think you may be feeling down?



Someone mentioned that I have not been living up to my name. And I have been doing some reflecting and asking myself questions. I read a book on Assertiveness and have been refreshing/practicing the techniques in it the past few days. I feel better. I also know I have image issues, which can be cured through working out and eating right. I understand that I have been allowing my ex to make me feel uncomfortable in my own home. This is a main issue that I have to address. All this came to me today. I am glad it did. This means I can have a plan of attack.

My ex is supposedly moving out June, possibly the first week. Once she moves, I can probably have real clarity and reflect on the past months. Financial woes are also to blame. Stress is the main killer.

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Your image issues aren't going to be cured by working out and eating right. Your body might change, but your subconcious can be a real cunt. I'm not advising you to stop working out, but it sounds like you need to make peace with your imperfections and yourself. Strive to improve, but don't let your imperfections define who you are or how you feel. I know it's easier said than done, but it feels soooo fucking good when you can sit and realise that it's ok NOT to be perfect 100% of the time.

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My ex is supposedly moving out June, possibly the first week. Once she moves, I can probably have real clarity and reflect on the past months. Financial woes are also to blame. Stress is the main killer.


If the lease is up why don't you move out? To me, the place is a remnant of your past life with your ex. It almost feels to me like you don't *want* to move on, and that's part of the reason why you're trying so hard to stay there. I don't agree with the idea that it's YOUR place and that moving makes you "weak". Weak to who?

Pardon me if the above is a bit of a mind fuck, just think that that would be helpful for you to consider as well.


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Well there is a reason why I chose the name. That's how I want to live my life. And yeah, I'm aware I have to come to peace with that insecurity. It's the inner fat boy in me. I'll deal with him. I don't want to move because the location is pretty prime. Restaurants, bars, and a nice area. My lease isn't up until November, and I don't want a bad reference. She will move. This place doesn't have many bad memories for me to dwell on. We move into the apartment in November from a previous apartment and broke up December. So the only memories that were made were fights, but that's easy for me to forget once she's gone.

She was gone for a week and I thoroughly enjoyed the place to myself during that time. And today I have an interview schedule for a job so I'm crossing my fingers.

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Thanks Eddie.


Just an update. I lost the 32 year old, only slept with her a couple of times. I don't think we would fit, she told me had all these disorders...but it was for the best.

I just lost one of my main girls in my rotation. She has two kids and she has repeatedly given me Ultimatums. It's only been 5 months...so I thought it was ridiculous. Over time she started to grow on me...and I felt the ...oneitis...we got off the phone today and she told me how she felt. She said that she didn't like that I still had my online dating profile up, and that we were in two headspaces. She wanted to start a family in the near future and she said I wasn't making her a priority. I remarked that I was truly busy and don't have the energy to see her. I have told her that I try. I just said okay, I will see you later. I didn't feel like talking about feelings or explaining myself. I didn't want to compromise myself just to make her happy. I have things to work on and a house to maintain and she if she can't understand that, then I can't help her with her own problem.

If she comes back..great...if she doesn't, disappointing but I will understand.


I have been busy with work and trying to figure out the next few months so I haven't been gaming (except text)or going out lately. I have been avoiding doing too many things that require money since I still have to interview for my new jobs. I have two interviews next week, might make it three tomorrow. I only have money for rent.

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MINI BREAKTHROUGH



I have been so focused on seducing every girl I meet that I forget. Shit, having some of these girls as friends is actually a good thing! Some people gripe about the friend zone but honestly, what is the opposite? Being lonely and playing world of warcraft with your buds on a Saturday night.


I have thought about the years past and remember how some of these girl friends actually helped me get laid. Especially in college, all it took was "HEYYYYYY MR. AA!!!" at a party and the snowball effect occurred. I was meeting my friends friends and everyone thought I was a pimp. By being friends with hot girls, I gained status as a playboy fairly quickly. I value the women in my life that stayed as friends. Seducing girls and fucking them is nice and all, but living a life where you can easily call up one of your girlfriends and they invite you to girls night...makes a world of difference on the way your night goes.

