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PostPosted: Thu May 07, 2015 5:58 pm 
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I'll be posting all of my generating attraction post here from now on.. Use the tips and make the changes.

Starting with: The Power In A Proper Compliment

There has been a myth going around the seduction community for sometime that you should never compliment a woman on her looks. That instead you should point out something unique that a guy doesn’t usually compliment her on to get her attention. While I agree that an indirect compliment will definitely lift a woman’s spirits, I can’t help but laugh at the guys who are afraid to acknowledge a woman’s beauty. And I won’t even bother addressing the men who think they have to NEG – say something negative to knock an attractive woman off her high horse just to get her attention. I would only advise the men on that level of social immaturity to get a horse of their own before they even think about connecting with the opposite sex. But back to the subject at hand..

I believe that a proper compliment based solely off of a woman’s looks is the best way to connect with her. Women carry purses that are usually filled with items to touch up their appearance( make up, mirrors, etc.) which only suggest that they worry about what they look like a lot more than men do. What better way to ease the mind of a woman than to let her know that she doesn’t have to worry about how she is begin perceived at that moment. Having put her mind at ease, she can now contemplate other matters.. perhaps even YOU?

Now there is a catch..

The compliment certainly has to be unique and more than unique it has to be genuine. A compliment such as “ You’re beautiful/sexy/hot/cute/pretty” is unreacted to for several reasons.

Reason #1

It’s obvious-She hears this ALL the time.

Reason #2

When you say “ You’re beautiful” you are stating this as if it is a fact. While YOU may perceive her as beautiful she may be the complete opposite to someone else. Now although she may hear the word beautiful all the time; changing “ You’re beautiful “ to “ I THINK you are beautiful “ will get you a completely different reaction – I guarantee it.

Reason #3

There is no YOU in this compliment. What more is she supposed to say other than “ Thank You ” while walking away. Exactly how do the men that walk around calling women hot/sexy expect them to respond? Lean into you and start making out with you? Grab your hand, take out a pen, and write their phone number on it? In what reality does this happen and why is it that the urban man sits around waiting for miracles instead of making them happen. This is your life; waiting will only get you what waiting has already gotten you.. Which is what?

Women wear tight dresses, high heels, and even walk the way they do because they WANT to be viewed as attractive. They want some guy to be confident enough in both himself and her to compliment her beauty without fear. So compliment her beauty relentlessly, do so with passion, high energy and she’ll love for you it.

The trick to successfully complimenting a woman’s looks is to state how the way she looks is making YOU feel. She doesn’t want to know she is attractive as much as she wants to know how much her attractiveness is affecting YOU. This is about YOU, this isn’t about her looking a certain way; it’s about her beauty filling you with fire from the inside out. No woman can resist a man confident enough to express how tempted he is to give into weakness because of her beauty.

I’ll give you an example..

Back when I experimented with the online dating thing, I realized that all men would do is compliment a woman on her looks and the women hated it. Why? Because they weren’t doing it the proper way. They would all say “ Hey Beautiful, Hey sexy, you’re hot etc. “. Now as you stated before, they could of received more responses if they said “ I think you’re sexy, I think you’re hot etc “, but I decided to take a different approach. I was going to describe in one or two lines how the way a woman looked was making me feel. I never had to read profiles.. I would just monitor my emotions while looking at their pictures and just describe this to them.

One of my favorite lines was “ Damn girl.. you make me wanna knit us both matching sweaters! “

I could send that to ten girls and get seven responses, because I was stating how the way she looked was making me FEEL.

A proper compliment tailored to a woman’s looks also does something powerful for your benefit. Not only will paying a woman a proper compliment heighten the way she perceives herself, but it will also heighten the way she perceives you. We’ve all heard the expression “ It takes one to know one “ and people are only mirrors of ourselves after all. When you comment to a person on anything they subconsciously think it must have something to do with you; by validating her attractiveness you also validate your own.

I used to date this girl named Natalia, and boy was she BEAUTIFUL… But she wasn’t always that way. Natalia was my next door neighbor when I lived in the suburbs. And before we were together I would see her from time to time, but I never really thought anything of her. Then one day I had a friend over who came into my house excited saying he had no idea I had such a sexy neighbor. He was also wondering why I had never made a move on her. I told him I didn’t think she was all that cute, and he told me I was crazy. So immaturely I said to myself “ Fine, I’m just going to sleep with her to score some cool points with my boy; not to mention, the idea of sleeping with a next door neighbor is a bit exciting.”

The next day I looked her up on facebook ( we went to high school together, she was three years older) and sent her a message:

Me: Hey, there’s this cute girl that lives in my neighbor hood.. You know her?

Her: (I don’t remember what she said but it was something like..) Haha yeah that’s me :)

Me: Dope.. So can I borrow some sugar?

Her: Sure :)

I think she thought I was joking, but I went right on over, knocked on her door and asked for sugar. She laughed, we talked for a bit and then we exchanged phone numbers. The whole time I am thinking “ This girl is not all that attractive -I’m not even sure I want to go through with this “. But I was on a mission and I was going to complete it. I called her a couple days later, chatted with her for 20 minutes and then invited her over for a back yard picnic. So there we were, hanging out in my backyard, me still thinking she’s not that cute, and then it all started… She went into a mind state where she began describing to me how attractive I was for about fifteen minutes. She had been in a metaphorical cocoon and once the compliments began to rain, she broke out and emerged as a butterfly. My eyes glazed over and I was hers. I ate it up guys and for the first time since I had seen her I began to view her as all of the things she was telling me I was.

“ Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” – General Lew Wallace

“ A pimple turns to a dimple when you’re in love” – Japanese Proverb

Long story short

I fell more in love with Natalia that I’ve ever fallen for any woman in my entire life, all because she made a habit of constantly telling me how amazing I was. And as I stated above; subconsciously I would associate all of these great things with her even though my original opinions of her were negative. Her opinions of me, became my opinions of her and she knew this. I had fallen for her, I became emotional over her, and she began looking for a new male the conquer with her silver forked tongue.

There is a lot of power in the compliment and we must also realize that the more compliments we give out to others the more compliments we get in return. Compliments boost both someone else’s confidence and our own so it’s a win-win situation. Just make sure they’re genuine, original and tailed directly to the person. “I like your dress” doesn’t cut it; it’s cliche and heard by someone somewhere every single day. Try “ That dress goes great with the tone of your skin, how did you know to pick that color? “ That’ll open up the person and get the conversation flowing, but just remember that it has to be honest and genuine. If you love women enough, this will all be easy for you. Just begin expressing to them how much you really do LOVE specific things about them and how these things are making you FEEL.

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PostPosted: Sat May 09, 2015 9:20 pm 
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Attract Women With An Abundance Mentality

What’s up guys,

It’s been a while since I’ve made a article post mainly due to all the writing I’ve been doing for my upcoming book I'm working on . That, combined with the answering emails, staying current with the forums, and the increase of clientele after the holiday season has left me with little time to contribute to my own blog. I had read a great article about the importance of waking up earlier recently and I decided to wake up two hours earlier than normal. This had allotted me additional time to contribute to areas of my life that I had recently been neglecting.

I want say thank you to all who are continuing to follow the blog and a big thank you to all who have sent me letters of appreciation for the content I’ve written here. Every “thank you” and every bit of recognition is more incentive for me to keep doing what I do. When you know someone is listening, you want to make sure you give them something worth listening to.

To continue, I want to discuss what I feel may be the most anti-seductive thing about the men in the culture of our society, and the men in many other developed nations today. And that happens to be : The Unwillingness To Make A Sacrifice. By choosing to understand that abundance does exist, abundance can very well be yours, especially when you consider the advantages of the society we are living in. We’re in this internet age where each and every day the speed at which we can acquire the tangibles we desire increases.

You want some food? Go to grubhub or seamless, click a couple buttons, and you can have a full cooked meal delivered to your front door in under an hour.

Feel like talking to a friend that lives halfway across the world? Not only can you call or text them in an instant, but you can even pull their face up in live time right on the monitor of your computer through Skype, Oovoo, or FaceTime .

Want some new clothes or some new shoes? Go to your favorite clothing websites, select the items you want, and they will have it personally shipped to your door. But not only that, most clothing stores and sites like eBay will give you a a discount if you decide to order online in opposition to taking more time out of your day by going to the store to purchase the item in person.

We are being encouraged from every angle to take the instant way out. Our dating has even become instant. Why go out to bars and night clubs to meet women when you can download apps like Tinder, Okcupid, and POF and literally have women at your door step in a couple of hours if you’re skilled enough? Why make a relationship work? Just get a new one. All it takes is the click of a button…Right? This has become our society.

There are two kinds of situations that I deal with the most frequently when it comes to the mentality of the men I work with. There is the guy who is so rooted in this instant age that he has lost all appreciation for the opposite sex. As I said above, why stress over a girl when you can click a button and whip up another one? Especially when you consider that there are more quality women than there are quality men. Any man that’s good with women and/or is frequently around social settings can tell you this. It’s said that 20% of the men sleep with 80% of the women. Think about it… How many of your friends in high school and college were truly getting laid consistently? I’m not talking about that she- was- drunk-lay once or twice a month; I’m talking about those actually getting laid consistently when they wanted to…

I went on a three day dry fast a couple of weeks ago in which I couldn’t eat food or drink water for 72 hours. And never in my life up until around the 40th hour did I realize how truly unappreciative I was for water. Water was everywhere and everyone was practically giving it away for free. I can walk into any public bath room in New York City, turn on the faucet, and have water in an instant. Water has become so insignificant that we pollute it now without even considering what this means for the future. So over the course of the dry fast, the thirst and the desire for water over that 72 hours led me to even marvel at little puddles of unclean water on the streets of NYC. As the man above, its very difficult to value anything that comes so easily and cheaply. I won’t get into the specifics of the dry-fast now, but just know that water literary shapes itself to the energy we are giving off to it at any giving moment. There’s a documentary called “Water” which breaks this down scientifically. The more you appreciate water the more the molecular structure of the water bonds together, and the healthier the water becomes for your body. Say “I Love You” to the water, and the water molecules bond together to form a shape that resembles a perfect snow flake; say “I hate you” and the molecules scatter and separate reducing the quality of the water. So the fast had many benefits physically, mentally, and spiritually, but the main one was that it had changed how valuable I perceived water to be; thus making all the water I put into my body from now on more beneficial.

I believe this happens with the people in our lives as well, and this is the problem all the men who lose appreciation for the opposite sex are having. Their lack of appreciation is causing the energy they give off to women to alter the emotional structure of the women in such a way that the women are becoming tasteless – reducing their quality. Women are becoming disposable, because like “water” they are seen everywhere and they are being accessed so easily. Remember when women were waiting until marriage to have sex? Nope. I’m guessing those were the days. Men were more likely to marry a woman because they knew there was no way she was going to sleep with them unless they did. Nowadays there are too many women that want commitment who don’t know of anything they can offer besides sex. And they even give that away before there is a commitment. So why would a man commit? Just so he can continuing getting what he was already getting without one? Give me a break.

