Subway: I carry a book of poetry around with me. I have memorised one just in case. It is an over the top descriptive poem. I say
"Oh god... Check this out... blah.. (I read the poem in a huge overacting way)"
I always use love poems. Aks her what she thought a person would feel if a man were to read it to you. (You just did but you are providing distance)Ask her what feelings the poet must have felt to have been able to write like that. Tell her you wanted to see how she would react to such thoughts and feelings because
"not everyone is capable of these kind of feelings".. and now you are in conversation
This is just one way of many.On the metro I am never ever indirect. The other day..
"Oh my god I really have to tell you something before I get off...""You have truly fantastic... eyebrows"
her "My eyebrows?"
me
"Yeah I noticed your eyebrows.. and I thought "I wonder if I go and tell her what I'm thinking she will turn out to be the kind of person who I want to meet"VM