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Multiburon
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 Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 6:05 pm Post subject: Approaching Issue! |
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| Ok guy I have my game a little backwards and need some suggestions on how to accomplish my goal! I seem to have a problem with cold approaching a random set! I try the 3 sec rule but I always wimp out! Now if i have a friend introduce me or I talked to them before for whatever reason. I do pretty good game! What can I do? |
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JSmooth
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| Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 6:59 pm Post subject: |
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Approach warm up sets, of girls that are less attractive, and you have no feelings for. Even approach a set of guys and do an opener. Guys are nothing more than very ugly girls. Approach them and just make some conversation. Once you have one attempt under you belt it gets easier with each one you open.
Maybe you need to start with an easier task. Perhaps go out and asking 5-10 people for the time of day. You can do this in a shopping mall, bar, or whatever you prefer. Then after you're good with that approach 5 people and make small talk with them about the weather, recent events in the news, or ask them a good restaurant to go to.
We can't come to where you live put a gun to your head and make you approach, it just doesn't work that way. There really isn't some magic pill to swallow to make you do it. You have to plow through those emotions that are trying to mess you up. |
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Multiburon
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| Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 7:28 pm Post subject: Thanks |
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| I will try some of the tips you gave me! The weird thing is when I ain't thinking about pickup I can do it! When I think about it! I get nervous and can't think of the next thing to say after that! Do you have a good opener that can spon in many directions? |
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JSmooth
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I'll give you an opener that I use, its still fairly new, but has gotten excellent results.
J- "You girls look like experts, let get your perspective on something...I can only stay for a second cause I have to get back to my friends...My good friend (insert girl's name) met a guy on myspace, and they've been talking for a bit. He wants to meet her, should she do it?"
Yes- What if she ends up hurt, abducted by aliens, or something?
No- What if she misses out on the time of her life?
Typically the responses are about how she should meet the guy with friends, or in a public setting. I've had girls go on to tell me about the bad experiences they've had meeting guys on the Internet. |
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The Wild One
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| Remember that if your using opinion openers you need to park yourself at a bar. When a group of hot girls walk up you spontaneously run your opener it works better. If you walk across the room to ask her opinion then you telegraph way to much interest usually. |
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Rye Lee
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| Posted: Mon Dec 31, 2007 10:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Also works good on sets standing close by. You just turn a bit and look over your shoulder at them and then ask your question as if they're just a conveniently close group and that's all. |
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chio
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| Posted: Wed Jan 02, 2008 3:09 am Post subject: Re: Approaching Issue! |
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| Multiburon wrote: | | Ok guy I have my game a little backwards and need some suggestions on how to accomplish my goal! I seem to have a problem with cold approaching a random set! I try the 3 sec rule but I always wimp out! Now if i have a friend introduce me or I talked to them before for whatever reason. I do pretty good game! What can I do? |
Do you think yourself out of approaching? Is it a sick feeling? |
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Multiburon
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| Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 12:47 am Post subject: Re: Approaching Issue! |
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Yeah just a i can't do it type of feeling! Then I drink and still have fun but I know I failed! I hate it to most! Also I read the game watch the mystery method dvds and I still get it kind of backwards! I understand I got to get this under my belt first but I want to have the concept down in the right order just in case it goes further!
| chio wrote: | | Multiburon wrote: | | Ok guy I have my game a little backwards and need some suggestions on how to accomplish my goal! I seem to have a problem with cold approaching a random set! I try the 3 sec rule but I always wimp out! Now if i have a friend introduce me or I talked to them before for whatever reason. I do pretty good game! What can I do? |
Do you think yourself out of approaching? Is it a sick feeling? |
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chio
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Well if you cannot do that then I suggest opening in day game.
Go around and with every girl you come across (old, young, ugly, hot) say, "Hi". Do this to ~50 people a day until you are comfortable. THEN proceed to night game. |
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