For example,

I went out one night with three girls, and i was the only man in the group. EVERYONE, at the two bars we went to took notice, no man approached us. But all the girls were wondering who the fuck I was. One man even came up to me and was like "ah, you're a pimp" I just thanked him and sent him on his way, I would have let him join if it wasn't for the three girls already giving him the cold shoulder. His approach wasn't the greatest, but I was polite.

I danced with all three chicks. I literally took one after the other...it felt great. This made number closing easy on one of my targets (we went to college together, but she was at the time, "out of my league", easier.

Another :

I even remember the hottest one of the group (mother hen) won her ass over and her friends were easy pickings. I even remember one night she turned to me and was "aren't you glad I brought some friends over ;)" ...holy shitola.

For those in the friend zone...don't worry about it. Be cool, it might change over time, but you can easily get to know this girl and she will become a wingman/social proof. Nothing beats that. Sure, you won't fuck her(never say never), but she will be beneficial to your game. Surrounding your life with women will include women as friends, like it or not. But that is okay, the more you're in the company of women, the better off you really are. Embrace the friendzone...embrace friendzoning girls once you reach a certain level! Some girls will surprise you with who they know and what they know.

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I have set two dates up for Thursday and Friday. Two different girls. I will post the report later. If they don't flake ;0


Some goals I have set up recently (I read the inner game sticky here and that helped alot) are free from the desire to impress others. I don't want to set goals up to impress society and I don't want to set goals to impress PUA. Here they are.

I’d like to be fit. Not super ripped but fit. I want to have be able to like myself shirtless.
I would like to find the one girl that is in line with my values
I would like to live a comfortable lifestyle. Exciting is an option.
I want to give back to my family
Be a leader and not whine about it (like hey bro, go pick those girls up or even in my daily life)


The woman I want

I want my woman to be
Intelligent and open to learn new things
Funny
Herself
Independent
Affectionate
Charming
Loving


Identity:


The man I want to be

I like to be the guy that speaks in a calm manner. He needs to sound in control and there should be no stutter. How we would respond to situations, would be by being calm and assertive. This man doesn’t lose his cool. His walk is carefree, it says “I am cool calm and collected”. He dresses well, he wears what he wants and is comfortable in his own skin. His outlook on life is positive, very positive.


I talked with one of my lady friends who is around the age of 29. She helped me come up with this with her prodding of what I was looking for .


My mindset when a girl asks what I am looking for.

To find like minded individuals. Hook ups are boring for me now, but they never hurt. I am not going to say relationship either because that puts incessant pressure on something that should evolve naturally.

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I went out on a date with a Hb7 from online. She was ight. I knew I wouldn't fall head over heels with this girl.


I made sure she came and parked her car in front of my house. She first objected to this but I just teased her that I left the ducktape and rope at my job, so she is fine. I took her to the waterfront in my car but I had a plan B because it was kind of chilly out. I actually was glad we went to the waterfront, the city had added new areas to it where I saw the potential for bringing some dates down there. There were good spots for me to escalate. I was iffy escalating for some reason. There has been an underlying issue that I addressed with the inner game stuff in my last post. I also didn't really want to lead this girl on. She was like fodder to me. We did the comfort thing, the attraction was there. Too easy, too boring for me.


So we went to plan B, and went back around my area to a bar. We did more comfort and shit. We eventually got to talking to about sexual experiences and I did myself a favor by visiting a bar where the locals know me. I did not get ID by the bartender and I just said hey like she was an old friend. Girls at the bar were very curious about me, why was the girl I with so enthralled by me. I saw a couple of glances. It still amazes me what pre-selection can do for you. She was so into me that we basically created a little bubble. Now I have a problem with escalating at a bar which I have to overcome, I don't like putting a show and people do more harm than good by saying things like "ah look at that player", or "he's getting laid tonight". Just unnecessary in my opinion or maybe I just care too much about that shit.


So, we had a couple drinks, I knew that I had done enough attraction and investment and took her back around my house. I made up something about her meeting my dog and she agreed to go inside. I built some more comfort and an atmosphere where I wouldn't pressure for sex, and escalated to a point where I decided to let her go. She gave me objection "maybe I should slow you down and not leave you with unfinished business", MAYBE I could have still went further, but I was like eh, whatever, and sent her on her way.


