Posting from Campus giggity
Approached 2 today
Met up briefly with the 2nd girl for 15-20 minutes in the library later in the evening
How I could've improved : slightly more touching
She asked me how many girls I approach a week, 1? I said nah more like 2-3. *20-30* lmao
I asked her to play pool and go for a drink. She said can we do it another time when I'm not bogged down with assignments,
You see, in this situation I am tempted to insist at least for the reference experience.
What I could've said "Yeah that might be better, but it's more spontaneous if we do it now
Also when I teased her a little initially by calling her poor or something like that I probably should've
stuck to it instead of back down from the tease. I'll keep that in mind, though in the moment
I felt it was not a good tease.
Okay I bumped into another girl that I opened in her car at the supermarket last week.
Bumped into her at campus. We went for a walk. Turns out she has a daughter and is 9 years older than me.
Here's the interesting part : she kept analysing / commenting on my game, the first and only text she could back to me was if I do this often, etc.
Any then she keeps persisting. Success rate? Does it work?
At this point I'm like fuark this bitch : "yeah I had a date on campus yesterday and one the day before. And I got another girl's number this afternoon"
"So you're a player" "Yeah, what do you like about players"
Clearly she was getting off to the fact that I like to pick up, so I just went with it
When I put my arm around her etc she said "Smooth operator, is that one of your moves" and all that sorta shit.
So I just had to agree cause ignoring her clearly wasn't working.
She didn't let me have my arm around her since "I barely know you" but that changed soon enough. We went for a walk in the park, went on the swings
and sat down and made out after some physical escalation. She was aroused and so was I. There was a bathroom about 10 metres away, but with the lay out of the park (LOL that's a fucking pun)
I wasn't sure if it was actually a bathroom or not. I did say we should go back to yours but no go.
What I could've done
I could've pushed the kissing a little harder and been much more in her private parts. I touched her ass and breasts etc, but had I been sure that was a bathroom
I would've ramped it up hard and led her in for sex.
Trusted my intuition to know that indeed it was a bathroom. I'd been to that park a few times before so I'm sure in dat subcon. mind of mine I knew it was actually a bathroom!
I notice I am pretty non-needy 98% of the time, but when I say the goodbye or the "I would love to see you again" and then I add in another line or two...
Yeah I notice in these moments I am expressing myself, but just in that situation, I feel I have invested xyz effort / x amount of time into the interaction and I FEEL
or EXPECT that she should meet up with me again. I feel like solidifying that close could take me to another level beyond "Cruise level"
I feel being a bit more chill or lax about it in these last few moments would be beneficial. What I say doesn't really matter, just where I come from.
What I did well
It was good to see me communicating and getting to know a woman from a different walk of life. She told me how she was getting a fake tan, wanted fake boobs eventually
and even how she was an ex-druggie. She seemed really sweet on the inside thus I was willing to get to know her a little more, plus for casual stuff, it doesn't matter
too much what she's like anyway.
It was good of me to keep persisting
After she said she needed to leave, we got up and I pulled her into the bathroom, but she said "no" and let go of my hand. It was great of me to attempt this and I realised
had I done it at the right time I *probably* could've gotten it. Eh self-doubt
Sexual talk. For example I said "What is your favourite position", she said something where you can look at each other in the eyes. That was quite cute
I actually like that
Later when I responded, I said "For me it's not really about positions. It's about the mood. Could be something quite kinky and dominant or perhaps something relaxed
and passionate. Something good would be if I held you and put you against the wall and then choked you, like this [demonstrated me putting my hand against my own throat],
then I could also look you in the eyes too
yeah that would be quite fun"
--> This stuff was a little out of my comfort zone, especially since I feel a little sexually inexperienced, but I'm sure I could pull that shit out effortlessly in the moment.
How I could improve
Getting her to open up a little more deeper would be pretty cool. I feel what used to be 'deep' like asking about desires ambitions etc is not digging deep enough now days, I feel like I have the potential to take it a slight
step further. I feel like having a hint more of a leading frame in creating more depth in the conversation, or sticking to one topic and exploring a subtle touch further would be wonderous.
She would share some slight insight to herself but I could see she would hold back a fair amount. I'm not sure if this is a reflection of how she viewed me --> maybe I wasn't opening as much as I could've, perhaps something to consider.
I notice most girls are more happy to share a bit more, so maybe it was just her. It doesn't fucking matter Salsifter. Report over/
On this note, one thing I felt I asked nicely is "what motivates you or what sort of life pushes you to keep clean" and I felt like I stayed with this topic pretty well for a short while. Good.
Also when she asked "How would you feel if I told you I was an escort" she was messing around with me, but I kinda fumbled a little there.
Dunno, I probably could be more congruent to my non-judgemental nature in this case, or seek to develop that belief a little.
She kept shit testing me like telling me she has some secrets / personal stuff and asked If I wanted to know. I said yes I'm curious but obviously it's quite personal
so I don't wanna push it out of you. And then she just seems to bait me into showing or proving myself... hmm
That was a bit of learning experience, cause now I can better distinguish positive traits for a potential girlfriend. Stuff like that, yeah nah not really keen to have that in gf.
YO : MAKE SOME FUCKING NICKNAMES FOR YO B*TCHES MAN