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astj1
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 Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 8:05 pm Post subject: Approaching questions |
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K so I have a question. The cardinal rule of the game it seems is to not let the girl no you want her, but rather make her want you. My questions are:
How am I supposed to open a girl that's by herself without it seeming like I'm trying to pick her up. I mean honestly, if a guy walked up to a really hot girl I wouldn't look at him and think "I bet he just wants to have a friendly conversation with her". So how am I supposed to open without having the girl think that I'm trying to pick her up.
Also, same question, but when it's a lot of girls in the same group with no guys. I really can't come in and start talking to the guys in the group and then hope to transition to talking with the girls.
I hope you guys can understand what I'm trying to say because I am having a huge problem with this, even with girls I sit right next to in class. I feel like there is no way to start a conversation with a hot girl that I've never met before without her thinking I'm trying to pick her up. |
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Surreal
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The idea is to make it appear that your not really approaching the group by using body position/ posture and comming across as a casual meeting rather than an inteded encounter. If you come across as someone who's trying to hangout or flirt then they know they've gotten your attention and if things don't work out for them that night they can always come back to you. So act like you've got better things to do and make them earn the attention rather than just giving it to them. I'm still working on the details of the game myself but from the jist of the articles I've read that seems to be a good procedure and it's worked VERY well for me the past couple weeks. I used to go out and I'd be lucky if I meet a girl and it was usually b/c they opened me. Now I can frustrated if I come back without at least 1 #.
Hope that helps
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duke77
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| Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 11:20 pm Post subject: |
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Whenever you approach a girl by herself, you run an unusually high risk of rejection anyway. The girl is extra protective of herself because she is only relying on her own opinion. People, especially girls, have group mentality. By shooting you down immediately, she protects herself from the opinion of her friends which she cannot predict. This usually only applies to social settings though. Opening in class is easy, because more often than not people are looking for a friend or someone to relate to. Try somethinge like, "I need someone else's opinion, is it just me, or does this guy (give alot of reading/talk funny/smell bad)?"
As far as mixed sets, don't address particular people in the set, address everyone, pay attention to avoid interaction with the target. |
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