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Let's not pretend that people don't form "first impressions" the minute they meet each other? It doesn't have to be in-depth, and it definitely doesn't have to be accurate. Clearly, if you invite me to go play pool with you and some guys, you have already assumed I am the type of girl to enjoy this activity. And the SPAM associated with this activity. And you think I fit in with one or more of the stereotypes associated with this activity. You should be able to see this.
Sure they form impressions. But as far as pool goes, I'm inviting you. Not you and some guys. It's a date, there's no guys.
But more importantly, as is with bowling, I'm not inviting you because I associate you with that activity, because I think you're the type to enjoy bowling or because I think you fit a certain stereotype. That has nothing to do with it.
I'm inviting you because
I like it, and you either have never tried it and may be curious, have tried it and enjoy or have tried it and don't enjoy.
And if you don't, you can just say so. That's normal.
What's not normal is taking offense as if he just indirectly made you out to be a tomboy and completely shutting him down.
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But what's most important is: precisely because you think my train of thought is ridiculous, it would never have occurred to you as a possible explanation! I think I helped OP here with an actual explanation, since he seems well-meaning. It's a better explanation than "Girls flake all the time, who cares why."
Another ridiculous explanation would be that her cat died and now she's sad.
Here's a better explanation.
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But here's the thing. Dating is about getting to know the person you're supposedly into. The activity is simply the means to that end.
So if her decision to either accept or refuse an invite is more influenced by the activity rather than by your presence, that simply means she's not that into you. Whether that's because you fucked up the first date or because of external reasons out of your control is not very relevant at this point.