I odd question her to death and also talked too much but I'm pleased I didn't just ignore her lol.
I thought the point was to not be impressed and to make her think I'm not interested? Everyone wants what they can have.
I tried to demonstrate higher value by not being a party dude and speaking about sailing. If I'm honest I have no fucking clue!
That's great advise, I'm sure there's a line somewhere I don't want to be to sensitive... I think?
So the next I see her she'll be put her boots on or skating and possibly with a friend.
I'm think ill wave and leave her for awhile, then I'll give her friend attention if the time is right before asking for her number, is that about correct??
I need to work on questions to chat about before I close.
I'll tell her I work across the street from her (Which I do but didn't tell her) and ask about coffee at lunch ??
Or I could go all heavy as bring up skating together she said she would like to do pairs, I'm not good enough at skating and it's a bit gay to could be a lot of effort but possible ok for a couple of dates before we head for a drink or meal ???
How quick do I close when I'm chatting?? sometimes I find it best to get it out the way first nfa build report after.
The PUA marketing machine will tell you it's better to act like you're not interested because they know that guys fear rejection if they put themselves out there. It's only effective in limited situations and those situations usually require you to have some perceived social value.
Here's the reality of most people. They want to feel special. The desire to feel special will make them want to sell themselves to you. You telling her about your sailing and not being a party guy doesn't make her feel special. You being impressed with her accomplishments will make her feel special. You allowing her to impress you will make her feel special.
Personally, I don't like the idea of you showing an interest in the friend unless you show interest in both of them equally at the same time.
Just talk to the girl and be normal. Don't worry about coming up with questions, just learn to stay on the same subject and get her to open up about anything she feels about the subject. I would have probably gotten a 5-10 minute conversation of an Asian girl in Louisiana alone and would have thrown in that because she's cute it couldn't be that bad/must've made it easy/probably made her popular or something along those lines and then got her number so we could go out sometime.
Avoid an activity date and dinner if it's a first date. Find someplace where you two can sit together and talk and build some sexual tension. Then invite her over to your place for whatever excuse you can use to invite her over to your place.