Arch I don't agree with you encouraging the guy, but I find it funny how he ignores all the sensible advice and goes for yours just because it's what he wants to hear.
Not that you're not offering him quality, but you know as well as I do that this scenario will only turn around and bite him in the ass even harder.
This woman is firmly planted atop his pedestal.
OP: If you've only met TWO women you liked in FIFTEEN years, you're doing something terribly wrong. Trust me, that's on you. Do you purposely hang out in the worst bars in town or what?
And again, you should let this go. This amount of drama for something that can't even be called a relationship is ridiculous.
It's true that I've put her on a pedestal, and I think that's how I fucked things up. In the beginning she couldn't get enough of me but I became emotionally weak and things went sideways.
When I say this is the second girl I've liked in 15 years I mean that she is the 2nd girl that I actually considered having a relationship with. There were woman that I fucked and I liked only to have sex with. But after a few dates I felt that I actually wanted this one to be my girlfriend. And maybe that's also a reason I treated her extra nice and ultimately killed her attraction for me.
There's a reason I've developed "oneitis" for this one. She literally has every single thing I want in a girlfriend. And I mean that. Like I said I've been with women so I'm not a complete loser! Just a loser with this one cause I liked her so much that caused me to treat her diffetently!
I was able to fix my previous fuck ups and neediness with her multiple times because she didn't know that I like her so much. Now, though it's a different story. She knows I'm full of shit this time! She didn't even respond to my apology text for calling her a skank!