DATE WRITTEN : 16/8
Legal age in my country is 16 and I'm 20 so don't get offended if I mention someone under 18.
Have been approaching, just not active here. Can't exactly remember everything as written at a later date.
The week before this I got alot of numbers which were flakes etc. I ended up going out around 10/8 after I had been frustrated from too much time working and not enough time to myself / going out.
Was microwaving lunch, girl was next to me and we chatted. She joined me. (I was thinking -- are you gonna join me or go? If you're gonna go hurry up so I can go and game ... Lol what a silly mindset)
I felt a little infatuated with her. She said to meet up for coffee next Monday. Never showed up. Exchange girl.
I remember leaving choir and walking towards the library to take a nap. I was incredibly hazy. I started talking to two chicks at a table and we had a 20 minute discussion about how my game was bad, I seemed slightly creepy and transparent and should be more interesting. And how I'm in a bar but I don't drink. LOL. They did say I was confident though.
In my defence I was incredibly tired but also I am probably not being honest enough with myself and some of the girls I approach. One suggested "Emotional Intelligence" as a read. After I left I went to the library and remembered to check out the book (5 minutes later lol) reserved it. Tried to sleep couldn't. Started driving home, U-turned and went out.
#3 Asked to join a group of girls in bar. They declined
I went outside and stood awkwardly for 20 minutes. I wasn't disappointed by the earlier approach; but I was really in my head trying to figure out what my behaviour was like. I stood awkwardly for 15 minutes alone outside.
#4 Back inside and photo-bombed 2 blondes that I noticed earlier. Perfect timing and I find myself getting into situations/groups not really knowing how it really happened haha. Guess it's become effortless. I say it takes more effort not to approach.
Talked to them, kino-ed early on, within about 20-30 minutes I was having my hand on girls thigh going up and town. Close to her pussy. And still maintaining a normal conversation with them both.
They told me they were 30/31 and figured out I was 20. I think that turned them off; even though I believe I should always play things to my advantage. I'm considering just lying in that case; I haven't really tried this before. Otherwise I don't lie.
Some part of me died inside as I was questioning whether I'd really like to hook up with (either of) these girls. I lost my game. I don't know why I get these self doubt ESPECIALLY when things are close to set-up. I dunno; I noticed as the girls were agreeing to move on, the one I was feeling up started going on about "I'm not pretty enough, I don't know if "X guy" we're gonna be seeing will like me. So on. I also didn't find them super - interesting (fit bodies though!). Next time round I will FOLLOW through and COMMIT and pull anyway. At this stage in my career, it's necessary
I went to the next bar with them but then left. Tired from the last night. Preparing for an early morning. And pissed off as soon as I left for not committing. There's a 1+% chance I might get in touch with this girl if I organise a gym sesh. Haha
Saturday. Went to olympic lifting. Saw the same girl from last week (who I'd previously meet at University once) and we were in the class. We then worked out. She has a mean ass and she's cool. After our gym sesh I noticed I was a little needy saying " I know you're busy but I'll say it to you again I'd love to hang out" ... I guess I was felt pressured to organise a date or something since she's only her the trimester. I feel I killed the vibe a little.
Note to self : being wasted from a gym session, having a long day or being incredibly tired DOES NOT excuse me from bad game. I could've slowed down my words as I was breathing hard after the gym.
#1 French girl I approached at university a week ago. I invited her out. We had a smoothie and I paid for hers. She gave me some money. It was more of a friendly vibe. I invited her to salsa tomorrow. Nothing.
Went to a party and didn't really talk to many people except one chick -- I didn't really click with the people -- I had met months ago and kissed briefly. I suggested she come to the next party with me but she declined. The next day I invited her to meet me but she said she was leaving (back home) the next day. Meh. I maybe should've escalated the night before and made her want me badly.
Went to the next party, rocked up to the door and I get addressed "it's the guy from the gym" and they starting raging on for 5 minutes about how awesome my lifts are. Some people that I didn't even know. TBH I liked the attention, later offered some weed so we could blaze together. We went for a drive and they forgot the piece. Blah. Drove back and climbed the window back in (everyone left). It was a nice buzz, and I guess I established a bit of a connection with some of them. Walked through town to a club and I fucking hated it, the guys were more off on their own buzz and talking to people they knew, the music wasn't my style and I left.
It was fucking funny we saw some guy getting sucked off next to a closed shop on the second busiest street lol.
Started walking to my car, tagged along with some French travelling chicks and asked them to invite me over to theirs. They declined but offered to drive me home. I said I was just nearby so I could walk but something lead me into their van and they drove me around for a few minutes before home. I invited them to salsa. Never saw them. It was a funny experience being slightly high.
No approaches except for 1 older lady during the day I met outside a store that said "Thanks but I'm old and married" ha.
