Lie detection requires keen observation. This isn't a beginners feature, it requires you being very aware of her body language, that said Lie Detection is one of my favorite parts of body language, I can't believe I actually haven't added anything about this now that I think about it. The foundation of Lie Detection works off of one principle and it still basically relates to Joe Navarro's style of reading body language, either you are comfortable or uncomfortable, basically are you confident in your words or are you not confident in your words.
Always Remember Body Language Guidelines
Now there have been dozens of books on the topic of Lie detection and most of them have something a little different when it comes down to it but the easiest way I have figured out how to read body language when it comes to lie detection is first things first. Pay close attention to your Body Language guidelines. We all have different quirky behaviors so be sure to pay close attention to a woman's idiosyncratic behaviors. If you'd like you can check out episode two
of my Does She Like Me? Show as it goes over pretty closely body language guidelines.
You are looking for changes
Do not assume someone is lying, the principles of lie detection also work off of looking for CHANGES in behavior, so sometimes they may be performing tasks that some folks do when lying but that doesn't mean they are. You need to be aware of everyone's body language, not just one or two things. If you are more aware then all you have to do is perceive changes in body language.
Pacifiers are for Liars
Ok Now on to the topic of Lie Detection so what you do is you look at behaviors that represent a lack of confidence, pacifiers are huge when it comes to lie detection. Pacifiers are things we do during moments of distress such as telling lies. Here is a basic list of Pacifying behaviors:
-Face touching - It is a sign of high stress every time a woman touches her face
-Neck Touching - Every time a woman touches her neck, perhaps with the back of her hand. When someone touches their neck they are saying, this is a pain in the neck.
-Hands Rubbing against each other - If it looks like they are trying to wash off the lies or something, but sometimes it's really quick
-Rubbing hands against pants - It's again like they are trying to wash the lies off of their hands
-Self-Caressing - Sometimes a person may tell a lie and comfort themselves by rubbing their forearm
-Clothes Straightening - Someone who needs to straighten their clothes shows insecurity
-Hair preening - Women especially in poker are known for preening when lying but this is also a sign of arousal that is related to attraction....
-Anxious Behaviors - This is a basic form of lie detection but you are looking for anxiety due to their lack of confidence in their words.
-Nervous leg twitches - Sometimes if you are sitting a woman who is lying
Always look for congruency when it comes to body language. When someone is lying their body language will lack congruency. What I mean by this is when someone gets mad and they start talking angrily and with synchronicity slap their hand, it will all happen at once, however if they are lying they will begin to fake their anger by ranting and then they slap the table after.
This is very basic, but most people will miss it because they will lack that keen observation, congruency is another foundation of lie detection similar to that of the confidence versus lack of confidence in your words. This also means their facial reaction should match their emotional reaction. If they sound angry their face better look angry, if they sound sad they better look sad, etc.
Eye Contact Wrote an article on eye contact and Lie Detection here
Eye contact is something most people misinterpret because they think that people who make strong eye contact aren't lying, well if they are looking at their toes it can be a sign they are lying or ashamed or any number of things. A lot of times someone who shows submission when talking can be lying but just as easily they could be telling the truth and simply be ashamed of what happened.
When someone makes strong eye contact and they don't stop looking while talking it can be assumed they are lying NOT telling the truth especially if they are telling a story. Those who don't stop looking at you are trying to find out whether you are believing their lies. When we are asked a question and we need to look for an answer we tend to going through our visual or auditory filing cabinet and look for the answer so we look up and to the right or just to the right (depending on whether we are in our visual or auditory system).
This a very basic guide on lie detection but it is should cover everything you are looking for in a basic conversation.
If you would like more of course there is tons more but this should work for now. When I get time I'll start a Lie detection series, I've want to do that for a long time.
Peace and Love,