Arch Stanton wrote:
My interpretation, based on what you described here, is that she was attracted to you, then lost that attraction when you became super clingy. You asking to meet and talk is a continuation of that clingyness.
Where you left it, is non-clingy. Which, IMHO is the only way of having any chance with her again.
If she wanted to talk with you in person to "clarify", she wouldn't have dumped you over text.
But, understand I can only go by what you have presented here.
My play is to leave it at "cool, I'm good either way". And wait for her to hit you up perhaps months down the road while you game other women.
This is a big test for you. You have indicated this pattern of losing women this way exists. So not contacting her and leaving at "I'm good either way" is more about YOU developing your emotional-centered side, and less about her.
I am advising you to learn how to fish rather than giving you a fish. And when you learn how to fish, you'd be surprised what nibbles at your line, months...and years later.
Arch, no offense to you and I appreciate every piece of advice you've goven me so far.
I'm writing this with her sleeping next to me on my bed.
What I did was I texted her: hey can you come by the starbucks we went to real quick? She says sure when?
Anyway we meet at the fucking starbucks about an hour later and man was it hard to convince her to go get a drink! No "talk" or any shit just seduction and finally we go to a bar and I have a few drinks and she only drinks water and tries to resist!
Long story short the same way I had seduced her the first time I do again and took me a while to convince her to head back to my place to fuck!
We fucked real good and she's sleeping right now!
I owe it all to having her orgasm multiple times before the whole fuck up thing! Making a woman orgasm will go a long way!