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 Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 6:40 pm Post subject: Facebook |
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| So I met this chick at a party the other night that has a bf. We talked a little and I am facebook friends with her. I posted "We look damn sexy in those pictures" the other day on her wall hoping to get a response so we could talk but got none. (we took a few pics together at the party) Todays her birthday and I want to post something else that may get a response. Any ideas? I really don't know her that well but I wanna hit on her cuz shes cute. She doesn't go to my school whihc sucks tho. Also her sn is in her profile but i think it might be sketchy to IM her. Thanks |
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xxIcexx
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 7:01 pm Post subject: |
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| send messages, not wall posts |
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Radar
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 7:48 pm Post subject: |
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| I would send a message but that might seem weird when everyone else posts on her wall. I need something to post on her wall so she will talk to me off facebook and on IM or something. Remember it's her birthday. However, once we talk offline I could seduce her with private messages I think |
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Rye Lee
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 7:55 pm Post subject: |
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| Radar wrote: | | I would send a message but that might seem weird when everyone else posts on her wall. I need something to post on her wall so she will talk to me off facebook and on IM or something. Remember it's her birthday. However, once we talk offline I could seduce her with private messages I think |
The PUA is the exception to the rule. Don't do what everyone else does. Just don't send her nervous unconfident messages asking for her attention, send her an alpha message that sends the message that you want to talk to her, but you're not gonna cry if she doesn't message you back. You're the prize. |
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bilbil85
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 8:22 pm Post subject: |
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| Quote: | | I posted "We look damn sexy in those pictures" the other day on her wall hoping to get a response so we could talk but got none. |
Radar take a look at what you said right there. Before anything, just
remember whats done is done and consider it practice for next time. But what you said seems somewhat AFCish, almost like you are beggin for her attention. In her eyes that probably looks like "Oh you look so good, please sleep with me. Please give me attention." Now nothing wrong with acknowledging a girl looks good, but neg her afterwards. Plus she has a boyfriend, fly under the radar (no pun intendid). Remember be the cocky, confident, funny guy that doesn't need attention from anyone. You are a black hole that just sucks everything in because you are who you are, thats who you should become. Not even the biggest, brightest stars in the universe can push you around. |
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Radar
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 8:38 pm Post subject: |
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| Thanks for the advice. The last one posted definietly makes a lot of sense. I guess my problem is that I want I girl to know I want to be more than friends. Do you see anyway I could save this one as it seems I have F-d up pretty bad. What do you think I should write to her to save this mess. |
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Rye Lee
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 9:10 pm Post subject: |
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| bilbil85 wrote: | | Quote: | | I posted "We look damn sexy in those pictures" the other day on her wall hoping to get a response so we could talk but got none. |
Radar take a look at what you said right there. Before anything, just
remember whats done is done and consider it practice for next time. But what you said seems somewhat AFCish, almost like you are beggin for her attention. In her eyes that probably looks like "Oh you look so good, please sleep with me. Please give me attention." Now nothing wrong with acknowledging a girl looks good, but neg her afterwards. Plus she has a boyfriend, fly under the radar (no pun intendid). Remember be the cocky, confident, funny guy that doesn't need attention from anyone. You are a black hole that just sucks everything in because you are who you are, thats who you should become. Not even the biggest, brightest stars in the universe can push you around. |
I disagree. If you only take, then you never get anywhere, because people need to feel the give and take of emotion and energy (stealing this concept from The Doctor I believe it was). If you're just not caring about anything anyone says ever and don't include them in your world, then you're not pulling them into your Frame, you're just keeping them at arm's length and although that might build attraction, you don't get ANY comfort building there.
I personally thought that your message was just fine. I'm sure there are "better" ways of saying it, but there wasn't anything wrong with the way you said it. You didn't say, "Hey, wanna see that picture of us? We look pretty good together, don't you think?" NO! You TOLD her, "We look damn sexy in those pictures". That's Alpha. Don't second guess this answer, it is fine, get it yet? The only problem with how you went about it, is that you put it on her wall and you need to message her. People respond to messages much better than wall posts, that just how people work, its direct vs indirect and you want to be direct. |
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bilbil85
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Im going to go ahead and play devils advocate here for the sake of argument... Im pretty sure you want to build attraction before you build comfort, after all the girl has a bf. If he build too much comfort now, he's gonna fall into the LJBF zone. I think a cocky attitude is fine for now because she has a bf. Any lovey dovey attention she needs should be fulfilled by her boyfriend. If she's not getting it, then who will she think of... the guy who thought I looked ok in the picture, 'everyone else thought I looked great, why does he think I only look ok.' Remember girls are just like guys, even when they are in a relationship, they can become attracted to another person. If you build too much comfort, she will put you in a frame with all of those other guys that are just like who boring bf who probably doesn't know how to touch the person she is inside, and is instead just someone she is keeping around until she finds someone better.. YOU |
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Rye Lee
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 11:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Yes, but by telling her that you are look sexy together in that picture, you ARE being cocky and funny, but you're also planting something in her head. You're telling her that you can be sexy together, its nlp, you put this in her subconscious and it gives her the permission to be sexy around you and with you, which you build upon. Not saying anything doesn't accomplish anything in this instance, because she's not gonna think "Oh, why isn't that guy saying anything about our picture?" Guys usually don't talk about pictures, so she'll just not think about it, so its not an effective take away. |
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| Posted: Wed Oct 31, 2007 11:35 pm Post subject: |
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| you realize that she has a bf right, so your'e basically trying to ruin somebody else's relationship, personally i think thats uncalled for. |
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| f0nx wrote: | | you realize that she has a bf right, so your'e basically trying to ruin somebody else's relationship, personally i think thats uncalled for. |
That's your choice. No one is forcing you to go after girls with bfs, but if you like a girl and she has a bf, then why not let her choose the guy that she likes best. If you only give a person one choice of drink and they're thristy, well they'll drink that one thing, but give them two choices and now they're not only taking whatever they can get, they take what the want the most. |
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