First, i will tell a little bit about myself.
Just call me Jing, i'm 24, an asia. My family doesn't too much rich, but since i'm the youngest child ( i have sis and bro). Also, follow the Physiognomy, when i'm born, my family will be rich. It happen and you can image how much my family treasure me, have people take me school and home ,my clothes are bought by my mom, cook, take care me, not let me do anything
. It is good but it also make me incapability to do anything. As a result, i'm very weak at social skill and become a introverted person. A pathetic loser who hang out with his laptop everyday.Secondly, why am i come here ?
Well, you know, i'm the type of tradition people who believe in true love, as long you love someone with your whole heart, your love can be return or sth like that blah blah. As result, until now, i'm only like 2 girls and serious hitting on them. First one when i'm around 20, approach but no result, chase skirt for 2 years (chat, meet at school) so i give up, even without confession, such a loser. That time, i just think, maybe she doesn't cut out for me, first love maybe just an illusion, it is never permanent, so i will forget her soon and move on.
Later, around summer this year, i meet another girl i really love. Ask her to hang out, confession, playful and in the end, she just straight out: I'm like you, but I'm only saw you like my friend, i don't have any feeling for you.
I don't fucking know why, i love her with my entire heart, what i am doing wrong. I'm not perfect man, but i don't go to bar, no smoke, no beer, no gamble, take care and stay with her in the time she needs. Clueless, i run, run away with smoke and wine, to forget. Now look around my life, a pathetic guy who already 24, no job, no gf, no social, only laptop is friend. I have enough of this shit so i'm move on and try to find answer, What i am learn:
1) "Basically, giving her gift, make sure that she know you like her blah blah. That will create pressure on her to be nice back and it didn't create attraction, a chance to develop because ... attraction is develop in free pressure environment.
Attraction isn't conscious thing she decides on. It just happen, after that she will notice it and call it attraction.
If she feel she need to be nice to you--> powerful social mechanism happen (somebody nice to you, you automatically nice back to them or you will feel the pressure to be nice back to them). That's explain pretty much why nice guy never can create attraction and falling for girl like bad boy, jerk."
2)From the game by Neil Strauss, even Lisa love him now, but if he didn't know PUA, she still choose him or at least he had his chance with her --> true love don't exit in first place, just interesting, curious, you build "true love".
3) PUA is not just about hit on girl, it is also improve yourself ( i mean i can talk,confident ,attractive, social with any people, not only girl)
Practice for the journey :
- Confession to the first girl and let her reject. After read 3 article from Chief :“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” From now on, i don't want regret anything. So any regret in my heat should be clear
- Do the newbie mission from chief
Specially thank Chief for this quote : “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” Maybe now, i'm just a chump, wim , a pussy cat, but i believe that someday in the future, through leave the comfortable zone, i will become a lion, not the physical but mentally
. Now i try to not think about result, just actSome question linger on my mind
You must be a jerk in order to get a girl? That lead me to this forum, find out the answer and complete change myself.
Should you say hi even people don't look at you? In my country, people, especially girl, don't like to look at stranger eye so thier eye mostly toward the earth or someplace else around.
If you have some tips or advices, I'm all ears.