#1 Noticed chicks. Came back 10 minutes later dressed and walked into the restaurant. Starting hitting on them told them they were good looking. I sat for like 30 seconds thinking "god this is fucked" and left, was getting bad vibes. Decided to go for a walk along the waterfront and hopefully meet some babes.
I should've at least walked past the window when I came back and waved so they would've noticed me. But whatever.
My energy was excessively high coming into the set and I feel like I should've just slowed down a little and internalised things when I walked in.
#2 Guy + girls. They are 16/17. Turns out I know the guys mom and I knew a few things about him. We hung out and I got some cool vibes off him even though he was younger. One of the girls seemed to like me and asked to stay in contact. I am trying to arrange a meeting either as a group of 4 or with the girl alone. They are in school and girls are exchange students so they probably have BS rules haha.
#3 Met girl at Salsa, danced a few dances and asked for her number to go for coffee at University sometime this week. She accepted; but afterwards I could see her vibe declining. Replied next day saying disinterested.
A girl from choir came along briefly to salsa. After inviting dozens of people someone fucking showed up. yay!!!!!!!!!! I was so stoked
#4 Danced with another chick at salsa, 17. Baby lol. She was hawt and athletic looking. No close.
#5 bad approach. I've been accepting recently that it's uncool and a waste of effort to cross the street or walk around a girl to get a glance at her and check her out. I'd still cross the street if I saw that she was a babe; but I feel like I give out bad vibes when I go to all this effort JUST to check someone out.
#1 met up for coffee at university with a girl I met a few weeks ago, we played scrabble and I was intensely focused on the game. Not really focused on hooking up with her.
#2 agreed to meet a girl at noon, she didn't show up. No number or FB, she's foreign exchange. I'll probably bump into her. She was gorgeous.
#1 Moved my car, saw HB, walked a little faster to catch up, hit on her and she's married GG.
#2 Eating lunch notice HB, finish and go up to her, she's got an assignment due in 30 so she can't talk. Walk away.
Instincts kick in, didn't have the muscle memory for this situation; walked back and say "if you wanna talk we can meet at 5.05" haha.. next time : "hey lets catch up at 5.05 if ya like" or something slightly more commanding. Met up and got her number. Has a BF.
#3 girl at gym, talked to her briefly; asked her for lunch and got her number. Should be set up in a few days.. Wasn't too attracted to her but I may as well make some friends or take the chance
#1 Had lunch with girl #2 approach from yesterday. She's cute and nice. I won't try take it anywhere.
#1 Girl in hallway, walked next to her and signalled to her, hit on her. She tried to compliment me saying " I can't believe you ... " but I cut her off a few times xD she has a bf, I asked her for lunch but she declined as travel overseas, bf etc.
#2 Girl in carpark as I was going to UNI. I asked her which place she was looking for. Hit on her a little. She had to go and I suggested a meet up but she can't. Lasted a minute and I didn't really have anything much to offer to the set.
#3 Girl lying down studying. I was eating lunch and when I finished went up to her said hi and lay down facing her. Was trying to imitate some lines she was practising in another language. Seemed a little into me. Suggested instadate but she declined; so I awkwardly suggested another time haha. She gave me her number and I said bye. She later said bye again while I was standing with my friends.
I think the number is fake. I will be going to gymnastic gym and salsa tonight most likely.
There was a woman I danced with at salsa (9/8). I told her she was sexy after a few dances and that I'd like to go for a drink. She smiled and laughed but said she had an early morning and maybe another time. I feel like I *might've* fucked it up by trying to maintain an escalating, sexual touch too much after that. I need to remember to be myself
I dunno how it's gonna go tonight lul let's try.
My study has been REALLY unproductive lately. I haven't been practicing guitar. On the positive : GAME is improving. Lifts are soaring.
Other things : in some cases I've been ignoring people that I find a little fake. Like they say hi to me or smile when they walk passed at Uni, but when I see them elsewhere or text or whatever they don't seem interested or don't reply. My time is too valuable.
EDIT: (next day)
went gym, went to gym gym, then salsa. Ended up hanging for about an hour with the first girl I danced with. She was Austrian and leaving the next day. Sexy and intelligent. We talked a little, I had my hand around her back/neck; but she left with her friend, and was leaving the city the next day. I didn't bother trying to kiss her. I felt a little disappointed; it had all gone smoothly and we had said goodbyes and thanks for dancing etc then I pulled her in and said "Hey... I think your incredibly sexy, intelligent and just great. Thanks again" ... where maybe I feel I could've escalated verbally saying "hey, stay with me let's make this night special" or some other BS
I noticed I only escalated physically, I touched her chest, neck, face, hips (not titties haha) but not verbally at all. Perhaps I should consider this as the icing on the cake?
Anyway I was in a bad mood afterwards, a little disappointed; but mainly tired and felt like I hadn't gymed hard enough.