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Mech
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 Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 6:09 pm Post subject: Beating the 'player' rep |
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I'm going to be gaming a girl this weekend, who saw me go home with two different women in one weekend earlier this summer (she was part of my safe set). Any suggestions as to how I should deal with her view of me as a 'player'?
I know she think I'm funny, attractive, and friendly. I could definitely close if she hadn't witnessed me gaming other women, but I feel like I might not be able to now. |
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Israel
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Dude, if anything it will only help your game. You've turned on the "pre-selection switch."
Her point of view: Other girls get with you. There must be something special about you - you must have high social value. |
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swiftone
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I recently had a HB8 tell me... hey you better not be a player cause i'm not a one time thing what so ever...
I said: great I'm glad you said that cause i would want to put it down more than once too!
she laughed and said "you're something else you know that? I cant even describe you"
and f-close!!!
so a good come back would be...
HB:are you a player? or how many girls have you hooked up with like this...?
PUA:wait wait wait... you're not a one time deal are you???
HB: hell no!
PUA: okay good cause i would want to drop it like its hot with you more than once too! |
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Kaos101
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| Israel wrote: | Dude, if anything it will only help your game. You've turned on the "pre-selection switch."
Her point of view: Other girls get with you. There must be something special about you - you must have high social value. |
I agree with Israel, you have already DHV by allowing this HB to see your acceptance from other women and that there is a demand for you from other HBs. The winds are blowing in your favor Mech, may the force be with you....
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Paetar
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Player rep isn't bad, as long as you are not seen as guy who hurts and cheats on women.
Carpe Diem. |
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BlackBull
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One of my best friends is a player.
...some of his women know that too.
...they still fuck him.
Player rep is good.Just dont talk about it. |
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Methuselah
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See above.
Anytime I get called a player I just laugh and say something like "Yeah right!" or "No, you've got the wrong guy, I don't even hold hands until the third date." Then smile and continue the conversation in a new direction. |
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Holden
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I think the concept of Not being Judgemental applies here or rather is the underlying issue.
She's trying to find out if your a player because she doesn't want her/your safe set to think badly of her. Yes, the advice about "playing" off the comment certainly applies. But I predict you might run into some LMR for fear of being judged by her friends. So brush up on that too and build the comfort trust before closing with her.
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