3/9 -- Saturday
French girl declined to come out to the 8pm gig, Vietnamese girl texted me. I quite liked French girl actually she was really sweet.
Went out around 730pm, met up with a friend briefly and listened to a busker. Went to a small gig. Listne to some Latin music. It was a tight bar, I wasn't really comfortable there. I went up to talk to one lady whom I thought was attractive, but by the time I had gotten to her I had discovered I didn't like her. It was kind of awkward. Afterwards I laughed it off and realised I've started to truly enjoy awkward situations as it gives me something to laugh about later and it really pushes me outside of my comfort zone.
Later on I walked around for a while and started chatting 2 girls sitting on a bench. We talked for maybe 15-30 minutes, I lost track of time. I got one of them to dance with me to Salsa music. She's leaving back for her city tomorrow evening, so If we meet up tomorrow I have to act fast. I'll try to arrange a quick small date and hopefully bring her back for an hour
I went to a bar. I got in got a soda water and chatted up some girls. No bullshit, no hesitation, just went for it. I didn't see any girls I was really into. I stayed for a while and got some awkward vibes, I suspect they just weren't too interested in me. I danced a little her and there and got one enthusiastic girl to come with me to the other side of the bar (outdoors) and chill on the bean bags. It was a simple point like a hook and grab her hand. No resistance. In future I need to make sure I do not break touch contact while leading in these situations; if I break for a second she might change her mind and return. We talked for a few minutes but it led no where.
I tried to teach her some Salsa moves. I noticed I caught 2 girls attention who were chilling on the bean bags so I started talking to them when she left. Turns out one of them recognised me. I messed around, talked, played some games; ultimately no where. I was horny for one of the chicks but I didn't seem to have pulling power.
Finally saw one attractive lady with her friends. I should've shot straight direct. I basically tapped her on the shoulder then grabbed her arms to check out her tattoos. Nothing happened.
Left the bar after 60-90 minutes as I was growing tired of it and my social mood was fading. I walked around for like 15 minutes then tried to talk to one or two more girls and it led no where. I stopped in McDonalds and bumped into an acquaintance who turns out he lives not too far from me. Then some old high school buddies came in and started yelling in their drunkenness. I fucking hated high school. Hopefully I can use this as an excuse to start something with one of the girls I liked at school.
I bumped into a lot of people I knew or recognised at the bar. Feelsgood lol. I'll definitely be going back their.
At this point it was about 12, 1230 so I headed home; I felt my night had been exhausted.
Problems I encountered : need more of a specific goal, it would encourage me automatically to approach more women than I did.
- The social mood fading and ending up wandering around trying to chill out. I need to find another place I like which has a good atmosphere, something that is chill for when I wanna feel chill, and maybe just other places if I feel I've exhausted my vibes in one. Also I need to work on my 'going out endurance' haha.
Other: Sometimes I feel like I die down my funness and get a little serious. I'll try lighten up
What I felt I did well : I had a lot of confidence which has been soaring recently in going up to women, like it felt really natural and often unplanned; my touch and my leading felt a lot clearer to myself.
Overall I felt pretty relaxed tonight, just a little worn out and yearning for a lady.
Fingers crossed with arranging a meeting with that one girl tomorrow, she was really lovely!
I chatted up a girl as she was leaving the gym. She was fucking hot and wearing tight shorts. She texted me her number. I said received.
She asked me how old I think
I said 16-18,
she's 17. you?
I said I'm 20.
Not too bad
Well it's not like I have a chance to improve it
"nah just rewind time to when you were 17 hahah"
so I only post this as I'm a little inexperienced at texting girls who appeared to be into you but haven't been sold into meeting up. I usually just texted a girl, hey, lets meet @ ... for ... ; texts of natures
Now at the time I had suggested we go for a workout next weekend, so she got my number. I guess I'll just leave it at that and message her in a week. I was simply wondering in these sort of situations how I would get her to want to meet up, weave it into the conversation.