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theFresh
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| what is the best way to approach and what are some good openers? I NEED HELP!! |
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Fierce
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| Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 10:37 am Post subject: |
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| situational openers, approach indirectly. |
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smoothie
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| Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 12:56 pm Post subject: |
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| You wana learn a good opener? Say fucking anything! You wont learn how to interact with a woman by sitting at your pc. Go outside now and say hi to the first 10 woman you see, then walk in to a social venue and approach as many people as possible. You learn in the field not on the forum! Stop and look how other people interact. Watch mannerisms and reactions to these mannerisms. Learn by doing. And if your scared thats a good sign. push through it. Dont be affraid to make an ass of yourself. It happens move on. Let fear be your compass. NOW GO |
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Custom
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| Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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SMOOTHIE... YER A FUNNY GUY...
But here, I just posted this shit like a minute ago...
For example, say you go out with a buddy who invites to a house party of some sort...
You get there, the party is going pretty good, there are HB'S all over the place and say you spot one cute bird by herself...This is the time where you observe yer surroundings, look at her from head to toe... Lets say she has nice curly hair, a sexy top, some tight jeans, and some crazy looking red shoes... You approach her like so...
YOU: DO YOU KNOW THE DJ?
HER: DJ?
YOU: YEAH, MY FRIEND SAID THERE IS A DJ AND HE'S LOOKING FOR THE DJ...DO YOU KNOW THE DJ?
HER : DIDN'T KNOW THERE WAS A DJ HERE...
Now if the music is good, you talk about who ever the DJ is, is doing a good job... If the DJ sucks then you talk about how the radio would be a lot better...
Nine out of ten a house party will most likely have just a radio playing random cd's... So you can say shit like...
HER : DIDN'T KNOW THERE WAS A DJ HERE...
YOU: YEAH THE DJ IS CALLED (RADIO STATION, MAKE OF THE RADIO, ETC.)
HER: LOL...
YOU: NICE RED SHOES YOU HAVE THERE...
HER: THANX...
YOU: IF YER GETTING BORED YOU CAN TAP YER HEELS THREE TIMES AND YOU SHOULD BE HOME IN NO TIME...
HER: LOL, RIGHT...
YOU: WHATS YER NAME?
HER: MY NAME IS ...
YOU: YER LYING, YER NAME IS DORTHY ISN'T IT?
HER: LOL, NOT ITS NOT, MY NAME IS ...
YOU: OKAY DORTHY, IF YOU WANT ME TO CALL YOU... THEN I WILL CALL YOU...
HER: LOL, THANX...
YOU: SO YOU KNOW ANYONE HERE?
HER: BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH...
From here you should have broken the ice...Remember to kino a lot...
Always have a smile brighter than the sun, and just try to come off as relaxed as possible...It's not marriage, its having fun...
If you know any real funny jokes do so...
Remember to keep eye contact, and make sure you laugh with her...
BUT DON'T TRY TOO HARD, JUST RELAX K? |
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theslackpack
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the best openers are the natural openers. things like "hi - im xxxx, whats your name?" or "hey girls - you looked interesting so i thought id come say hello". its not what you say its how you say it. and the beauty of openers are they can be daft, incoherent or downright shit and you can get away with it. no ones interested in what you have to say, their more interested in the vibe/situation. if you remember that you'll be alright.
situational openers that are indirect as fierce says are the best. custom had it down to a tee.
other good openers are openers that involve drama or mindfucking. this i really suggest. especially if the girl happens to be an 8 or a 9 or a rarity that is a ten.
for example you could go up to a hb and say "i pity you, your too good looking - the best thing that could happen to you is an industrial accident"
or "your really good looking and it makes me nervous - look somewhere else - go on!!" *points to floor*
personally i am a nice guy when i open and then i strip away that nice guyness and vaccum. ill say hello - whats your name and then boom look at her like a jackrabbit heading for the headlights and make her think 'is this guy going to hit me in the mouth?' then with that done she has to answer your question, in fact downright obey your question. and then its back to nice guy mode. 'la-di-dah 'how was your day', 'whats your favourite place to travel', 'if i come in your mouth will you swallow?' -- okay so maybe not the last one, not until later anyway. and hey if your going to ask that you may as well ask 'if i rub it around your ass will you... -- only kidding.'
openers at the end of the day arnt that essential - its what you set as a precedent, the vibe, mood, whatever you want to call it. and do what smoothie says - get out there - practice on women, men, grandparents, bums, junkies, next doors cat, hallucinatory friends after the inducing of hard core drugs. personally i practice on my gerbils. there ever so friendly. scratch and sniff are always around to help me with my pick up.
one piece of advice is not to worry. just go for it. you wont look back! |
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Impact
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| Quote: | | You wana learn a good opener? Say fucking anything! You wont learn how to interact with a woman by sitting at your pc. Go outside now and say hi to the first 10 woman you see, then walk in to a social venue and approach as many people as possible. You learn in the field not on the forum! Stop and look how other people interact. Watch mannerisms and reactions to these mannerisms. Learn by doing. And if your scared thats a good sign. push through it. Dont be affraid to make an ass of yourself. It happens move on. Let fear be your compass. NOW GO |
Thats the way.
Ask for a opinion! on something GENUINE anything you don't know! introduce yourself, make little jokes about her! brake in her world. You gotta go and do it man, you wont do shit sitting at home. Just wont work. |
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Enigma87
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i believe that situation openers are the way forward you ask something about where you are or what both of you seems to be doing, you can pose an opinion opener as a situation opener so what do you think about this,
"im out here with my friend and we think this is a sausage fest.... i cant find a reason to saty here, what do you think about 2nite?
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"do you not agree that the table dancers are attractive but trying to hard?"
its human nature to want to talk about urself, so a girls opinion is very improtant tot hem it sounds selfish wen put like that but is human nature so fuck it, utilise it make points of it, if they go on too long neg and make a point of changing the subject "**yawn"** and tease, keep it natural nothing u wouldnt say
a simple hi is enough to get a conversation going approach is not a problem that basically is a chance for you too turn them down, if u appraoch then they ant to keep u with them. if not the mind set is their loss, if their a bitch why do you wanna talk to em anyway? birng em down a peg or 2 and then eject, nothing special jus dont chase peole that arnt what you want or need.....
stayed fro teh point abit but hope it helped, take care *the fresh all advice given on here is good, i'm no way a PUA jus learnign but all opinions are good u find the way that benefits you the best and suits ur personality, have a think and then get out there, simple as.
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