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Epilogue, Conclusion:
Hi guys, it's been almost exactly one week since I first posted this field report.
And I will now conclude with a final update.
19 yo HB9/10, Val field report:
Val responded to my "hail mary" text but hasn't responded since. And I am perfectly fine with that. After my initial oneitis, I've downgraded her to HB8. Her head is a bit big for the size of her body. I made the mistake of thinking a girl is "special" or different. This one's only 19 y.o. How interesting could she possibly be, or how much value can a random 19 y.o. waitress really have?
Also, she mentioned money a few times during conversation and I think I got some "sugar baby" vibes from her. Regardless, it's over and I don't care. Moving on.
HB 8 Danielle:
On Thursday, I randomly texted HB8 Danielle a feeler text. She responded Friday morning. And we went on a date Saturday (yesterday) for brunch.
[A little background: Danielle is an acquaintance I'd met four months earlier. That is the only time I'd seen her until this recent date. She had come over to my house. A ton of interest and kino was demonstrated but I didn't f-close her that first time for reasons I won't get into. She had since turned radio silent and answered only sporadically. Regardless, I'd been sending her feeler texts once every two weeks. No results, until randomly this Saturday date.]
We decide to meet at my place. I have a joint and a red bull ready by the time she arrives. We share the joint sitting near each other and chat for a while. I convince her we should take my motorcycle to brunch place that is a long walk but a quick ride away (bait and switch). She enjoys the ride I can tell. It forces her to hold me tight with her thighs and hug my waist with her arms. And it forces her to feel my six-pack (we gotta work our strengths, fellas). Also, I hear that riding motorcycle makes women wet (that's what I heard).
When we get off bike she mentions that she recently made a boyfriend (are you kidding me????!!! these girls be crazy). I try to play it cool and change the subject, although there was a look of surprise on my face for a second. Inside the brunch place is exactly as I could have hoped for. Isolated table at corner of garden by water fountain. I steadily built comfort and DHV throughout meal. At one point I notice that she seems happy and relaxed, and has pulled her hair to one side of her head.
I have to say PUA Mystery is a genius. There is so much information out there on what is a sign that a woman is attracted. He's OG about homing in on perhaps the clearest sign: when a woman starts grooming herself. It is related to primate times and is subconscious. A woman can't help it. It WORKS EVERY TIME and is a clear indicator if she doesn't realize she's doing it.
My mistake was not escalating kino enough. PUA Chocolate is so right. Kino is so so so essential. We got back to my place and chattted more. I ran four questions-white room routine on her and she was very impressed. I then even ran cube test. That embedded the idea of sex twice into the conversation but she didn't bite. You can be the best talker in the world, but there's still gotta be kino escalation.
I should have had the balls to hold her knee or thigh during motorcycle ride. I should have not been self-conscious and gone for it when I could tell she was very relaxed.
Final Analysis:
First, Don't get oneitis and think a girl is "special" or different. Even if a girl is more intelligent or interesting than average, she will still respond to the PUA concepts in the same way as any other girl. It is hardwired. The fact is if you become AFC and treat her with oneitis she will not be attracted to you. Because how a girl responds to an AFC is the same for her as with any other girl. FYI, this concept was taken from another PUA, but I forgot who!
Second, perisistance does work. I will shamelessly and unapologetically send feeler texts to HB8 Val (not to the point of harrassment, obviously). Of course the texts can't be needy or it won't work. The plan is to send her a text once every 1-2 weeks for a few months. Honestly, if a girl doesn't clearly indicate disinterest (for whatever reason), you have every plausible deniability to send a feeler text.
Third Practice, practice, practice Kino escalation. It should be your main focus at all times during approach, first date, second date, etc. It should be natural and effortless. So practice it. I feel people get too caught up in routines and what to say, but kino is key if you want to f-close.
Fourth, some routines I thought of for kino escalation (but didn't use on time).
The idea is to turn any situation into a reason for escalating. My example is related to people who have a nice body (I am somewhat on the shorter side but have a nice body. gotta flex your strengths). HB8 D mentioned I have nice abs because she felt them during motorcycle ride. I should have immediately, without hesitation, flashed my abs and shown her my six-pack. This would raise sexual tension. And then it would give me an excuse for me to tell her to show me more of her body. It is a subconscious demonstration of attraction when a woman shows you more skin (i.e. by moving her hair to one side and showing neck, taking off jacket, flashing her midriff, etc.).
The second idea I have is not original, but I want to make it my own. I am good at giving massages. HB8 D mentioned she wanted a massage four months ago (but I didn't remember on time). My routine is next time a girl is sitting relaxed on my couch, I will find ANY REASON to make it natural for me to give her a shoulder massage. I might do a body posture read and if I notice she has tight shoulders I'll ask her if she has some stress in her life causing shoulder tension (Yes). And then I'll ask does she like shoulder massages (Yes). And then "I've been told I'm good at giving massages, do you want me to massage your shoulders?" (Money).
Inner Game
B*tches will be b*tches, and of course PUA's are more interested in inner game than chasing after one particular girl.
The practice and experience I got this week made me make a few decisions about myself. First, I've decided that my time is valuable and a girl should feel lucky to be with me. I will not try too hard to chase one girl. Ideally, she should be chasing me (which is the logic behind push-pull).
Finally, I will continue to practice an Abundance Mindset. For example, I will reject HB6's and below and an HB8+ who seems "crazy" and not emotionally worth it. That's just my taste; some people will have different criteria. The idea is that you won't be bothered if a woman doesn't respond the way you want her to because you you are aware of your own self value. Shit tests won't phase you. In fact, because of your mindset you will attract the type of women you do want because they sense you have standards and self-value.
PS. A blond HB8 at gym forced eye contact on me each time she walked by me at the gym earlier this week. When I had the guts to look back at her on my way out she smiled warmly. She seems cuter and better energy than girls earlier in field report. And she ain't broke and she drives a Lexus. Onto the next one....
PSS. Uhhh while I was typing this conclusion HB8 Danielle just texted me. She was radio silent since our date yesterday. But she invited me out tonight for drinks. And she'll have two guests, both of whom are girls. Ummm, yes. I have work early tomorrow morning....but yes.
End of field report.
I think Val looks like bit of a burn. If I were you I'd just wait until she reaches out to you. While I understand the point behind your feeler texts to her, I do think that if she IS interested, even tangentially, she will respond. I've been with lots of girls who I've heard give the whole "I'm bad with texting" bullshit but responded to ME quickly. If you're high on the priority list she WILL respond. if you're not then she won't. Let her message you. Give her some space to wonder what YOU are doing. Overtexting won't allow you to accomplish that.
The massage is a good idea, just to let it get too scripted. Again, she should already be familiar and ok with you and your touch. Touch early and often. That way when you bust out the massage you know how far to push things.