Then there is the guy who understands the “instant” age but someway somehow he doesn’t believe he can get another girl better than the woman who is already in his life. And so they tolerate behavior from women that they shouldn’t; and if there is one thing a woman hates more than anything it is a man who is putting up with her shit. Men meet these women then lose their backbones and the woman’s respect for her man goes out the window. And once a woman loses respect for her man, the loves goes right on out the window with it. Even with all of the available dating websites, and beautiful single women all over the place in big cities, there are men that still hold on as if there isn’t another woman just like her a couple conversations away.

I’ve been a surviver of both situations in my life at one time or another. In my last relationship I had met a girl I had a lot in common with – we even had the same birthday. After the relationship ended I remember thinking ” I’ll probably never meet another women with the same birthday as me again”. I let that mentality cause me to internally hold on longer than I should have. And the moment I let that go and aligned myself back with the abundance mentality I had before the relationship, I met two attractive women over the course of the next three weeks who both shared the same birthday as me; and the woman I was with before. It was almost the universes way of saying, “Don’t you dare think I’m not capable of supplying you with abundance… Here’s goes two of them”.

I had always been lined up with an abundance mentality, but for whatever reason I had been led down this road once again to learn a few lessons I may of missed out on in the past. And because of this, I now had more women of a higher quality who wanted to be in my life than I had previously.

I think it’s important that every man who wants to be skilled at attracting women learn to practice an abundance mentality by letting them go. I’m not encouraging you to go around sleeping with tons of women and then letting them go; I’m encouraging you to let them go before it even reaches that point. Practice walking away from the women that you truly like before it even gets that far. When you’re out at a club or a bar and you finally see a “ten” and you get her phone number; delete it, immediately after and move on with your life.

Know from deep within yourself that it is the willingness to make that sacrifice that will energetically make you more attractive to “ten’s” in the future. A woman needs to know that you can stand on your own two feet and be fine without her for her to continue to feel attraction for you. And the best way to develop that in today’s society that i have found is to practice letting go of the women you truly want before you even dive all the way in. The universe will test you to make sure you are ready. You’ll meet some of the greatest women you’ll feel you’ve met ever, and if you pass the test when it does, a new world of abundance will open up for you. There are always higher levels.

For the guy who has lost appreciation for women I would encourage that you purge. Spend some time alone; spend some time in celibacy. When you go out to bars, don’t approach, just hang out with your friends and enjoy your drinks. Don’t answer any text from old girls, don’t masturbate, and definitely don’t watch any porn whether purging or not. I’ve had to do this several times in in my life. Ninety days of celibacy (no ejaculation) is said to rewire and reset the minds view on sexuality. Men who struggle to get an erection because of desensitization from over exposure to sex and/or the watching of pornography were said to correct their problem after ninety days without an ejaculation.

In closing, I think it’s important for men to find a healthy balance between the two men I described above. If you’re currently guy number one, spend some time purging, if you’re guy number two, practice getting the women you want and then letting them go until you find yourself within an emotional state and alignment that you’re comfortable with. Life is all about finding a healthy balance. Men too far in one direction shortly find themselves in the opposite direction because of the law of polarity – everything that goes up must come back down. Balance creates happiness and so balance is about hovering at a midway point so that one finds a healthy balance for themselves. Spend some time finding your own balance so that you can experience a higher level of emotional wellness and health within relationships. And let me also include that this is a male driven article; I think its important for men to learn how to attract and for women to learn how to be attracted. If a woman and a man both tried to adopt this same mentality they would naturally repel one another. Let one learn to attract and the other strengthen their ability to be attracted. Men being hunters, and being more assertive about their approach to meeting and dating women are better off being the one to attract those who are most capable of being attracted.

Thanks for Reading.

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PostPosted: Wed May 13, 2015 5:58 pm 
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TAKE CONTROL OVER YOUR EMOTION
After dealing with student after student who’s fallen in love and lost all connection with logic, it has come to my understanding that I need give my opinion on love and why its important to view it objectively. This so-called seduction community is full of men who want to get women, but what happens when they actually get with the women? They get over emotional, they ask for advice, and the men in the community tell them to just move onto another girl. So thats the advice? Get the girls and then just move on when you can no longer handle it? I’d like to meet the guru who first established this tactic.

Imagine you knew little to nothing about cars, but you bought a car anyway. The gas tank was on full when you bought it, so you go off driving. You’re having the time of your life and then all of a sudden the car slows down and eventually comes to a stop. At this point you have no idea whats going on – this was a perfectly good vehicle just moments ago. So you call the guy who sold you the car and you say “ Hey man, the car just stopped.. Its not working like it once was. What do I do? “ and he says “ Oh. This is when you just get a new car” . You reply “ I invested money into this car!” and all he can say is “ It didn’t work out with this one. You just have to get a new one “.

Thats is what is being taught in the seduction community. When things don’t work out with a girl; just move on and get a new one. No one is teaching us about gas and gas stations. And like the car analogy, no matter what car you get; they’ll all eventually run out of gas. With the understanding of what gas is and how to refill the car with gas, you’ll be able to drive any quality car for as long as you please.

Welcome to exxon mobile.

So the question is “ What Is Love? “

The answers can always get deeper, but I think on a surface level we can all agree that love is an emotion. Right?

Love is an emotion just as fear is an emotion; like anger is an emotion etc.

So lets put love aside for a moment and discuss another emotion; one we can all relate to… Lets talk about fear.

I would go deep into what fear is, but I don’t feel a need to reinvent the wheel. This guy below pretty much nails it. Watch this and we’ll continue

https://youtu.be/ZUdHX1Bent0

F.E.A.R – False Evidence Appearing Real

“ Your fear is always about whats going to happen next. That means your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non existent, your fear is one hundred percent imaginary. If you’re suffering from the non existential, we call that insanity. “

Socially acceptable levels of insanity…

How many of us are constantly afraid of our own imagination?

How many of us are suffering from our own emotions?

So wouldn’t that mean that having a fear about approaching a woman is a mild form of insanity. What is it exactly that we’re afraid of? In what way does that fear serve us?

We have to begin to observe our fears and eliminate the ones that serve no purpose what so ever. Purposeless fear is true insanity. For example: a man that is afraid to stand on the edge of a rooftop certainly hasn’t lost his mind. He fears potentially slipping and ruining his life. So the fear of heights on a mild level is useful to protect whoever has that fear from danger – understandable; the fear serves a purpose. Now what if that fear got out of control. What if the fear of heights grew so big that one couldn’t even be on the inside of a tall building? We would then view that man as insane. So this brings me to the big question concerning fear(which is an emotion just as LOVE is an Emotion). Is this mans fear of being inside a tall building valid? Just because his emotion is telling him that it is dangerous to be inside the building, does that mean that it is in fact dangerous? Surely it doesn’t, it is just something his own subconscious created within him for one reason or another. You following?

Now what about the people lost in love? Sure love is great; falling in love feels great, I’m not talking about the people who are healthily in love. The emotion serves a purpose in healthy situations. It allows there to be a amorous bond between two people which allows them to come together and potentially build a family to further the human population. It affords them happiness, passion, meaning to life, and so many other things. But here I’m talking about the men and women who are in destructive relationships and assume that just because they FEEL an emotion; it means that they must follow that feeling. Its insanity, just like the example of the man above who is afraid to enter a tall building.

I believe all feelings have to be monitored. We have to begin to understand them for what they are. They are just FEELINGS, and only have purpose when we attribute it to them. A mans stage freight doesn’t mean that he doesn’t belong on stage, an angered man feeling like physically attacking the person in front of him does not mean he should, and just because you feel emotionally drawn to a woman or man that does not mean that you have to be with them.

Emotions help us interpret life; emotions are not interpretations of life.

I was once the guy that let his emotions get the best of him with women far too often. It was a routine for me; I was constantly falling in love and thinking that just because I felt the need to call a girl ten times back to back when she didn’t answer that I had to. I lacked self control; and because I let my emotions get the best of me. The women in my life lost respect for me and my emotional immaturity began to push them away. It wasn’t until enough trail and error that something finally clicked in my brain. I realized that the emotions that were occurring in my body were just FEELINGS, nothing more – JUST FEELINGS. I began to understand the importance of being objective about the meaning I would attribute to these emotions. I was then able to figure out which ones were healthy to act on, and which ones would be a burden to others to act on. This allowed me some level of mastery over myself and the women in my life all once began to develop a richer level of respect for me as a man. They viewed me as someone they could turn to when there emotions were on the rise. I was no longer a burden to them, I was one who could show them how to prevent themselves from being a burden to others.

If you take anything from this, understand that emotions are simply feelings to help us get through life. They are not the meaning of life. Lets begin to evaluate our emotions and figure out which ones have purpose and which ones do not. Not all feelings of love have purpose, just as not all feelings of fear, jealousy, and anger have purpose. Act on the feelings that have been adding value to your life and find creative ways to channel the ones that do not. And just remember that your FEELING of emotions at times can mean absolutely nothing. Consciously control the subconscious; because it will try its best to subconsciously control you.

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I woke up to an epiphany this morning that will probably stick with me for the rest of my life. I intend to share it here in hopes that it can have at least some of that effect on anyone that reads this.

So I’ll just get into it..

I have been dating this woman for the past month and a half and she’s been great. Now of course no one is perfect, she just encompasses all the positives I could say I wanted before I met her. I remember saying to myself after the first few weeks of knowing her that “ I don’t know if there is somebody out there for everybody, but there was somebody out there for me. “ She’s that. So anyway, like many of us do while going into a relationship that seems promising from the start my naivety led me to the assumption that things we going to be easy. I assumed that because we were so well matched that any conflicts that we could have would be minor and insignificant. And boy was I wrong. I’ve always known that women test us as men. The test aren’t intended to be malicious; their test are carried out simply because they want us to become better than we are. A woman needs to be able to feel her mans strength; she needs to know that her man can handle her in her wildest moments so that she can be secure in being with him. A woman wants to feel safe with her man, she wants to know that she’ll never be left out to dry, and the more you ensure her that she won’t be, the more she must test you to see whether or not she can trust your word.