I texted her later that night and she sent me a picture of her ass in some pretty black lingerie. She got a nice little tush for a white girl. She kinda tried to spin the whole shit on me by qualifying me if I was a great lover. I just said find out. And she is SO SILLY, she tried to be like "maybe after you buy me dinner first"

I laughed at that text and didn't respond. She isn't that hot. Relax.

And also today, one of my girls who's been giving me the ultimatums of taking down my online profile and stop dating other chicks sent me this today after going no contact. She is ALSO SILLY. I ain't got time for that. Then she sent me a text like this "i'm assuming you're ignoring me. But instead of being mad, ill just say i wanted to kind of say goodbye and i do miss you. Sorry things couldn't be different"

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Mr. Assertive wrote:
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I have been so focused on seducing every girl I meet that I forget. Shit, having some of these girls as friends is actually a good thing! Some people gripe about the friend zone but honestly, what is the opposite? Being lonely and playing world of warcraft with your buds on a Saturday night.


I have thought about the years past and remember how some of these girl friends actually helped me get laid. Especially in college, all it took was "HEYYYYYY MR. AA!!!" at a party and the snowball effect occurred. I was meeting my friends friends and everyone thought I was a pimp. By being friends with hot girls, I gained status as a playboy fairly quickly. I value the women in my life that stayed as friends. Seducing girls and fucking them is nice and all, but living a life where you can easily call up one of your girlfriends and they invite you to girls night...makes a world of difference on the way your night goes.

For example,

I went out one night with three girls, and i was the only man in the group. EVERYONE, at the two bars we went to took notice, no man approached us. But all the girls were wondering who the fuck I was. One man even came up to me and was like "ah, you're a pimp" I just thanked him and sent him on his way, I would have let him join if it wasn't for the three girls already giving him the cold shoulder. His approach wasn't the greatest, but I was polite.

I danced with all three chicks. I literally took one after the other...it felt great. This made number closing easy on one of my targets (we went to college together, but she was at the time, "out of my league", easier.

Another :

I even remember the hottest one of the group (mother hen) won her ass over and her friends were easy pickings. I even remember one night she turned to me and was "aren't you glad I brought some friends over ;)" ...holy shitola.

For those in the friend zone...don't worry about it. Be cool, it might change over time, but you can easily get to know this girl and she will become a wingman/social proof. Nothing beats that. Sure, you won't fuck her(never say never), but she will be beneficial to your game. Surrounding your life with women will include women as friends, like it or not. But that is okay, the more you're in the company of women, the better off you really are. Embrace the friendzone...embrace friendzoning girls once you reach a certain level! Some girls will surprise you with who they know and what they know.


The power of social circle is criminally underestimated in "PUA" circles.

Guys should be putting in as much, if not more, effort into social circle game as they do cold approach. It's simply something that isn't emphasized enough.

At the moment I've actually been trying to build a good social circle - mainly because I've moved back in with my extremely religious parents and lay opportunities are limited. Funny enough, I'm having a problem with girls I'm trying to bring in as "just friends" - if we're not having sex they don't seem to be interested in hanging out much! Yes women are as shallow as guys, they want theirs too, believe me


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I F- Closed a chick just an hour ago, in my home...not a bad lay.

She was a plenty of fish woman, age 30. I've been racking up the milfs lately...don't mind at all. LOL.

Here is how it went

This woman has been texting me the last few days, she has been reiniating and been double texting, and I've been busy and this turned me off. Today, I was like what the heck, sent her an invite to have a couple of glasses of wine on my porch at 11 oclock at night. Perfect. So, i texted her the addy and she came within 20 minutes. I took the two glasses and the bottle of wine and led her through the house to the back door. I told her to help herself to some wine and I was in control, no anxiety, this was my home field.


