Hey thanks BB, it's good to know I'm not the only one walking this road.
So I haven't posted in a while. As everyone in the U.S. knows we had a super cold snap so I haven't been going to the park after work as no one has been there. I did got to the mall once, I think NYE, I was at a job interview so I figured it was a good time to swing by.
I was nervous walking in there, and didn't say hi or anything to anyone for like 10 min. Finally started saying hi to employees, old ladies, families, etc. After this I started saying hello to groups of girls. I have found that you'll get an initial eye contact from a distance and it seems best to say something at that point. On this particular day I hadn't come to this realization yet, so many times I would say hi I think too late and we've already passed. Later I talked to a a girl working there, she was a solid 9. Seemed like a really good convo. and I should have just asked for her number but I chickened out and instead asked about making a purchase there and if she was always working there or some crap like that. After that I continued saying hi to people and felt much better.
I have been to the park twice after work since my last post. Both times it's really hard to start out, I pass many people I want to say hi to at first but think of a reason not to. Both times eventually I warm up. The first of these two days was a Sunday and after leaving the park I see two girls and a guy running across a crosswalk. I yelled "you made it" and was smiling and the hot one, I'd say an 8 with a great body, turned and gave me a huge smile. I should have called her over or told her to wait or something, but I didn't. After this I crossed the street and there was a girl, kinda cute but only a 5. Anyway I'm talking to anyone so I start talking to her, and we walked and talked for like 50 feet then we came to my car. I asked her where she was going and she was like "to my car there". I said "ok bye then" and she walked off and I decided to say some more stuff to her. I was like "hey I work over here at this pub, come in sometime" and she started walking back towards me. She came all the way back to where I could have touched her, I think I might have. But I just got her name and was like "bye" so she left. I'm certain I could have talked her into goin g and grabbing a drink with me. Anyway the thing I noticed here is girls will show some interest, then always sort of try to leave or walk away from you, but really it seems they're just seeing if you'll pursue them. Anyway I felt good about these two interactions but I think I should have taken them both further. Next time I'm at the park I'm walking around and finally get warmed up. I passed a restaurant near there and I'm getting great eye contact with a dark haired girl sitting at a table with two other girls, they're all 7-8 range. The one girl who is facing me is smiling so big her friend who is facing her turns around and looks at me. I smile at all of them and give a very warm "hello" and they all say hello. Then I see a couple I know and talk to them by the entrance. I should have went into the restaurant and opened the set, but I didn't.
So I feel like I'm making progress but I can't seem to take the next step and at least actually stop and chat with more girls and go ahead and ask one for her number. In the meantime I still go out on the weekends I guess because I'm bored. I don't have much success. If I do get laid at the bars it's because a girl picks me out and I'd say this happens at the most once every 15-20 times I go out. I have a really hard time approaching attractive girls, but every once in a while I do, usually if I have a good buzz going. However it rarely goes anywhere and usually I say something stupid, like many times I'm trying to neg her but I'm not subtle at all and end up just coming across as a dick. Still I've definitely made more approaches then I used too. But, I think I need to focus more on the daygame at the park and similar places as going out and drinking is messing up the rest of my life because I'm sleeping too much and always late to work, etc. I still want to work on my night time skills as well but I think I need a small break and I need to cut way back on the drinking.
Alright that's it for now. In the future I think this is going to take a lot more work and dedication on my part. I need to start posting here everyday and do something to work on my game every single day. It's hard though as I'm looking to change careers, I have a job currently, I work out every day and I have animals to take care of. But, everyone knows nothing good comes easy. So I think a good place to start is to make at least a small post every day. That's a new goal.
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