So I always tell guys to encourage there woman to be strong; compliment her and help her become a greater version of herself that she can be so that the test she throws your way are more intense. Their test can only make us stronger and as long as a man is rooted in his masculinity he never need worry about passing a test thrown at him by his woman. As a young guy I would worry about boosting my woman confidence because I would be in fear of her getting out control. I liked her how she was – easy to handle, and so I tried my best to keep her that way, because she was at a level that I felt comfortable handling the things she threw at me. And so I would begin to resent the women I was with; they weren’t pushing me to grow and so I lost attraction for them. I wouldn’t stay with them all while being too immature to understand what was happening and so I would repeat this cycle over and over again. Eventually I understood what was going on and began to do the opposite. I began to compliment my woman more, telling her what she meant to me, and how important I believe what we have is. And what I found is a woman doesn’t take this new found self esteem to use it to lift her head above the world. She takes that energy and uses it to give it right back to me. I discovered that women were saving accounts with interest rates beyond my wildest explanations. They give us back everything we give them with a lot more behind it. I’m almost certain that old expression “ Hell hath no fury like a woman scorn” had its inception in a case in which a man wronged his woman deeply and so she gave it back to him with the interest I spoke of. And so if a man understands this, he understands that he can never out give his woman whether for the good or for the bad. Show her strength and she will be weak around you so that you can feel stronger; show her weakness and she will be strong around you in attempt to make you strong. Become weaker in this face of her strength and she will become even stronger and eventually devour the man that doesn’t rise up and claim what is his masculine right. Black women tend to get the reputation for being “Strong” and hard to deal with, and I believe that is due to the men not being able to rise in the face of their strength so the woman can feel comfortable being weak around him. A woman is a mans polar opposite and if he won’t rise to the plate and display his strength she will have to reflect it in hopes that he will recognize her for this and pick up the slack. A strong woman will always make a strong man. And it is through her releasing of that strength by being weak around the man that she can trust to be responsible with her, that he will rise up in both his strength and power. And in this they become one flesh.

So I had to relearn what I stated above over this past week. The time had called for me to deal with the imbalance being reflected to me by my partner. She was calling for more strength and I wasn’t centered in my masculinity enough to give it to her; so as she once would shrink in the face of my strength so that i become stronger; she grew stronger in the face of my weakness. She had began to take notice of my controlling nature and she was calling for me to be better than this. I couldn’t see it at the time; all I could wonder is why on earth my woman was all off a sudden such a challenge to deal with. She wanted more, because I was asking her for more. She wanted me to be greater than the selfishness within me that lead me to wanting things exactly how I wanted them and when I wanted them.

At first I was struggling with the imbalance because I was consciously trying to assert myself over her in order to get respect. And it is through that situation that I understood that instead of asserting myself, all I need do is relax back into the masculinity that I have been given that I will prevail and my woman will trust me once again. It is nature and it is natural to a woman rooted in her femininity to want her man to be strong so that she can feel comfortable with surrendering herself to him. Women want to surrender, they just mean a man strong enough to handle them when they decide to give themselves.

After the night of conflict I had woke up to the answer; it was streaming through my mind clearly. It said “ You don’t have to give your woman instruction. Let her be who she is and have patience. If you’re practicing what you preach she’ll follow “. And so that was it. I had spent so much energy in relationships trying to assert my authority over my woman and giving them instruction that I didn’t understand that the women in my life weren’t listening to what I said as much as they were listening to what I do. Through the showing of a mans strength his woman naturally begins to pick up on his behaviors (both bad and good). So if a man can remain patient and remain strong in the face of his woman doing things that are unpleasing, she will eventually alter her behavior to reflect a behavior that will cause her man to feel more love for her. And the stronger a man in his what he is asking his woman to do the quicker she will begin to do as he would like. I had been telling women in my life to do things that I wasn’t full committed to doing myself and I had to understand that as the leader in the relationship I can not expect something out of someone before I was fully giving that myself.

So this is my calling to all men to lead more so by action and less so by word. As Ive stated many times “ Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny. Lead your women first by your destiny, then your character, following your habits, your actions, and then your words/thoughts.

Now it is okay for a man to give instruction to his woman; in fact most women like and appreciate this, just be sure to do so from a place of understanding. From a place in which you are sure that the things you have asked have made it all the way to your destiny before you put it upon others. Because the more you ask of her, the more that she will ask of you so that she can be compliant. Rise into your strength and relax into the man that you were called to be and all imbalances experienced with your woman will quickly dissolve.

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Great post! Thanks man

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Why You Must Fall In Love With Women

What I have begin to find is that the men who seem to be struggling with women the most do not have a genuine love for women. It would appear that they like women because they have a desire to approach them and go after them, but I wonder what their reasoning for liking women actually is. Do they like women because they want to have sex with them or do they like women because they understand and like what women are?

For example: What parts of a woman turn you on sexually? Is it just her butt and her breast? The very same parts that have been sexualized by society. Or do you and can you become sexually aroused by any part of the female physical make up or physiological make up?

If you can’t, that could be the root of why it is you don’t have the abundant amount of women in your life that you would like.

I often tell guys that one key aspect of being attractive to women is to develop a psychotic level of self confidence. A confidence that isn’t affected by what anything other than what you think about yourself. Take an anorexic for example: Anorexia is mental disease in which a man or female who is extremely underweight still looks in the mirror and perceives themselves as fat regardless of how skinny they get. With bones, skin, and organs being the only parts of their body left they continue to starve themselves because they feel self conscious about looking fat. Its a self confidence issue from my perspective. And many men need to develop reverse anorexia when it comes to how they feel about themselves. A man needs to view himself as the most attractive man on earth regardless of what he looks like, because a woman cares more about how you feel about yourself than they do about how they feel about you. When a mans frame is strong enough a woman will submit herself to his frame. So whether you’re frame is “I’m an ugly fat loser” or your frame is “ I’m the most attractive man on earth” she will take on the beliefs that you have about yourself to be the beliefs she has about you – in part.

The remainder of what she will take on is the feelings that you have about her. If you think she is special you will communicate to her from a frame that says she’s unique and not only will she feel unique, but she will begin to attribute the things you feel about her to be things she feels about you. People are mirrors of ourselves and subconsciously we know this. So like the old expression goes.. “ it takes one to know one” – what you think about yourself and what you think about women will begin to make up what it is they think about you.

The brings me to the topic at hand.

The more attracted you become to a woman without compromising your integrity for her the more attractive she will feel and the more attractive she will feel you are. Build her up and you will become the beneficiary of that which was built up.

So just as a man is instructed to develop a reverse anorexia type of psychotic self confidence, it would be wise for him to develop a psychotic level of attraction to women as a whole. An attraction that is based around more than their physical features. And this attraction isn’t something a man would necessarily have to express verbally, this attraction will influence his state of mind, which will influence his frame/vibe which will influence how the women around him FEEL when he is around. If every time you’re around, a woman feels completely loved and desired how often do you think she would want to be around you?

Her care for Facebook and Instagram likes will begin to diminish, because the man in her life will have developed a damn near psychotic level of attraction for her.

So how do you do this you ask?

Get rid of the pornography for starters. All porn is doing is entertaining you in the moment while completely desensitizing you in the future. The more porn you watch the more and more ridicules it has to become to continue to sexually stimulate you. Ridding your life of porn and thing like “online dating sites” that allow you to see countless women over and over while comparing them to the women just swipes away all work to toward lowering the amount of dopamine your brain releases when you see attractive women. For more on this go visit ( www.YourBrainOnPorn.com)

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As I have repeated in damn near a fourth of all of my articles, “ your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character and your character becomes your destiny. “

If one wishes to develop a psychotic level of attraction to women and a psychotic level of belief in their own ability they must first think it with continuous repetition until it becomes belief.

Beliefs are the thoughts that we have repeated over and over for years upon years until we no longer have to think them because they have become ingrained into our mental make up as belief.

This isn’t some quick fix article, I don’t cook microwaved food. This is an introduction into developing yourself into a love filled home cooked meal.

If you currently have a girlfriend train yourself to become sexually attracted to everything from her ankles to her eyelids. All attraction starts as the thoughts that we have in our own mind. And the more attracted to your woman you are the more of herself she will hand over to you.

A man must fight off the mental temptation to fall into seductive stagnancy. You know the times in which you begin to look at your girl and you’ve gotten used to her…You know, when your thoughts of her are no longer as stimulating as they once were when you first met her? No one caused that but YOU, slowly but surely you got lazy and/or focused on other things and forgot to appreciate your woman beyond the point in which you WON the “game”. You have to reverse this process and depending on how far along you are it will take more time and effort for some as it will for some others.

When you see her or when you think of her begin to tell yourself how sexually attracted you are to her smile, her lips, her cheeks, her thighs, her calfs, her butt, her shoulders, her mind, the sound of her voice, the way she blinks, the way she walks, the way she sits, her tone when she says your name and so on. Begin to repeat over and over how attracted you are to the aspects of her that no one has even thought of but you. You have to convince yourself and over time you will be able to enjoy your woman once again as you had enjoyed her when you first met her.

If you don’t have a girl the secret lies in how you feel about both women and yourself as I stated above. Begin to train yourself to see yourself as attractive by mentally and outwardly repeating to yourself “ I am the most attractive man in the history of the planet” “I am smart, funny, humorous and happy” “ I have the ability to man any woman life full, wonderful, and complete”. Tell yourself “ Women are beautiful, loving, and kind” “ Women love me, they show me great deals of attention, and I want them in my life” “I love the way women walk, the look the way they talk, I love all aspects of a woman”. Repeat these things nine trillion times if it takes because, the more these thoughts go from just being thoughts to becoming beliefs through mental and verbal repetition, the more you will see yourself as attractive, and the more women will find themselves attracted to you.

It all starts in our thoughts. And people treat us how we treat ourselves first, and how we treat them second. Become deeply attracted to women and they will become deeply attracted to you.

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Is Playing Hard To Get Necessary?

I received a question today through email and I figured I would turn it into an article, because the question has been asked over and over again.

The question went as follows..

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Ok so this is definitely one aspect of game that I find very confusing.

The game places great emphasis on making the girl wait, ending conversations first, not coming across as needy etc.

But, at the same time there is a very thin line between coming across as needy and coming across as uninterested.

My question basically centers around this topic. How do you guys know when to hold back and make the girl miss you and when do you know that this is when you should show interest by initiating a conversation?

And since we are on the topic of making her wait, how long should one wait for the girl to initiate contact? I’ve seen guys who wait up to 1 week after last contact and it seems to work for them but it doesn’t make it any less confusing,

Would you be kind enough to shed some light on this issue?


I don’t consciously follow ANY of those rules, but those tend to be things that just NATURALLY happen with men who easily attract women. However, if you’re trying to fake it or do it because its what you THINK works; a chick will sniff you out as being unauthentic, immature, and dishonest.

What men have to understand is that it is feminine in nature to feel like you have to fight those petty battles and play these petty games with women. If you are a man and you are rooted in your masculinity a woman who is rooted in her femininity will natural submit to that which you are. It’s never so much about what you do with women as it is about the place and position you are coming from when you take to action. Women run on their intuition and I’ve seen a study that suggests that women are ten times more intuitive than men(we can’t even picture what that is like), therefore a woman cares more about the intuitive place of the action you are performing more so than they do the actual action. Feminine women are the subconscious and they are attracted to what is in the subconscious of the men that they are interested in. All of the superficial physical attributes don’t mean diddly squat after five minutes of conversation. How do you think a woman knows who to reject and who to accept after an approach? What is it that they are looking for? If two men walk up to a woman and both say “hello”, what makes a woman open to one approach versus another? The answer is what is it in the subconscious mind which is influencing the “how” and the “why” of a guy’s actions in the moment.

