Hey guys,

So it's settled; I'm going to a party w a bunch of drunk, hot chicks.

The thing is I have a target, and she's one of the owners, who invited me, b/c I # closed her at work, oh and I never see her where I work anyway so that's straight.

Guys: Yes there will be other dudes there. Any help I can get on establishing dominance, etc., would be most appreciated:.........how a guy does that at a party is beyond me, b/c guy, she's a solid 8.5

being an alpha is not tht hard, u can do some alpha kino like picking her up and etc. if a guy come to join u. talk to him and project the alpha state with ur nody language

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Oh shit! A SOLID 8.5!?!?

Idk if you have what it takes, 8.5s are like the hottest things ever!!

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First off, you care too much about getting her. Gotta care less. You've already put her up on a pedestal.

Second, just enjoy yourself. If a guy steps to you then get ready to punch him. Don't let dudes push you around. Be the loudest in the group. The leader. It's just a matter of expressing yourself and not giving a f*ck about the results.

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Life of the Party - The man that goes around to every individual in the party to see if they are having a great time and, if not, makes SURE they are having a great time.

Be social. Dont go into a party with an agenda. Every women at that party will see you walking and talking around with everyone and having a great time.

A woman that wants to hook up with the Life of the Party wont hesitate to make the move because he's probably one of the most desirable men at that party and all the other guys will look like a wall flower in comparison.

Have fun! Be an outgoing guy whose only agenda is to have fun. Engage your target sparingly and move on.

Your not even going to have any shot at closing this girl until around the end of the party anyway so having fun and raising social status is better in comparison to latching onto her all night and trying to get into her pants too soon.

Have a lot of great energy and good party vibes. Be confident, talk to a lot of people, and do what you want to do (not what others want you to do), be loud, be relaxed, give handshakes to dudes, have a lot of fun, those kind of things. Most things are already said.

However that you should keep this in mind, at the moment of the party, you shouldn't think too hard about (trying to) be(ing) the alfa male, because that makes you insecure and unnatural.

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I feel u, true, an 8.5 isn't the end-all-be-all, but that's about as high as i
Seen around my way. (see my
Posts on Richmond Va) there's a serious shortage of dateable single girls; and not many new
Ones come through. : it's sorta like an Alaska...if u wanna meet new ones u gotta think outside the box work for a different, wiered company, get on dating sites, etc b/c one month in the club scene and you've seen most of what the town has to offer.

Talk and act very animated. Think of yourself as Jay Leno and you're hosting the party.

Yeah the party was fun, after a couple drinks I was laughing and holding court w/ the rest of the guests. This girl has ALOT of guy friends and she was acting thrilled to see everyone of them come in the door. *They* were picking her up and dancing with her, but I had a feeling they went way Back and weren't really competition.

She went out of her way to spend a lot of time talking with me but I could see this deal wasn't closin tonight. There were just too damn many people there.

At around 5, I decided to head home, and asked her to walk out w me: got my tequila outtta the frigde, and went to the door. She thanked me up and down for coming and I was like thanks for inviting, etc.

At the door I pulled her in hugged her and brushed her hair aside and kissed her on the cheek; I figured that was all that was warranted.

When I got home I texted: "Hey cutie, just wanted u to know I made it home fine, no Rodney King stops, lol; thanks again for bein such a great hostess; u kept me out later than the bar scene would.. "

She wrote back: Glad your home safely.

Gotta say, not very encouaraging. Thisll have to be a work in progress.

Ooh the text killed it. No no no. Let her come to you.

Girls with lots of male friends are often extra difficult. I should know, I am one. We receive a lot of male attention on a daily basis, and have a harem of dudes that would fuck us at the drop of a hat - so the need for cool guys or emotional validation is just not there as much.

Being cool, collected, and confident are the best ways to get to those type of women. Don't be one of the lemmings who are always hoping she'll sleep with them. Be desireless.

Yeah, this one's done.

She wouldn't answer the phone today, first time ever. Then she shot me a txt 30 minutes later saying one of her male friends at the party was interested in me.

I told her I was straight, and she said, "Get outta town! oops, my bad"

I asked her to just call me, because I wanted to talk to her, she said, "I can't, my boyfriend's here now and I can't talk"

I said, "I thought you were single?" She said, "My boyfriend was at the party for a little bit and we got back together at the party."

I told her, "You knew what this was about. I called to hang out w/ you b/c I'm interested in you, not to be your buddy and come over and paint each other's toenails." She said, "Oh well crisis averted."

I said that what she did was a huge, collossal, inconsiderate thing she could've done by leading me on and wasting my time like that., and to not contact me again. Took her out of my phone, deleted the call history so I can't call her, and took her off of my facebook.

So yeah, I suppose next time I've got something setup with a girl who has 1,600 facebook friends, I should act a little more like I'm not really after her....good universal advice actually, but then again I'm out of practice.

Cross that one out, onto the next one.

Ouch! Maybe try turning the conversation sexual before you even get to the party next time. Turn it sexual in a very cocky way though or she'll think you're kinda weird.

Glad you're moving on, it's the right course of action without a doubt.

As hard as it is, reacting and calling her out for what she did is bad. Focus on being warm and collected, it's not worth it to let a reaction to another person's actions take you out of the moment. This is different than establishing your boundaries, or communicating that you're not a door mat. When you let someone get under your skin you're undermining your own happiness.

You learned that she's not the kind of person that is worth spending your time and energy on, and will chart your course away from her, this is perfect. Anything more is beneath you man.

Good luck,

She's shown her true colours, and clearly isn't worth it.

How about speaking to other girls from the party? Work your game on them now if you want, it'll build your confidence.

From now, concentrate on yourself, try not to worry so much, be happy, busy, and have attractive things in your life, and women will follow, they're like flys to shit, but want what's good and what sounds good!

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