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cranberry sauce
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 Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 2:57 am Post subject: Exiting conversations |
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Lately my mind has been obsessing on how to comfortably exit conversations and social activity. Not with girls per say, but just in general.
Perhaps I'm too indecisive. I don't know.
Consider these situations:
-Talking with a friend you haven't seen for a while.
-Hanging out at a friend's house.
-Spending time at a relative's house, in conversation.
-Talking on the phone with a girl, or anyone.
Lately, I've been feeling anxiety/discomfort when the time comes, and I think I should take my leave/exit these situations. Idk, sometimes I don't quite feel out the situation well enough...atleast I don't think i do.
I mean, sometimes you flee the scene too early and feel regret. And other times you don't bounce quick enough. The other person has to gesture for you to leave. It creates a loss of self esteem. It's starting to fucking piss me off. I want to protect my self esteem, yet I want to make sure I pick the right time.
I need tips on how to overcome this discomfort and properly feel out the right time to bounce. Anything would be appreciated. |
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Romantic100
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| Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 3:27 am Post subject: |
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| well one things for sure you feel anxiety but its also good to take risks.. why? because it expands your comfort zone level meaning next time you face the same problem you just risked before its not going to be as hard as the last time you did it get it! peace im going to sleep |
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cranberry sauce
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 4:05 am Post subject: |
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| Yes, good thought. |
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Good Cat
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 9:13 am Post subject: |
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| I understand how you feel about exiting conversations on a good note. The easiest way I have found is to wait until you have a chnace to reply to something they have said and then just tie up the conversation bynot saying anything that could be commented on. Wrap up your side of the conversation and then before they can speak tell them it was a pleasure speaking with them and then say that you're going now to do something (can be anything like going to the bathroom or going over to chat with someone else). Hope this helps. |
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