It’s never about what you do, what you say, or what you think; Its all about the place within your SOUL that your actions and words are coming from.

If a man calls a woman 10 times in a row, but in her heart and soul her intuition knows for a fact that he is not needy she will not perceive his actions as being needy. Now on the flip side, if a man calls a woman twice in a row and her intuition alarms her that he is needy, because he actually was he will be seen by her as such.

Guys will often ask questions like “So how do I come across as not needy so that chicks will find me as a busy guy that is more interesting?” And my answer has always been and will always be “You become that which you want people to perceive you as”. I’ve never been in the business of lying, pretending, and/or manipulating a woman in to thinking i am something i am not just so that I can get closer to them. It always has its ways of backfiring and blowing back up in the guy’s face down the line. Getting good with women isn’t about faking some act or playing some game to attract them, getting good with women is all about cultivating a space WITHIN yourself that women find attractive. That way it doesn’t really matter what you do on the outside(or what you look like) the women will be attracted to the light that shines from within you.

Its my theory that women don’t necessarily see “looks” or physical attributes when they see men. I believe that women subconsciously see different variations and qualities of light radiating from each person. I live in New York City and can often see what would be deemed as unattractive men with high quality women. And no they aren’t rich; not always at least. The guy I know that has gotten the most girls I’ve seen in my life was a hotel security guard that was six foot three, 350 pounds and he wasn’t much of a looker either. Not to mention, 80% of my clientele are always in shape, good looking, and highly intelligent guys. So it is not what is ON the man that women find attractive; it is what is IN the man that the women more are attracted to.

Quality women don’t objectivity men the way that we objectify women. They’re more interested in how we feel about our own selves than they are about how they feel about us. Any man that truly believes that he is attractive will radiate attractive light from his inside on outward. He will walk like an attractive man, talk like an attractive man, and expect women to be attracted to him because he finds himself attractive first. A man that believes he is unattractive regardless of how he looks will mope around with a lack luster attitude and will be viewed as that which he perceives himself to be. Sure he may get one or two petty fucks from women with their own heads up their ass, but he won’t ever get the fulfillment from the types of women he is actually looking for. This is why the concept of INNER-GAME is the only thing about the PUA community that I feel is actually important. There is nothing else to care for other than what is inside. Men are visual creatures; we are motivated by what we see, but women are internal creatures and are a lot more motivated by what’s beneath the surface.

So guys may ask.. “ Then how is it that I see rich wealthy men with all of the girls? “

And I’ll tell them that the majority of the wealthy people I know feel good about their wealth. And this fits directly into the concept that women are more concerned with how YOU feel about what you have than about what you actually have. It just so happens that most people with wealth feel good about what they have acquired and so women feel good being around that energy. Most poor people do not feel good about their state of poverty so it will be a challenge for them to motivate someone to be with them unless there are a lot of other areas of their life that they feel good about. Although I do know of a number of what would be considered “poor” men who live off of the wealth of the women they sleep with. And that is just because these are men who feel good enough about themselves that they radiate a light bright enough that women want to be around.

So the trick to becoming more attractive with women is to first develop yourself from the inside so that you can shine a light bright enough that women will be magnetically drawn to. If you want direct specifics on how to do this you can send me a PM.

But in a general sense I’m a firm believer that our thoughts become our words, our words, become our actions, our actions become our habits, our habits become our character and our character becomes our destiny.

I believe a man has three opportunities to correct himself, if he is not yet strong enough to control his thoughts he must control his words because they will influence his actions; if he is not yet strong enough to control his words, he must control his actions because they will influence his destiny. It all starts with the mind; produce the thoughts that you want people to feel about you by first thinking those thoughts about your own self. The people around us are affected by the energy that we give off. If we want attraction we must feed our minds attraction; we must look ourselves in the mirror and think “ I am attractive”, say “I am attractive”, behave like we are attractive, and the world will follow suit. Be the leader of your own life; feel what you want others to feel first. Fix the inside and the outside will take care of itself.

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The 7 Things All Men Need To Stop Doing



Lying To Women


The isn’t a chronological list that’s in order of ” most important to least important” but this first one is more important than any of the others. The bad reputation that is associated with “players” is directly linked back to the lies players have been known to tell in order to get what they want. No one hates the guy that is sexual active and completely honest about it, but we all hate the guy who lies and tries to hide his reputation. This generation more than any other has become aware of how much owning your truth can affect your life. Take a look at someone like charlamange the god(the most popular urban radio personality), he says controversial things all the time and has a bit of a bad reputation. So what allows him to continue to be successful despite his reputation? What allows people that are more world reknown to love and respect him? The fact that he is always honest when he is confronted with the truth. He’s publicly spoke about his penis size and him taking magnum rx pills to try an enlarge it to no avail; along with many other things. And he remains to be accepted because he isn’t ashamed of his decisions.

The past is the past and there is nothing that can be done to change that. Lying about it only lowers your own self worth and confidence. Every time you lie you take a step down in consciousness, and every time you tell the truth you take a step up. People may not always directly know when you’re lying, but they can feel it. There is always a noticeable shift in the vibe when someone gives into weakness and decides to be dishonest.

I find that quality women make a point to bait us into lying when we first approach them; they ask us a question because they want to see if we’re “real” or not. In that moment, they’ll look us into the eye and wait for our response; checking to see if we pass the “real/fake” challenge. Now if we lie, they’ll lose all attraction for us and we’ll find ourselves in a position where we “can’t think of anything to say”. At that point we have to move on to the next girl; or confess our lie and see what happens.

If you deal with quality women you know exactly what i’m talking about, but even if you don’t, this is a good practice that’ll prepare you for the moments when you are.

Telling People Who They Slept With

This is another big one; who you sleep with is your business and your business alone. What you and your girlfriend do behind closed doors is not something to brag to your boys about. Girls gossip, leave that to them; as players we have to have a bit more integrity. Getting laid is no longer some badge of honor; that’s high school stuff. If you feel the need to talk about it, chances are it doesn’t happen to you often.

And I don’t know about you guys, but when a guy tells me all the wild things he’s been doing with his girl it’s a bit of a challenge to view her the same. Naturally you’ll sexualize them in your mind; and I don’t want that for me or any of my friends. Also, when you’re a guy that keep his business on the low; a lot more women will gravitate to you. They’ll feel like they can trust you and they’ll get a bit wilder in the bed with you than they would with the average Joe. It’s all in the vibe you give off and your character(the things you do when no one is watching) effects your vibe. So give off that ” what we do is our business and no one else’s ” vibe and watch how much more attention you’ll get from women.

i.e. Think about Vegas.. the famous quote ” what happens in Vegas stays in vegas” inspires many women every night to get a little loose.

Bros Before Hoes

I love women just as much as the next guy but a lot of these interactions are temporary. What we have with are boys has usually been in place for sometime and has a higher probability of being in place than things in place with women. Think about it.. how many of your boys from the past are you still cool with? How many of the women from your past can you still rely on? That speaks for itself.

Nothing fustrates a guy more when his buddy chooses a woman over his friends. Because if she’s a real girl, someone you can have a sustainable relationship with, you won’t have to choose.

Don’t leave your boy alone to go get laid, don’t sneak around with women he likes behind his back even if he can’t get with them – unless he gives you the green light. There are billions of other women to choose from so your bros must always always come first. This is the rule; friendships hold a lot more value then pussy does.

Keeping Score

I notice that a lot of guys keep a count of the number of women they sleep with as if that is suppose to mean something. I know a number of guys that have slept with a lot of women but I don’t consider them players. Mainly because they had to lie and manipulate to get what they want. If you have to lie to get laid; the lay is empty and meaningless. That empty feeling will usually follow up behind each new partner.

Players aren’t out there sleeping with women to validate themselves. Players just genuinely love women and/or love having sex with them. The amount doesn’t matter; we’re validated by how thoroughly we serve our purpose, and not by the sexual acts we engage in with others. Don’t count the number and certainly don’t brag about what the number already is. Do things because you enjoy them and not because they make you feel better about yourself.

The Blame Game

I find it odd that men consider themselves leaders when they point fingers at women for the downfall of their relationships. It’s a kings job to successfully lead his kingdom dispite it’s condition. Could you imagine if Barack Obama started pointing fingers at the American citizens for the downfall of the American encomonmy? What kind of leader would he be? Sure some people inherit difficult situations like our current president has; but he still has to do his best to change things or risk being nailed to the cross.

No where in history has the collective group of citizens in nation been blamed for the destruction of their civilization. We hear about Cesar, Napoleon, Alexander the great, Hitler, Stalin etc. They are the ones that take the wrap; not the people that follow. So as a leader in your relationship/group of friends, you are never to blame them for the reason things went left. Accept full responsibility, unless you’re not a leader of course; and if you aren’t a leader, you aren’t a player so this article isn’t for you.

Keeping Quiet

I was in my local market the other day and at the counter was a boy around the age 10. He was speaking to the store clerk about which over the counter pain reliever he should take for his headache. In his hand was a soda and he waited as the clerk reached to hand him a Tylenol. Surprised by the situation I stepped in immediately and spoke to the kid first ” 90% of headaches come from a lack of water in the body, so if you put that soda back and grab a bottle of water you should feel better. “

He went on to what I suggested and as he left I had a quick word with the clerk. ” you know better than that man, that kid is only ten years old”. He knodded to me in shame, I paid for my items and left.

I say this to say; speak up for what’s right. We all fall short; I don’t speak up as much as I should, but it’s important that we fight through our natural resistance and do what’s right. There is a powerful feeling that comes from doing something positive for someone else. You’ll feel better, you raise a level in consciousness, and you will be aiding a fellow human at the same time. Sounds like a win, win, win to me. Everyday we are presented with opportunities to take a stand. So do not hold your tongue, stand up and speak your truth even if it means you’ll be taking a temporary loss. This is what being a true leader is all about.

Tunnel Vision On Pussy

Pussy is great, love is awesome, and women are even better, but there is more to life. The majority of the men that I’ve met that are great with women don’t have much money. Seducting women is their sharpest skill and it tends to be what consumes all of their time. As a result they are left with a lot of sex, but very little cash to live off of. That’s where the women come in and help support them; so it doesn’t fully click that they may have to make money on their own. Players don’t live like this; a true player will not sacrifice a shot at an advancement in their personal life for a shot at a new piece of ass.

Sure if you want to be the best you have to dedicate a lot of you off time to improving, but don’t forget that there is more to life. We all have a purpose and a reason for living; life is about advancing and leaving things behind when we past that can help the next generation. What work are you leaving behind for others? Children to raise? That’s all it will be until you begin to think about chasing things other than women.