The damn dog was annoying the shit out of my guest. The dog never received proper training because my ex didn't want to go through the process of training her...she thought she would grow out of her bad behavior LOL. Once they move out next week, I won't have the dog to state break my damn seduction. So I spent a few minutes showing the dog who is boss, and eventually the dog buzzed off and let me do my damn thing. I quickly went into rapport since I knew attraction was there and there was no need for me to bust her balls. All I needed to do was make her feel comfortable. We talked about where she was from and her childhood. She revealed she had a thing for hispanic men since she was in kindergarden :twisted:

Green light, and more green lights. So we talked for 10 minutes, and I went in for the kiss. We made out for a little but I made sure to end it and go back to a little bit more comfort building. Eventually, I led her back into the house and onto the couch where we made out some more. And here comes the damn dog, I was getting a little ticked so I had to once again show the dog who was boss and leave us alone. I got to say, I kind of like the dog doing that, gave me an excuse to lead the woman into the room with the bed :wink: .

So more makeout ensues, I address more comfort issues and she gives me the whole period spiel. I asked how heavy was it and she said not too bad. I did the LMR resistance tactic of saying "if we aren't comfortable doing something that is okay. We are both adults" She liked that. I kept prodding a little and asked if she has ever done it on her period. She replied that she didn't want to be embarassed which i quickly snipped in the bud. I also assured her that there was a reason I asked if it was heavy.


After that, case closed.


I have another date tomorrow around the same time. Lets see if I can close this one in the same fashion :D . I am kind of glad I found a little formula for my apartment. Just wine at my place, talk about interesting things, lead her back into the house, don't go straight to the bedroom, build some comfort and seduce and seduce some more. LMR is expected since it is a same night lay...but put any man one on one in a situation like that and I am sure anyone can close if they are a decent seducer.

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Done with another date as I write this.


Man, my porch is doing wonders for me and the full moon is helping me out... I didn't f close this chick nor did I k close :((((, but that is okay, I expected to move a little slower with this hb 8 since she is a mother of one who just got out of a relationship with a dude who was on casual encounters on craiglist.

Excuse me, I may be a little tipsy. So I invited her out as soon as I could, she works at a mexican restaurant as a hostess so that helps me in my social game. I have plans to use that to my advantage. The date started at 11 oclock, she came and we went straight to my back porch. My ex girlfriend was in the house and so was the dog so I wanted to avoid those state breaks. I knew i had to build rapport since attraction was there but needed to be built on. I started out the date with a hug and led her to my porch.

From there I suggested either liquor or wine and for her to help herself. She def was a cutie. She chose the wine and I said fuck it and chose liquor. We talked about horoscopes and astrology for awhile. I knew our horoscopes signs were incompatible as LTR but compatible sexually, but I asked anyway. She deemed herself as a expert on horoscopes...I tested that theory. She read about our signs and how we weren't meant to be in the long run and i took advantage and increased attraction using that. Told her to get off my porch in a playfuil way, and she liked it. Obviously she couldn't get drunk since she had to pick her son up in 7 hours. It's okay, I kept the comfort, we talked about how her last relationship ended up with the guy being on casual encounters, a.k.a baby daddy, but I changed the subject quickly and asked her about her goals and aspirations now that she has a kid.

An abrupt change in conversation but I pulled it off. She told she wanted to be traveling with a mobile home to which i rolled my eyes inside my head. I gave her a compliment on it. Then I addressed how she is a mother and how hard it is to be out and about now that she has a child. I have dated mothers and understand the plight...I knew i COULD hit an emotional cord. She was very open to any conversational topic I brought out, I liked the way she made me feel at ease. Very easy comfort building. I still kept throwing disqualifiers her way to keep attraction up and me away from the dreaded friend zone.


I have noticed that i have a problem going for the kiss close until the last minute. I have to work on it. I asked for a hug when it was time to go. We both had to get up in the morning...so I didn't fight it. I went in for the kiss about three times but I displayed such non neediness that I brushed it off and we walked to her car. Once again I asked for the hug and goodbye and playfully went in for the kiss as a joke to which she took well. She said she doesn't do it on the first date.

K.

As I was walking away she commented she was happy I had her over to which i said "my pleasure".


I think I will be seeing this woman again soon.

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