Hi,
This is my first post. I searched for a few things to try to find the answer to this question first, but nothing similar enough came up. Hope I'm posting in the right place.
I started Game about a month and a half ago.
Anyway, I approached this HB8 or 9 on the metro, didn't think I'd get anywhere but actually she took it pretty well and we went on an instant date.
It's great that I had this early success - what a confidence booster! - and she's a really great girl, and she seems really into me too. I was getting plenty of IOIs, e.g. I wasn't texting her but then she would text me. The thing is - and this is the point of this thread - I have just started Game and I really want to develop my skills. If I get into a relationship with her, then I don't think I'll have a chance to learn; and if I do and then break up because I want to game other girls and develop my skills, then I might hurt her, which I don't want to do, as well as look like a huge dickhead.
Ideally, I want to see how things pan out, have some sex, and then move on, with nobody getting hurt. (Some background: I am in my mid-20s and have only ever had sex once, about a year ago. I was in an LTR for about 4 years before that, much of which was long-distance, with a girl who believed in no sex before marriage. So I am kind of looking forward to having sex with her a few times if possible.)
I spoke to my friend about what to do, and he suggested that I should try to close early to take the pressure off. So we arranged another date, with an early k-close. Couldn't f-close due to logistics. She was really enjoying herself (as was I). Then a second date, where I got her to come to mine at the end, but the f-close didn't work out (I Gamed really well up to when she was in my bedroom, at which point I stopped thinking strategically and assumed it would just happen, which it didn't). She said "Sex is fine, in a relationship" and "let's leave it to the next date". So I carried on showing her holiday photos and occasionally kissing.
I guess the best thing is to be open at this point (right?), so that she knows where we are and there are no nasty surprises. I have a terrible history with this kind of thing - girls always seem to take things the wrong way, which probably means that I'm saying them the wrong way. I need to know how to speak to her about this without offending her or scaring her away.
So basically, how do I talk to her to tell her that I recently-ish left a relationship and don't want anything too serious, or at least don't want to commit too quickly, without it coming off as (a) "I don't want to see you again", or (b) a creepy guy who just wants to have sex? And is there a way to have sex with a decent girl for a while and then stop and move on, without anybody getting hurt in the process?
Trying to follow PUA ethics: "Leave her better than you found her. Don't ruin her for other guys."
Apologies if this post is longwinded. I would really appreciate a quick answer. Thanks a lot!