A player chases himself first; women will always come second to that.

There are many more of these things that we as players must stop doing, but let’s crawl before we walk. I’ll leave you with this seven for now. Until next time.

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Act Like A Man, Think Like A Woman

I’ve always believed in and written about the concept of  having an abundant mentality, but not until recent did I wrap my head around the concept in a way that I had never before. 

For one reason or another I’ve been getting approached by women more than I ever have in my life. Women have been approaching me indirectly and asking me questions to some of the most obvious questions. 

“Hey, excuse me do you have the time?” – While their phone is in their hand.

“Do you know how to get to “ 34th Street” – while we’re on 34th Street.

Right after I’d tell them, they’d always seem to linger around for about 5-7 seconds, waiting on me to continue the conversation. Now, while I normally engage with women I approach, I’ve been a bit thrown off by the gesture and, as a result, I’ve just stood there wondering if there was anything else they wanted to ask me before they nervously and reluctantly said “well okay…thanks” and walked away. 

Women have been behaving more like men toward me, and I realized that it was happening right around the time I started to think like a woman.

You see, a highly attractive woman has the ultimate abundance mentality. Guys are cat calling them, approaching them, and writing to them on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter hundreds of times a day. As a result, they have no problem taking a break from the madness. They don’t mind putting their phone on silent or airplane mode and leaving it out of reach for a couple hours. They’ll cut a guy off that they were once into. They’ll even block certain guys on social media and on their phones so the guys can’t contact them if they wanted to. They’ll reject a quality guy, they’ll say no to “sex”, and they’ll walk away from a guy completely because they understand (and experience) that there will always be another attractive male trying to be in their life; there will always be another attractive male trying to sleep with them. 

That’s the difference between the mindset of guys who aren’t successful with women and the mindset of attractive women and men who are. The average joe won’t turn his phone on airplane mode, because he’s too afraid of missing out on an opportunity with a girl he likes. He won’t block a girl from contacting him – that he likes – even if she disrespects him, because he doesn’t want to miss out, if she decides to contact him. He won’t walk away from a girl he becomes somewhat emotionally attached to without trying everything he can first, because in his life, high quality women don’t come around often. He will never reject sex, if a woman throws it at him, and he will never turn down an attractive women that tries to come on to him. 

Now, what the average guy doesn’t realize is, because he “thinks” this way, because he tries to milk the most out every single opportunity with every attractive women that comes his way, he is developing a mindset that becomes a mild repellant to women. Consequently, he has to work a lot harder, chase women up & down, sell himself, and practically convince women that they should consider dating him. The mindset he has and the frame he projects makes women suspicious. They have to test him more, they have to screen him thoroughly, and they have to qualify him. Women aren’t just falling into his lap, because they get the intuitive sense that he would date anyone that was attractive. He seems to have no real standards beyond the surface, so she needs the guy to convince her. And if he’s has the gift of gab, but lacks the true “abundant female mindset”, she will find out that she’s been with a loser in a couple of months – that he wasn’t real, he just convinced her he was.

So, what men have to do is begin walking away from women that don’t live up to their standards. Not only is this going to make women build themselves up more, but it’s going to cause you to project a frame that says “ I HAVE STANDARDS, AND I WILL NOT DEAL WITH ANY WOMAN WHO DOESN’T LIVE UP TO THEM”. And thats the most attractive thing a man can do. A woman wants to feel chosen, she doesn’t want to feel like you settled for her. They want to feel special, they want to know that you could have dated any woman in this world if you wanted to, but you chose her because she is the one woman that met your standards. She is exactly the one you were looking for. 

So, as men we have to begin to develop standards beyond the surface, if we don’t have them already. Because, if all you require is for a woman to be attractive, thats all she will be. That’s a huge part of what is contributing to the madness we’re looking at on social media today. If she’s pretty enough, she can make hundreds of thousands of dollars a year. What is this teaching the younger women? What does this make them feel they have to aspire to? There is a place for money to be made off of beauty, but that can’t be ALL our women are into. A young girl without the proper guidance or role models can instantly view that as her ticket to success. We all know that beauty fades, so when the looks wear off and even younger women replace them, what will we be left with? 

I think it’s wrong for us men to complain about women when we’re the ones that are not holding them to higher standards. And this goes for women too. If every woman decided today, that they would not sleep with a man that wasn’t an intellectual, every man would be walking around with a book in his hand. That would elevate society immediately. A lot of power is held by the standards on which we base attraction. Women hold that power over men, and men over women. So will complaining about each other change a thing? No. But collectively holding each other to higher standards will. 

And it all starts with each of us as individuals. 

You attract what you think. Think abundantly, speak abundantly, act abundantly, and you will find your life being filled with abundance very shortly. Women have been approaching me for the simple fact that I’ve been letting go of the ones who didn’t live up to my standards. I’m projecting something different. My mindset influences my frame, my frame influences my aura/presence, and these things contribute to what a woman will intuitively pick up from me when I walk into the room. And when they finally see something different, they may just take their shot, just as we men do.

So this is my PSA, if you will. Learn to walk away while there are still options left. It’s easy to walk away when you’ve tried everything else; that’s not abundance. The hard part is walking away when you may still have a chance, but you know that the woman is not up to your standard. The hard part is turning down sex from a woman who you know isn’t up to par. 

But once you begin to do that, the types of women you really want will take notice.

We can’t hide anything in this world. Everything we do, whether in public or in private, will determine what we project from within us. Every action, every word spoken, and every thought is emitted from us.

Emit abundance… Get abundance.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 11, 2015 8:20 pm 
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Give Credence To The Support Of A Woman

I was sitting inside of my uncles awning office earlier and I had begun thinking about my weekend. It was one of my close friends birthday this weekend and although I didn’t feel like going out; I had to go out and get him wasted like I promised.

So here I am – the guy that doesn’t drink, out with a bunch of old friends while they pre-game. We’re laughing, joking, and eventually we end up at The Woods in Williamsburg Brooklyn. I’m doing the usual lookout for attractive women, and the girl next to me is “accidentally ” rubbing her breast against my arm. I pay it no mind initially, so she leans over into me and says ” What’s going through your mind right now “. I’m like ” I’m just enjoying the moment.. What is your name”. She lets me know her name, we shake hands, and after a bit of small talk her boyfriend walks over to save his relationship. I introduce myself to him and then head off to buy my friend a few more drinks before I head out of here.

I get the drinks, hang out for a bit and then on my way to the door I spot a beautiful girl in a white dress. She’s walking right by me and on instinct I gently grab her wrist as to say ” Hey slow down.. I’m falling for you “. She turns, we lock eye contact, and for a moment it almost feels like we know each other. There was a full eight seconds spent in pure silence before either of us said anything. Eventually she smiled and I just went in to hug her. She introduced herself in this beautiful English accent all while telling me that she won’t be in the country for much longer. My mind began to scramble and disappointment was creeping in so I ask her to come with me. She frowned and apologized for not being able to. I go for the number, but she has no working phone in America. She says she’ll add me on Facebook as I reluctantly let her go and make my way to the door.

Right before I reach the exit I spot another cute girl in a turquoise dress sitting at the corner of the bar. I walk on over to her, throw my arm around her shoulder and say ” Hey, I’m headed out, but your super hot; so this is me asking for your number ” She looks at my eyes suspiciously looking for any signs that she can trust me in there and says ” What’s your name”. I say ” Eddie ” and I smile. She gives me that ‘you’re lucky you’re cute ‘ look an says ” okay I’ll give you my number “. I get the number, we talk for another minute and then I head home.

The next day around six in the evening I text the girl wearing the turquoise dress.

Me: ” You going out tonight? “

Her: ” How and where did we meet again? I’m sorry I don’t really remember “

Me: “Lol last night.. You were sitting at the bar. I walked over, threw my arm around you, and got you number before I left “

Her: ” Haha I don’t remember at all. A lot of people were throwing their arms!”

Me: ” Can you blame them? You were looking all fiiiinnnnnnnnneeee “

Her: ” Lol would you mine sending me a photo to refresh my memory ”

Me: ( I sent her my facebook)

Her:” I was planning on catching a bus to go to providence at 10:30pm since I’m getting bored here. Would you like to meet up for dinner before?”

At this point I call her and boy was she’s cool. It turns out that she was visiting a friend of hers in NYC and had to leave this very night. I explain to her that there’s no need to go to back to providence just yet. I tell her she can stay with me and head back home in the morning. We go back and forth for a bit and then she agrees. I text her my address and she texts me to remind me that she’s over 6 feet tall before she comes. I chuckled… Awesome!

When she gets in my place, naturally her defenses were up. She was a little standoffish and aloof; what I believe was a challenge to the confidence I displayed over the phone. I felt the energy as soon as she walked in the room, but this is my apartment so I’m cool. At the end of the day, if I was smooth enough to get her to come , I can get her to come again. Ya feel me? :)

So she tells me she’s hungry, as she did on the phone. So I head to my kitchen to see if I have any food. There was nothing that wouldn’t take over 30 mins to cook. But no worries, I figure I’ll just order her something from GrubHub.

On the way back to my laptop to log onto GH, I see her on sitting on my sofa with my computer in her lap. I walk on over to her and as she feels me near she looks up with wide eyes and says ” YOU’RE HITCH!? “

I smile, snatch my computer from her and say ” who said you could look through my stuff? “

She repeats the question from before, but calmer this time around.

I reply ” yes “

She tests me immediately ” so what are you going to do when this doesn’t work out? “

I laughed an said ” I’m actually doing okay”

I let her go through the stuff she was looking at. After reading my testimonials, she started to relax a bit. She realized that I wasn’t what she thought.

She’s one of those girls that hear about pick up lines and say things like ” that would never work on me “.

And here she was, square in my living room with one of the guys who teaches the ” that would never work me” material.

She asks me a million questions, I order her food, and put on Don Jon when the food arrives. At this point we’re having a little small talk during the movie; an since the movies about porn it was natural that our conversation would transition into sex. Halfway through the movie, I suggest we watch the rest in my bed. She agrees and off we go. While in my bed I honestly wanted to turn the movie off and get to making out. I could tell she wanted to do the same, but for whatever reason I decide to suffer through it; just so I can ” finish what I start”(whatever that means). Once the movies over she turns over an faces the wall and I’m laying there like 0_o.

I give it about two minutes just to see if she makes a move that would suggest that she’s ready to go at it..

*Two Minutes later*

She’s laying there still – not moving.

So I reach an lightly pull on her shoulder; suggesting her to turn around and she turns around instantly. Now we’re making out, and she’s awesome at it. Soft lips; and she knows exactly what to do with her hands during the process… I’m in heaven… I touch her everywhere I want an she shows no resistance. She’s into me; and i’m into her.

