HOW DO I BUILD SUPREME CONFIDENCE??



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PostPosted: Sun Mar 05, 2017 8:56 pm 
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Hi there my name is Louis I'm 23 yrs old and I have been really thinking quite a bit about this subject. As I have always struggled with confidence growing up, These past recent years though I have been in the process of building up my confidence. I have been able to find my own personal style which is kind of artistic/indie/rockerish which has helped a great deal when I know I look good I get pretty confident. now I'm not the tallest guy at 5'7 and I'd say I'm average in the physique department which I aim to improve for myself. my female friends always say that CONFIDENCE IS KEY, they tell me that I'm an attractive guy and even from some of my gay friends giving me compliments and telling me that any girl would want to sleep with me, as well as going out more and becoming more social and going to nightclubs so yes I would say I have improved from where I started, but not quite to where I want it to be because although I do feel confident sometimes I dont feel like that all the time and I find that sometimes that stops me from talking to a girl that I really want to get to know. So what I mean by this is what would be the right approach to build that "Supreme Confidence" where you feel that at ALL times, where you could walk into a room and people can feel that energy, where women can feel that energy just by speaking to you as well as being able to feel like that as well. is it simply a belief thing where if you believe it others will as well? any input would greatly appreciated.


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What you're talking about is social comfort. You can think you're a good guy with a lot going for you, if I put you face to face with Leonardo DiCaprio you're gonna shrink, you won't know what to say, and if a girl comes by you're gonna shut up and let him talk. That's because you won't feel comfortable around him.

Best way I know to deal with this is, talk to just everybody. Get used to talking to random strangers, make conversation about anything. The more you do that, the more you will feel that talking to that hot girl is just another conversation, nothing different from that discussion you had with that old guy at Walmart. Then you'll become socially comfortable with anybody.

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In my opinion it all goes down on how you manage yourself, if you don't manage your emotions in most of the situations that you should work in that a lot.

Secondly you should go out more and socialize as much as possible to get comfortable with most od the people.

And thirdly you should umprove on your tasks and life goals. If your life goal is to have women then you better find a new one as it is a bad life goal. To elaborate so not make woman your life goal as your life will soon be flooded with voids rather than greatness, regardless how many women you get.


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What goes up, must come down bro. No one feels one way all day long all the time. The idea that there's someone out there who is always feeling magical is a myth, but what you can do is increase your highs and lows.

For example: a high for a beginner would be sleeping with 1 girl a month, and a low would be sleeping with 1 girl every 3 months.

For an expert a high could be: sleeping with 5 girls a month and a low would be sleeping with 1 girl a month.

The thing is, the emotion is relevative. The expert sleeping with one girl a month will feel the same way as the beginner that's sleeping with one girl every 3 months. It's all in what they both perceive to be a high and a low from their expirience.

Your perspective will determine how you feel and your perspective is largely based on what you surround yourself with and what you think. You may think you're great with girls until you surround yourself with people who actually are. That can change how you feel about your progress.

A few tips to help your overall feeling of self worth though is to:

Quit masturbation/porn

Exercise

Cold shower

Clean up the diet.

Doing these things consistently over time will improve how you feel about yourself. There's no magic pill instant fix. You have to work at it.

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alexp11 wrote:
Hi there my name is Louis I'm 23 yrs old and I have been really thinking quite a bit about this subject. As I have always struggled with confidence growing up, These past recent years though I have been in the process of building up my confidence. I have been able to find my own personal style which is kind of artistic/indie/rockerish which has helped a great deal when I know I look good I get pretty confident. now I'm not the tallest guy at 5'7 and I'd say I'm average in the physique department which I aim to improve for myself. my female friends always say that CONFIDENCE IS KEY, they tell me that I'm an attractive guy and even from some of my gay friends giving me compliments and telling me that any girl would want to sleep with me, as well as going out more and becoming more social and going to nightclubs so yes I would say I have improved from where I started, but not quite to where I want it to be because although I do feel confident sometimes I dont feel like that all the time and I find that sometimes that stops me from talking to a girl that I really want to get to know. So what I mean by this is what would be the right approach to build that "Supreme Confidence" where you feel that at ALL times, where you could walk into a room and people can feel that energy, where women can feel that energy just by speaking to you as well as being able to feel like that as well. is it simply a belief thing where if you believe it others will as well? any input would greatly appreciated.
Hi Louis.

First of all the fact that you believe you need confidence in order to make things happen is limiting. Instead, you actually want confidence so you don't have to deal with all the horrible feelings associated with taking risks and failing. No doubt approaching without skill (anxiety) and getting shot down (embarrassment, self-pity) will feel like hell. But will these negative emotions kill you or last forever? No. So get out there, experience the pain and make friends with the aftermath. Once you realize that the pain of taking a risk with a woman and failing doesn't kill you or last very long, then you will develop true confidence. You must experience the emotions you fear enough times to know that you can handle them. It's that simple.

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PostPosted: Wed May 24, 2017 2:37 am 
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Experience will build your confidence the most when it comes to social skills, the more you do something, the more you ''know'' how to do that thing.


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PostPosted: Wed May 24, 2017 3:48 am 
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I find it helpful to find mechanisms that allow you to effectively deal with things like rejection and anxiety. Those things are the acid that eat away at your confidence. By default, we are confident people. When we are with friends and family, we typically will act as we want and be authentic and even throw our weight around if need be. It's only when we start embracing self-limiting beliefs and let external forces effect our emotional state that we lose our natural confidence.

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PostPosted: Thu May 25, 2017 7:55 am 
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pumpington wrote:
Experience will build your confidence the most when it comes to social skills, the more you do something, the more you ''know'' how to do that thing.

Oh yes. There's no other way around it: Get out there, fall on your ass, get rejected, don't approach in a lame manner, be normal, and you'll climb up the curve like others have.

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