This is one of the key principles to try and make sense of women and why they do what they do. It’s a simple concept but alien to most
men, however once you get it though it allows you to more skillfully navigate the dating minefield and get the results you want.
The concept is pretty simple : Ignore what women say and look at what they are doing RIGHT NOW.
I’ll give you an example from last night (yes I made a mistake here!)
Met a girl on the street, had a quick 3 minute chat, escalated via text, she came round close to my house, we had a drink in a nearby
pub (20 minutes or so), back to my place, sex.
It was good and she enjoyed it and wanted more.
Now the thing is she picked up on some of my beliefs and mindset, she knew that I am not commiting to anything, so basically she
accepted that I am just someone that she can meet “for fun” (it always starts like this but after a few months things can change in her mind
and she might start wanting more commitment). This is why I advocate being honest about your intentions at all times (though not crude)
So I arranged to meet her again via text. Now I was distracted with other things and was thinking about business and various other things
Here are the texts:
Me : What are you doing?
Girl : Just finishing work, you? xx
Me : I am at home…
Girl : Stressful Day? xx
Me : Not at all! Come round if you want
Girl : I was hoping you’d be in need of a distraction, lol
Me : Aye, I will explain later. I’m trying to think of ways of getting business off the ground
Girl : So why do I need to be there? That is so not what I had in mind xx
So you can see where she is going with it.
She came round and I spent about 30 minutes talking about ideas, didn’t pay her attention, etc etc,
SHe then started to insult me…She said “I bet you have low standards in women…I just think you do”
Now I reacted badly to this and eventually booted her out of the house! In reality I wasn’t really up for more sex,
I just wanted to think about business and talk it through.
SHe of course was not remotely interested in this and wanted to get railed!
Of course, she didn’t verbalise this.
After she left, I received 3 phone calls over the space of a few hours. I ignored them..
I replayed what happened and knew what was going on…I wasn’t paying her attention, didn’t take her to bed..And I actually listened to what she
was saying! She later admitted when I did pick up the phone that she doesn’t even think that I have low standards, she was just
annoyed that I didn’t take her to bed and wanted to have a go at me and get my attention.
I think this illustrates the point pretty well…
So, when you’re dealing with a woman, remember this key point! At any stage of the interaction.
They often do / say things like this, seemingly to irritate you, but you need to ignore the content and think about possible
reasons why she is acting this way. At the same time – is she sticking around? If she doesn’t walk off, or get away from you,
she probably wants you to take some sort of decisive action (in the example I have given taking her to bed). In other cases it might be
deciding where to go. Always remember this, pay attention to what they are doing, not what they are saying. Examine your own behaviours
Are you paying her attention?
Are you showing decisiveness or acting weak?
This kind of introspection can lead you to inculcate this basic principle so that you can react better / in a more attractive way next time this
happens (and it will!)
Hope this insight helps!
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