Hooking up with tall women has been a bit awkward for me in the past; but this one knows exactly what she’s doing. I don’t even look at tall women the same anymore. I tell her all of this by the way; and she’s pleased she gets to set the tone for all of the tall women I may decide to encounter in the future.

I’m constantly praising the women I’m with; and their praising me as a result. It’s like we’re playing this ” I bet I can raise your confidence more than you can raise mine ” game. It’s competitive and a win- win for the both of us.

I started loving this girl.. it was weird.

So as the story continues – unfortunately, but maybe fortunately I didn’t have a condom… We each thought about it not using one, but you know.. shit gets real out here.

I like to think that us not having sex, kept a certain level of desire between us for each other. And when there’s women out there having that “desire” for you, it’s energy that adds to your overall vibe. Girls can feel a guy who is desired by women; so the more you have women as a whole desiring you, the more they’ll feel that energy coming off of you – vice versa.

When you have sex and ejaculate most of the time there is this depleted feeling. Its almost as if you’re ejaculating all of the emotions you had for the girl prior right out of your penis. And all desire for you have for them leaves; which eventually leads to the desire they have for you leaving. Women love men that love women – women desire men who desire women. Although, when you’re working with injaculation that desire remains, but injaculation is hit or miss for me; it’s something i’m still working on.

Anyways..

We made out and touched each other the whole night.. I made her squirt with my fingers a couple times and then she warned me that if I continue I would be needing a new bed. I decided to take her advice on that one. I’ve had those experiences in the past, and it does make sleeping difficult. So after a bit more; we cuddle it out until the morning. She wakes up thankful, I wake up thankful and we talk a bit, before I call her cab so she could head back to Rhode Island.

Before she goes, I ask her when she’ll be in New York again, and she informs me that she’s moving in two weeks to become a teacher in Hawaii. Naturally we have to let it go; and before she walked out the door, the look she gave me and the look I gave her suggested that if we ever saw each other again it would be on.

She entered the taxi, drove away, and I thought about taking a trip to Hawaii…


Moral Of The Story:

I selected this story because even after this day; me and this girl still maintain a decent level of rapport over a distance. It’s always nice to have women texting you just to let you know you’re still on their mind and that you’re awesome.

This girl in particular texted me to “thank me” a few days later; and i’m the one that thought I should be thanking her. I was good to her though; I was kind and generous, and because of this she is always going to be sending positive energy my way – which will fuel the “good karma/good luck” that will be coming into my life. We should begin to see all the people who come into our lives as opportunities to be add value to the life of another in whatever way we can. That energy always comes back around to assist us when we need it. When I was younger and less self aware; I would sleep with women and call them cabs the same night. I was cold and women could feel that energy coming off of me. It made attracting the highest of quality women more of a challenge. Now these same women flock to me a bit more than they used to. It’s a woman’s intuition;I read somewhere that female intuition is fifteen times stronger than a male intuition. We get physical strength and they’re a bit more psychic than we are; instinctively women just know when we aren’t being genuine. Its not like they hear a clear voice in their heads about it; alarms just go off and they slowly but surely begin losing attraction for the violater. I know it sounds like some “spooky” hogwash, but this is real – ask any other guy that does halfway decent with women.

Women are people; they have souls and if you’re going to have a sexual experience with them; treat them like it.

Just take a look at the world we live in today. Seventy percent of all music is bought by women, seventy percent of clothing, concert tickets, books, shoes, etc is all bought by women. So who is it that are actually supporters of the world? If you had to align yourself with a support system; which group would be better to align yourself with? Men or women? You know how it goes; the man makes the money and the woman spends his money.

Guys have this “bro’s over hoes” mentality and I do agree with it on some level. Don’t let some new girl walk into your life and destroy a friendship, but there is a level in which this doesn’t apply. It is for this reason that I do business with men and spend leisure time with women. Now of course I have my brothers, but more off then not you’ll find me hanging out with women.

Men tend to get jealous of each other and the ego begins to run its course. We see each other as competition. So we don’t buy each others music as much, we don’t buy each others books, clothes, etc. because we’re looking for people to buy ours. Now if we only knew that if they bought others music more, others would buy our music more things would change. And thats a whole different topic for a different time, but this is something women understand. Which is part of the reason it looks like they’re taking over the planet.

Instinctively women don’t see men as their competition, so it’s much easier for a woman to show their support to a man than it is for a man to do the same.

Let take wildlife in nature for example. How often do you see male animals hanging out with other male animals?

You see one lion and 4-5 lionesses.

One rooster and fifteen hens.

One bull and ten cows.


Nature sets the example; so I believe it is wise to align ourselves with more women. The support they offer is unparalleled to the majority of the support you’re going to get from any man . And There’s nothing wrong with getting laid, but when you do, be kind. Lay there with them the extra thirty minutes even when you don’t want to. You’ll probably want to have sex again after that time is up anyway. But even if you don’t, they’ll appreciate that extra time. And the support they offer you will be well worth it. Thats something you can’t buy.

If i’ve ever learned anything from dealing with the opposite sex; I’ve learned that you can never out give a woman. There’s a level of selflessness within them that allows them behave in this manner; whether that be for positive or negativity. That old bible verse cliche ” Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn” has been perpetuated through society for a reason.

Now this write does apply to men as well as it applies to men; I’ve just advising that we be a bit more conscious when dealing with women. And in no way am I encouraging you to take shit for anyone; women included. Know your boundaries and hold everyone else to them, but as long as people are operating within them there is no reason not to be kind. Be sexual, be assertive, and be confident, but most important of all.. Be KIND.

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Reject Me, I Dare You

After a two month hiatus I went out a couple clubs and bars this weekend and to my surprise not one of the guys I saw were doing anything other than standing around with a drink in their hands. I could practically see the boredom dripping off of the dresses of some of the sexiest women New York City had to offer; just wishing someone was brave enough to show them a good time. The saddest part is when I looked at the male bystanders I could see the child in their eyes just wanting to come out and play. A blind man could spot how bored these women were but for whatever reason the mens social conditioning was sitting in the drivers seat; and the inner child was in the back seat asking ” Are We There Yet? so I can get out and play”. I instantly understood why so many of our women are becoming lesbians; what other choice do they have? From the looks of things, other girls are the only ones who aren’t afraid to approach and dance with each other. The majority of our men have turned into dry, loose, and smelly pussies.

You would think with all websites like this and the popularity of the whole ” Pick Up Artist” scene that their would be more heroes saving the day out there. Instead, there is just a bigger audience ready to cheer on the guys like us who are getting involved. Just happy for the knowledge;lacking all the motivation to actually make something of themselves.

Anyways; I wasn’t going to stand around much longer, my friend Myles was in town today; not to mention I paid a $20 cover to get into the place. I was with a group of four( Not a good number for picking up chicks by the way) and after two mins of checking out the nervous Men and bored/Fed up with these losers hot girls I made my first move. I turned directly around to a group of about seven girls who were standing behind me. I threw my arms around the two who were closest to me, and spoke to the group: ” Guys come dance with me and my friends. Theres no way you guys came out to stand around”. I could instantly tell the majority of the group was excited they had finally been approached; there eyes lit up, and then they looked at the ” Group Leader ( the prettiest Girl Of The group)” for confirmation. And instead of grabbing her hand and pulling her out onto the dance floor, I waited around for her response which was a poor played move on my part. ” Um umm umm I think we’re just going to have a ladies night tonight” was her response. The rest of the group looked like deflated balloons after this; if no one else approaches them, they could be having another boring night. I engaged the pretty girl of the group in conversation trying to reason with her so she would give her pawns permission to go out and finally dance. We laughed a bit, she offered me her number for a rain-check, I declined and turned around to see my three friends still standing there.

We split into groups, I took Myles with me and my other two friends went there own way. We made our rounds at the place and made a few more small approaches and danced with a few girls. My attitude the entire night was ” Reject me! I dare you” and I would look into the eyes of every girl I approached with that same intensity. ” Go on and reject me, I dare you to”. All that did was put them on their toes, few of them actually had the balls to take me up on that dare. Ironically enough, I had been away from the scene for so long that I was nervous before every approach I made this entire night. But whats nerves to a guy like me? Can you please remind me. I wasn’t out to gain anything in particular on this night; I’ve been pretty comfortable with the woman I have at the moment. My mission was to make sure my group, got with chicks and had a good time.

Shortly after the groups separation, Myles taps me on the shoulder and points to a group of about 8 or 9 girls all standing in a corner alone – barely even talking to each other. I wasn’t going to make the same mistake again. I walked right on over to the group, grabbed the hands of the most attractive one out of them all and pulled her onto the dance floor. Myles followed up and did the same, we danced with them a bit and the rest of my group spotted the scene and joined in. They exchanged contact info with the girls and then after we had approached every attractive girl in the entire club, we moved on to the next one to do the same. Myles went on to tear the clubs up that night – that guy was on fire! I wished you guys could of seen him; he had the exact same attitude. It wasn’t ” I don’t care if I get rejected it”, the attitude was ” Reject me.. I dare you” and he meant it.

If you read this forum there is no reason for you to be a WallFlower. When you approach women anywhere, even if you are approaching them during the day. Approach them with the attitude ” Reject me.. I dare you”. Master that attitude and the amount of reject you deal with will cut in half.

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Disrupt Her Reality

Have you ever wondered how you can get beautiful women to chase you?

How you can get the attention of beautiful women women without doing much of anything?

No matter what method you use, the key element to every method involves disrupting the reality of a woman. I have learned how to get a beautiful woman to come after me and chase me down.

Now, there is more than one way to do this; you could throw your shot glass at her from across the bar and hit her square in the face… Don’t do that.

Or my preferred method.

You could simply change you way that you look at all the beautiful women you desire.

When I do this, she now becomes the girl that I “wanted” (past tense).

Do you ever wonder why it is always the unattractive girls that are seeking out your attention? Why can’t it be the supermodels and strippers that are drooling all over you? It certainly can be, but you must first take them off of that psychological pedestal you have placed them on.

Many men have made a commitment to themselves to no longer drool over beautiful women and many have given up buying them drinks etc. But few have managed to discontinue idolizing these women in there minds. Some guys can handle not even staring at them anymore, but how many of you feel absolutely nothing on the inside when a 10 out of 10 hottie walks by you on the street?

For you to understand this concept you must first understand that humans emit energy from their bodies every second of every day. Whatever it is you are thinking and feeling at the moment, that is the energy other people around you are feeling from you.

Have you ever had one of those days when you are feeling on top of the world, like no one can touch you and everyone just seems to be responding to you positively?

That is because your thoughts revolve around positivity and you are sending that positive energy into everyone around you. Wouldn’t you like to have that feeling a lot more often…? Don’t you want to Feel Like “The Man” More Often?

There are a few things that help with this; the most important thing is what you are eating and drinking. What you put into your body is a direct reflection what’s on the inside; Mentality physically and spiritually. Hence the reason for the expression ” you are what you eat”.

