I've been depressed for a long time, and it really affects me when it comes to game.

I have basically zero sex drive. I'm surrounded by good looking women, so my brain automatically tells me "You can't have this." Like, I can't even watch normal porn because its just too "real" for me. I have a severe mental breakdown every few days, which leads me to thoughts of suicide. But this is followed by mental "highs", where I will almost literally be dancing all fucking day. It always goes in cycles.

I'm trying to find a therapist/psyciatrist/psychologist, but none are really answering their phones since its the weekend.

I go to the gym regularly, do hot yoga. Both are barely helping the situation. I rarely do approaches though because I just don't feel like I deserve it, and it fucks with my head. Whatever you guys can do to help fix my head..anything will help.

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Definitely recommend seeing a professional when you can if you were considering suicide. Everything in life ties together and if one aspect of your life has a void, then it will bleed into other areas of your life. Having those negative thoughts will definitely not help. I know, because I used to have those same thought and it would also go in cycles. I would see hot girls that I would get an instant hard on and just want to approach, but then when I fall out of the game and haven't approached in a while and don't get results because I'm "rusty" I sometimes fell back into that I'm not deserving mindset, when these girls would be receptive before when I used to approach a lot. Now, I make it a habit to continually go out and be social so I never fall back into that slump.

It may be tough to think positive without reference experiences, but you can make it a habit to go into the situation with a neutral mindset and expect nothing. Try to focus on the present and don't think about any future outcome. Just start doing massive approaches. Go in with a smile and good energy. It may be more of a numbers game in the beginning. Some girls will be in a bad mood and won't respond even if you have good deliver. Some girls will be in an awesome mood and will be really receptive. Some hot girls rarely get approached and will be pleasantly surprised when someone is confident enough to open them. Just go out there and start getting experiences and you will see that you can get those hot girls.

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I agree with Edward, approaching and being social helps a lot I might be freaking out and shitting my pants while I'm out in the club but one thing is sure, I'm not depressed during that time

I unfortunately cannot speak from your perspective, but what I've found is that I've always been quick to anger, and it's not the way I want to be. I've since done some soul searching and realized that I want to rid myself of negative emotions, so I've been doin everything in my power to do so. If you REALLY want to change your mind state, you have to be willing to take the steps necessary; for me, those steps are reading.

I discovered a book a couple months back call "think and grow rich" by napoleon hill, and it literally changed the way o think. I began to understand that my happiness is a direct result of my own thought processes, and I am fully responsible for this happiness. Wanting to get into my mind more, I've began reading a lot more books- books focused on positive thinking, the power of influence, the subconscious, anything really. If you take the time to approach these books with a meaningfully view, you will truly understand happiness comes from within.

Something that helped me out a LOT was a movie called "the secret". It made me realize one impotent thing; if I remind myself of what I'm grateful for, I will have less reasons to be down on my life. And you know what? It worked. I no longer get angry, I instead remind myself daily that I have so much to be grateful for, and truly have a lot to offer this world. These thoughts keep me happy through the entire day, and I don't let anyone tell me otherwise. Once we truly come to the realization that other's negative opinions mean nothing on the outcomes of our lives, we may be at peace.


If you have an open mind and find yourself wanting to know more, just pm me, I'll recommend you books, activities, and even put together some documents for you as a guideline.

Ps I'm by no means a hippy or anything, just someone who doesn't want to limit himself!

Hi SpiritualGangster!

Based on how you've described your current state of mind in your post and based on my own experience, you might be suffering from the symptoms of borderline personality disorder.

Since I am neither a psychologist nor a psychiatrist but just a guy who now has a solid knowledge about borderline personality disorder that I got stuck in and later learned about in relation to my past seduction and sexual addictions, I warmly recommend that you check out Shari Schreiber who's one of the most well-known experts on borderline personality disorder that I've ever come across.

By the way, Shari seems to be a very friendly person and she prefers helping people over the phone rather than via email. You can easily find Shari's direct phone number on her website at http://gettinbetter.com/contact.html. Alternatively, you can also check out her website's forum where you can post any question in a form of a short story (limited to 150 characters) that she personally replies to. The link to her forum where you can directly (with no need to register) send her your question is here: Shari Schreiber's Forum.

Hope this helps.

Bruno

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