Kasabi the interesting thing was just before my last post I was getting frustrated with not being able to sell my date ideas, to that girl I was commuting with and was going to use this journal to practice and have some ammunition for great places to go/suggest. It's good to know I was on the right track, admittedly may not have written it like this, but here it goes.
I just let this flowed without edit only grammar and spelling, going to write about some bars that I personally like:
- Covent Garden is the most touristy part of London, and you'll be lucky to actually find somewhere that makes you feel like you're not back home in [insert her country] and that you are in fact in the UK, but experiencing different culture is vital obviously. There's always one place I go where it actually makes me forget where I am, Henry's has a really nice laid out bar and the booths are so amazingly comfy - great for privacy too. But that's not the best part they have this cocktail bar right at the back at the bottom of a set of stairs that belong in a glamorous mansion, the guy there makes a killer [insert her drink of choice] and I could drink those all day...that's probably why I always forget I'm in covent garden!
- I love living in Camden, it has so much history. Coming here was daunting at first because it's so busy, but once you know some great places to go it really lives up to the expectation you're given. There's this one bar that claims it's the oldest in Camden, but I think they all do that... It looks a little shabby on the outside and but once you get in the vibes pretty cool, it's a great place for a weekend, on a Sunday they have this open mic night in the upstairs part, it's really close and personal so it's great to get into the music and see musicians trying out some new songs for the first time, I even did a couple of songs up there.
- I've been searching for the best burger in London for a long time and I think I found it at this one place the Blues Kitchen. The place does great food but if you stick around it gets even better at night, if you've ever wondered what it would be like in the "good old days" to dance to a live band that plays a bit of rock'n'roll and you can get your jive on then this is place; some people actually dance like they're in pulp fiction...I think you'll know where I'll be spending my whole saturday this weekend, want to join me?
- There's a place in Kentish Town right next to the tube, and it's one of the homeliest places I've been, I could happily put my feet up all day there. I got talking to the manager in there, as the ceiling reminded me of one those old gin joints with a big saloon bar, and he was telling me all about how he bought the place 3 years ago and it was shit heap, you couldn't say that now. It's got all these pictures of Che Guevara on the wall, and it's a pretty communist place when you really start looking at the decor, what's funny is it attracts all these elitist looking regulars because it's so fancy, and when you compare a pint of beer to a bottle of champagne on the menu, that's how you know he's into spreading the wealth and is communist at heart. So let's grab a cheap beer on the rich this weekend, I bet you've always wanted to feel like Robin hood.
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Some are so delusional, that they actually believe in their own make-believe drama. The only reason that these people go along with the charade it is so that they can play their "roles" within their social structure so that they can fit in and live out their lives not having once made ONE DECISION for themselves. Ever wonder why political beliefs are so socio-geo-cultural specific? An entire town believes in certain political policies while 300 miles a way, another whole town believes the opposite.... do you REALLY think that any of those individuals have an opinion? They'll spend the rest of their lives thinking that their thoughts were there own. This is all for self survival. This is how desperate we have become.
2. This is why it's so easy, but comically sad, to derail somebody's belief system ... It's because they never believed in anything in the first place. Essentially, we are a bunch of reptilian brained lizards, swaying our souls one way or another day to day, just so we can get a 'pellet' of acceptance from those around us. If you figure out the realities of 1 and 2, figuring out some little ditzy girl at a bar is practically a joke.
This is really interesting and a discussion I'd like to take further. I see characteristics in people where I tend to be accurate in guessing exactly how they'll act or where they fit-in in society. I moved town a lot in the past few years and moved to London last year, and doing this I've seen the shift in those cultural beliefs from one town to the next, I've always just let those people be as they are, with their somewhat limited beliefs and mindset, the funny thing is they actually believe that you think the same as them too; at least in my experience, but it doesn't matter who's wrong or right - I guess this is what you mean when you can derail someone's belief system quite easily. I guess this where the reptilian lizard brain comes in, the ones that need the same routine everyday, the ones that drink the beer from the same pump every friday night and subsequently piss in the same urinal and get completely paralysed by the thought of going to the bar next door, but they don't know that they're scared of this change, they just rationalise to themselves that because they've never been "it's shit." The thought of going back to work on Monday is crippling for them, but deep down they love it because it will be exactly the
same, this routine lasts 5 years before they eventually pull their head out their arse and ask themselves "what ever happened to going to Australia for 6 months?". This is exactly where I used to live.
What's going on now
That girl I hooked up with came with her friend on Sunday last week for a double date with my SPAM and myself, we had a few beers at a pub then we came back to mine and I cooked for everyone. She went home, but kissed me on the way out. This was so much trouble to meet up with her, she cancelled twice on me meeting up and then the third I just made do with the double date scenario. I suggested meeting on tuesday this week and she never got back to me, so I didn't contact her after assuming she wasn't interested... then my SPAM saw her Friday and she told him she felt bad for not getting back to me, and that all she wanted to do was just sit down and chat with me - essentially what I've been TRYING to do all along since we hooked up. She sent me a sincere apology on friday and suggested a mid week drink so we might be going out this Wednesday.
So something that I thought was dead and buried, which I held my hands up to doing the whole PU process wrong and admitted defeat and decided to move on.The girl I commuted with who said she'd text me about meeting up actually did, but a week late... we've been in contact and we've been texting the past week on and off. It's been really nice but by what's she's saying it sounds like she's been seeing someone else... Stopping off in Bristol on her week off, didn't mention what she was up to precisely and this weekend she's being 'whisked off away for the weekend', and they're paying for it from what I could make out from her words.
The thing is, she remembers a lot about me and really wanted to know about certain details like a social enterprise project I have received funding for (it joins both of our interests in psychology). By the sounds of this guy she's seeing he must be pretty wealthy if he can afford to do that, one thing I can comment on is and my own belief but money is just a peripheral to a real person, one of my strengths is the excitement and good vibes I can create when I'm with her because I know from her texts she was enjoying it and laughing at her phone (she actually told me this). That's my strength really, and what I believe it comes down to at the basic level: I'm a boy, she's a girl, I can make her smile, I can make laugh, what else is there in this world?
We'll see what happens.