It’s simple logic that if you eat good you will feel good. I challenge you to begin checking the ingredients labels on the food you’re consuming and research exactly what some of that stuff does to your bodies, your mind, your spirit; you will be surprised.

Another important thing is your breathing; when the brain is properly oxygenated it creates endorphin and endorphins are the same chemicals that make you feel good after a long work out. Pay attention to your breathing when you are feeling anxiety or fear; the breathing is likely to be shallow and rapid. On the other hand, when you are feeling good the breaths becomes deep and long. Train your self to take deep long breaths while in the face of any situation and your body will begin to repeat this habit on its own.

How does this tie into beautiful women you ask? When you feel good, you have a higher sex drive, emit positive energy and people will just want to be around you. Simple as that..

Back To Disrupting Her Reality

To disrupt her reality you have to give a woman a reaction energetically that is the complete opposite of everything you feel from other people everyday.

You need to emit an energy that causes an alarm in her current reality; in order to bring peace back into her world she must do everything it takes to shut that alarm off( making you see her as a goddess like everyone else does). Everyone else becomes irrelevant and you become the only thing that matters.

Just imagine if we managed to achieve world peace and in the hearts of every man they vowed to never kill or harm another; and then all of a sudden one guy started killing and hurting people. He could kill whoever he wanted and be untouchable because no one else would do harm.

He would cause a disruption in the accepted reality and everyone else would have to abide by his rules in order to get him to stop. He becomes the most important person in the world because he is the only one rebelling. This man can then become king of the world as long as he vowed to never kill another.

This is what you must do with the beautiful women that men so desperately want. Shake up their world; every other guy sees them as some super goddess and emits that energy into them. You must emit the opposite, when you do they will do anything at any cost to get you to stop. So they can resume their world of peace where everyone sees them as beautiful.

You have to turn up the violence(metaphorically) and disrupt her world and she will do anything to bring back the world peace. Even if that means, making you king over her world.

How do you do this you ask?

Instead of turning you energy to the beautiful women when you see them you turn you energy to inward( I go deeper into this in my boot camp). She is no longer some super goddess, she is just a woman. No different from the over weight girl that passed by right before her.

They both have two arms two legs, tits and a vagina. Disrupt her reality guys, all women are equal, the hot one is nothing special. Ask yourself when you see any women you want, “how can I disrupt her reality?”… And then she is yours.

Game and seduction is 99% mental guys… Every memorable experience you have ever has is because the experience disrupted your reality. This is why this is so important.. You can do this guys!

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Dear Femininity, Men Want You Back

My last article was on the subject of men and women holding each other to higher standards, so we can each begin to improve the quality of ourselves, each other, and the quality of mates we’re attracting into our lives.

I had received a great deal of emails from women thanking me for giving them hope, saying things like “Thank you, I now know that it’s okay not to settle for less than what I deserve”. And while I agree with them, I can’t help but notice a common theme amongst the women of the 21st century.

You ready for it?

I find that many women lack the feminine version of the qualities that they desire in a man; and also, their desire to be liked for the same reasons that they like a man. The high-majority of women who I speak with day to day, are completely out of touch with what it is that attract men, and what it is that men desire. And so they are continually frustrated, because we as men are not attracted to them for the same reasons that they are attracted to us.

For example:

I meet a lot of these successful independent women who say things like “I have my Master’s degree, I make over $100,000 dollars a year, I can fend for myself, why can’t I find a decent man?” And what these women don’t realize is that men are not biologically programmed to look at a woman for what she can provide. So the amount of money a woman makes a year means absolutely nothing to the biological reasons that men find women attractive. I would even go so far as to say that any man who is looking to a woman for what she can provide isn’t a man. That’s not how “men” are wired. Women are biologically programmed to look at a man for what he can provide, the same way they look toward a man biologically as a figure of protection. Real men (in my dame dash voice) do not operate this way. A man should not look for his woman to protect him. Imagine a man saying to a group of his friends “Yo… I love my girl man. Last night she killed a big ass spider for me. I was scared as shit. I screamed and she just jumped up and killed it. She’s dope“.

Ladies… what would you do if there was an intruder in the home and your man hid underneath the bed and asked you if you could go out and deal with it? You would probably lose every nanobyte of respect and attraction for that man. Why does that happen? Because biologically you are wired to look to a man as a figure of strength who could protect you if he could.

Ever go on a date with a man who just doesn’t make you feel “safe”? Were you attracted to that man? Of course not.

So why is it that women get into this habit of expecting us to like them for the same reasons that they like us?

I’ll have a woman say something like “Eddie… I love you” and I will genuinely say “thank you” in appreciation that she has expressed herself to me in such a way, and do you know what she’ll say? “Why didn’t you say that you loved me too?” I’ll say “Why do you love me?” She’ll usually say something like “because you’re so funny, wise, and insightful”. I’ll respond genuinely “So why should I love you ‘too’ because I’m funny, wise and insightful? You saying that you love me right now is predicated upon how you feel in this moment. Why do you expect me to love you in this moment the same way you love me, when you’re not doing the same things I am doing in this moment to be loved?”

The problem is, many women I speak with have completely lost touch with what it is that men want and find attractive. With all of the studying they do on men, they still somehow can’t wrap their head around this concept.

So I wrote this piece as a call to women to begin checking whether or not they are the feminine version of that which a man is looking for.

If I make a $100,000 a year and you make $100,000 a year, and one of the reasons you “like me” is because I do decent financially, and I would be able to provide for you if I had too, that doesn’t mean that I am suppose to like you equally for making the hundred thousand dollars.

I say this because, I am not programmed biologically to like you for your ability to provide. We are not equal in terms of attraction in that regard. My $100,000 means something to you biologically – something to the core of your nature. But, your $100,000 means absolutely nothing to me biologically – nothing to the core of my nature. Financial security has nothing to do with the core reasons that I feel attraction for a woman.

A man will approach the girl coming out of McDonalds, with the same type of intensity and desire as the woman walking down Wall Street. If she possesses and has developed/cultivated the qualities that attract him biologically, the money that she makes doesn’t mean a thing.

I want to repeat this again… Any man who feels attraction for you because of how well you do financially is NOT a man. And you will find yourself not attracted to him, and at constant war with him after the honeymoon phase. The man that you want, if you are in tune with your femininity, is the man that will hold you to the standards of what attracts him biologically.

So I agree that a woman should hold the men to the standard of being able to provide if necessary, and a man should hold women to the standard of being that which he finds attractive – which I’ll get into in a second.

This is not some outdated way of thinking… this is our nature. This is what has allowed us to function for thousands of years in harmony. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the world is currently being destroyed at alarming rates, and the natural fabric of how a man and woman function naturally together is also being destroyed. I believe these extremely high divorce rates, lack of couples getting married, and just unhappy relationships in general, are all a product of this confusion. And each gender is pointing the finger at the other without us realizing what the problem actually is. We are being socially conditioned away from out nature and it is destroying the reasons that we come together.

I now ask the reader… “How many people do you know that you can legit say are in a healthy and happy relationship?”

It’s gotten so bad that break up and divorces have become the norm. We almost expect it now. How often do you expect your guy and girl friends’ boyfriend/girlfriends to stay together? I find many people counting the seconds until it’s over. I know that when I was in high school and the girl I crushed on got into a relationship, I knew it was only a matter of time before I got my shot.

So what is it that men want? Now just as being able to “provide” and being able to “protect” is just two of the many aspects that women are naturally programmed to look for in a man, I will provide two of the many aspects that men are programmed to look for in a woman. For more aspects feel free to send me an email and I can speak with you on this.

1. The Visual – Most women have a difficult time wrapping their heads around this because they believe that they are visual too. And they’re not. At least not in the way that men are visual. For an example of the difference you can watch the videos below:

The Men: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2alnVIj1Jf8

The Women: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUy3_kBme4M

The videos show the difference in the male versus the female reaction to being catfished. In the first video men speak with a woman on tinder who’s, fit and slender, but when she appears on the date she is about 100 pounds heavier than she was in the photo. The same thing happens in the second video; but this time its women meeting up with a guy they thought was in shape, but turns out to be 100 pounds heavier than his photo.

In this video, the women are all a lot more open to giving the overweight “deceiver” a chance than the men are to giving the overweight deceiving woman a chance. The men in the video are practically incapable of functioning. They just can’t handle or look beyond the visual. They ask no further questions, they’re completely uncomfortable and can see nothing else. The women on the other hand are open to see who this guy is, why he may have lied, and if he is someone they can at least be friends with. Someone they can possibly encourage or help. The men… well they took off running.

Now why do you think this is? If you read the comments on the video you will see that a lot of women were offended that the men didn’t respond in the fashion in which they would have responded. Which completely breaks down the reason why I am writing this piece. Men are not attracted to and/or open to women for the same reasons that women are attracted to and/or open to men.

Let’s take Cleopatra for example: it is said that the key to Cleopatra’s consistent ability to seduce some of the most powerful men in the world in that time, is because of her understanding of the male visual. She would completely seduce and dazzle the men of that time with the visual; Robert Greens “The Art of Seduction” even quotes:

“Only one image of Cleopatra survives – A barley visible profile on a coin, but we have numerous written descriptions. She had a long thin face and a somewhat pointed nose; her dominate features were her wonderfully large eyes. Her seductive power however, did not lie in her looks – indeed many among the women of Alexandria were considerately more beautiful than she. What she did have above all women was the ability to distract a man. In reality, Cleopatra was physically unexceptional and had no political power, yet both Caesar and Mark Anthony, brave and clever men saw none of this. What they saw was a woman who constantly transformed herself before their eyes, a one-woman spectacle. Her dress and make up changed from day to day, but always gave her a heightened goddess like appearance […] by the time your head lay on the pillow beside her, your mind was spinning with images and dreams […] you never possessed Cleopatra, you worshiped her […] From Cleopatra we learn that it is not beauty that makes a seductress/siren, but rather a theatrical streak that allows a woman to embody a man’s fantasies […] A man is easily deceived by appearances ; he has weakness for the visual. Create the physical presence of a siren (heightened sexual allure mixed with a regal and theatrical manner) and he is trapped. He cannot grow bored with you yet he cannot discard you. Keep up the distractions and never let him see who you really are. He will follow you until he drowns. “

Mark Anthony and Julius Caesar are both men that could have had access to the most attractive women of all kinds and creeds across the entire planet. But it was Cleopatra, “A woman that had been exiled from Egypt” with the understanding of the male visual that gave her access to the most powerful men the world had to offer. These men even neglected their responsibility and duties within their own country to remain with her in Egypt. Mark Anthony had even known all about how she had seduced Caesar and brought down his kingdom and he still found himself unable to resist her. Think about that… (I’d encourage any woman further interested in this topic to look up the book “The Art of Seduction” and the chapter titled “The Siren” which is the first chapter of the book)

2. The Desire to Feel Powerful – I spoke about this in my Go Pro radio interview a bit more extensively, but to paraphrase… All men have this innate desire to feel as if they are kings of the earth. To Feel Powerful. The more testosterone the male has, the stronger his desire for this. It is what drives a man to want the most attractive woman to parade around and show off, and it is what drives him to want to make the most money. It is a symbol to other men that he is the most dominant and powerful one of them all. All masculine mammals in nature have this battle. There is always one male that has to rise to be the Alpha male of the group. It is even said that in some species of male animals just 5% of the males produce 95% of the children of that species. Imagine if humans were like that? Well… I can’t say that we’re that much different. I’ve heard that 20% of the men sleep with 80% of the women. There is a masculine desire within each of us to want to dominate and conquer as much as we can. Testosterone even works as an agent to nullify oxytocin which will prevent a man from developing a chemical/emotional bond with the women he has sex with. This is why men can be so detached after sex – especially around a woman whose only way to make a man feel powerful was through the opening of her legs. Once he’s conquered what far too many women hold onto as if it’s some golden ticket that no one else has but them, he will be off to the next conquest. Unless however, a woman comes to terms with the principles that will keep the guy around.

I’ve found that far too many women remain quiet. A man wants to know when he is and how he is affecting you. He needs you to express yourself without the fear that he may or may not be feeling the same.

A woman will text a guy something like “Do you miss me? “ – Which really means she misses him, but she’s not comfortable saying so unless she is sure he feels the same. This is anti-seductive; had she had the self-esteem and confidence to be transparent and just say something like “I miss you. You make me feel so tingly on the inside, I don’t know what to do” she would be sub-communicating to the man that he is powerful. He has the ability to make her miss him and feel tingly.

One of the main reasons why a man likes to have sex is not because of the fifteen second orgasm that he gets when it’s over. It is the moaning, the groaning, and the scratching from his woman that he desires, because that is a sign to him that he is powerful. Having the ability to make a woman moan, groan, and scratch. This is why you can search the internet and find men obsessed over how to please their woman. It is not just to make a woman orgasm, but so that the man himself can feel powerful – knowing he has the ability to give pleasure.

So on the equal level of the visual I find this to be almost of a greater importance. The wives of some of today’s most powerful men on earth are not that physically attractive, but I’m almost certain that they have the ability to make their man feel powerful; and it is probably this ability that inspired the man to have the confidence to take his current position.

Be open, be transparent, and outwardly express how great his ability to affect you is, and the man will crave the words that leave your mouth to no end.

So to wrap this up… I just want the female readers to make sure that they are not trying to be the exact representation of that which they look for in a man. Rather they be the feminine representation of the qualities that men seek from them. If you want a man that makes 25 million dollars a year, just make sure you have a 25 million dollar ability to stimulate him through your visual (not just physical feature) and a 25 million dollar ability to give him dramatic and transparent presentations of what you feel his power to be. Just because a woman is making 25 million, doesn’t mean that she qualifies to get a man that makes 25 million. Because once again, he is not looking at your ability to provide to determine how attracted to you he is. If you want to make lots of money that’s great, but understand that your high level of education and the amount of money you make a year, means little to nothing to a real man’s (one that will make you happy) desire to want you for anything more than just sex.

The society of today has put too much emphasis on masculinity. It’s the only thing highlighted; so much so that many of the women today are being imitations of masculinity. No one talks about the innate power of a woman. It’s almost as if to be a woman is something you should be ashamed of. If we’re going to go forward as a society, I think it’s important that we begin to highlight both the power of a woman and exactly what that power is so that little girls can desire to be that which is closest to their nature.

It is through a great woman’s visual, energetic and transparent verbal stimulation that a man is inspired to rise to the height of his potential. Which is why the statement “Behind every great man, is a great woman” is something I whole heartily agree with. We need each other, and we need you to join us, and not compete with us so that we can live in harmony. How many of our great leaders were without a woman? Women are the divine energy. They are the inspiration for all creation on this planet. Men just take the energy that they give us and put it into practice. But it is the woman who gives birth to the energy to begin with. She conceives it, she gives it life, – the man raises it, and creates the physical manifestation of it. We are to come together as a team, each with our own role to become ONE complete body together. We aren’t meant to compete with one another the way we are today.

Men do not have the ability to conceive and inspire through the creation of energy. We create with the energy, we are not the creators of the energy. So if women start doing what they have the power to do and discontinue being imitations of masculinity, our society and generation can rise to its greatest heights once again. And it is the responsibility of us as men to be strong enough to bring this to their attention. Far too many men are willing to just roll over and get fucked by the direction of society. What happened to our warriors? What happened to our voices? What happened to our leaders? I will be addressing us as men more advertently in my next piece.

Thanks for reading.

Eddie Fews

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Social Changes To Improve Social Success

I watched an interview not too long ago where I was reminded of a time when I was recently confronted with energy from a social situations negative affect on my level of productivity. If you own a copy of, The Secret Laws of Social Wisdom you would have read the law on the numbing of our everyday senses. This is especially true in large cities such as my own (New York City). We as people are constantly being bombarded with information, bright lights, foul smells, loud noises, etc. that are so unnatural to humanity that they are slowly but surely destroying our capacity to FEEL. The numbing happens so gradually that one cannot fathom what is even going on, unless they “resensitize” themselves to their environment. Anyone that has ever gained or lost weight can tell you that without photos of themselves or the changing number on the scale they could not notice the difference between their body when they were just 10-15 pounds lighter or heavier. That is largely due to the fact that we are with ourselves and looking at ourselves daily. It’s a challenging thing to follow, besides the majority of our perception of our external is due to the emotional state of our internal. Ever feel really great in an outfit one day and then feel shitty in it just a couple weeks later? The outfit didn’t change and neither did our bodies, the only difference now is the mindset.

So, as I have been resensitizing, I had been able to pick the influence subtle energies had been having over how I’ve been feeling throughout my everyday life.

Just recently I decided to begin a new routine where I would begin taking my work out of the home to great cafes in affluent parts of New York City. While working from home I would often find myself working from the bed, falling asleep every other hour and getting ‘ just enough to get by’ amounts of work done. While working in areas surrounded by other workers I became influenced by the collective energy of productivity. I had yet to develop a work space in my home and considering my neighborhood, the energy that radiated throughout my building/neighborhood was not exactly one of wealth builders and productive personal. So I purchased my monthly metro card and vowed to head outside of the house a minimum of 5 days a week to the best neighborhoods New York have to offer.

When I first made the decision, I was very much excited. The simple thought of a new routine that would bring a higher level of wealth and positive energy into my life had my mind racing with new ideas and personal goals. I jumped up, got dressed, threw a good unread book and my Macbook into my business bag and ran for the door. When I got to the front of my building I was confronted by a well-known lethargic resident with a zest for conversation about sports and rap music. A mid-forties man with a good heart who had never really accomplished much; nor did he ever appear to have a desire to. He is content where he is and that is fine for anyone who wants to live this way. I’ve always considered him an acquaintance and whenever he would see me he couldn’t wait to stop me to discuss the latest hip-hop and sports news and this time was no different.

As I exited the front door he delightfully called out “Yo man… did you see any new rap battles lately!?”, I respond politely, trying my best to hold onto all of the new ideas I came up with just before leaving the house “Nah not yet… what’s a good one to watch?”. We go back and forth a bit and before you knew it I was sucked in! Ten minutes had passed and I was still here talking about things that weren’t going to get me anywhere. At around the fifteenth minute I had begun to feel like going back up stairs and taking a nap. I honestly had forgotten all of the ideas and all of the passion that I once had to tackle my new routine, had dissipated all at once. At this moment I realized that I had begun to share energy with the fellow that I was speaking with. Some of my passion had naturally diffused into him and some of his lethargy had naturally diffused into me energetically.

It’s no surprise that we hear statements like “He’s a product of his environment” and “A man is a combination of the five people he spends the most of his time around”. It’s all the subtle distribution of energies going from one person into the other and so on. And as soon as I had this realization I instantly looked at my “former” neighborhood acquaintance and said “Hey man… I gotta go”. I hauled off still feeling unmotivated and lethargic, but just an hour afterward my ideas and passion had begun to return. I was back with a vision and a new perspective on social interactions.

We as people must understand that we are not just what we eat, but we are what we consume through all of our senses. Every sense is collecting information for the brain and thus telling it how to respond to its environment. Just as the eyes adjust to allow more light in so one can see in a dark room, the mind and energetic vibrations of our bodies adjust to the people we share energy with. The body is made to adapt to its environment, whether for the better or for the worst.

The music we listen to is a part of our diets. The noises from the environment around us is a part of our diets. A man living in a home in which there is much debate and quarrel is consuming the energy from the quarrel from the ears without even knowing. These things all influence the direction of the mind. These are a part of our ear’s diet.

The programs we watch, the books we read, the posters, and signs on our walls are a part of our eye’s diet. The neighborhoods, the quality of light, the cleanliness etc. This is why I recommend solar gazing to all who are capable. Staring into the sun has many benefits, but one of the main benefits is its direct source of food for the eyes; and the eyes are closest to our brains. Its brain food; light into the eyes shining directly into the brain.

The food we taste, the drinks we drink all are a part of our mouth and body’s diets. The stomach creates blood from the foods we consume – blood cell create tissues, and tissues come together to make and repair organs. Not to mention our blood is the body fluid that is directly connected to our spirits. Poor blood, because of poor food consumption will result in a poor connection with the spirit.

The comfort around us, the quality of the materials that are on our skin; the plushness of our beds all tell the body whether it should remain in that section or not. When in a cold environment the brain sends signals to the body to seek warmth, and when in a plush environment the brain sends signals to the body to remain present. This is why many have trouble getting out of their ultra comfortable beds in the morning. The body seeks pleasure and comfort and when those things are present, so does the innate motivation to do anything. The bodies being told that it’s in good space.

The smells we take in are all a part of the diet of our noses. Ever walk into a smelly room and are initially disgusted by it until your body is sent the signal from your brain that this is natural and so you smell the smell no more? You have adapted to the smell of the room; the brain has sought to deliver you “comfort” in your current environment. And if the brain is told to seek comfort in the presence of foul smells, it will begin to wire itself to seek this whenever you are away from that which it has taught itself to adapt to. This will have a subtle influence on how the mind is wired to seek “needed”.

And once again, these things all happen so gradually and slowly that it is challenge to notice that any change is taking place. This is why it is important that we resensitize so we can know how we’re being influenced by our external environments. We’ll reengineer our ability to FEEL the subtle changes.

So anyone struggling with a level of motivation can easily create change in their life by switching the environment. Whether that be moving the body some place more influential physically or by changing the signs/posters/music/food/level of comfort around them within the home.

Our circumstances won’t change until we change our entire diets. And our diets are largely due to what is going on in our environments.

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