Black Phantom wrote:
By your post, I kind of get a feel that you're very intellectual person, who probably thinks and analyzes a lot.
But I do want to say, you are making this WAAAY WAAAY too complex for yourself.
You are over-thinking, and overanalysing a simple thing as to say a "Hi" to a girl.
But for the sake of answering it, and not leaving you with just a philosophy, let me give you some
practical EASY ways to start a conversation.
A lot of times, you'd be in a grocery store, buying food and stuff, and you'd see a girl looking at a can of beans,
while you're looking for soup. So as she's reading the label, gently ask her, "Hey did you try any of these soups,
I'm looking for a good recommendation.."
And you'll get a conversation started.
I don't know why, but guys are scared to death to stop a woman on the street. Well actually, I do know why, as
I was one of the guys who couldn't do it.
But let's say a woman is walking down the street, and she's not talking on her phone, she's not listening to
music...she's just walking.
If she's walking in the direction towards you, you slowly stop and say, "Hey, I saw you from over there and noticed
your energy...I said to myself, i have to say "Hi" to this girl...where are you headed?"
And start a conversation.
More importantly than what you say to her is to say it in a way as if you already know each other. Like she's a
friend you talked to 5min ago, and you're just picking up on the conversation...
In bars and clubs, especially clubs, you won't see a woman by herself. She will usually be escorted by a girlfriend,
and very often they will be dancing.
Once you pass them, you can casually say, "Nice moves...who's a better dancer?"
And later when they tell you, you can say, "And which one knows the lyrics to all the songs?"
Clubs are like alternate reality for women, because there, they rule. They have drunk guys hoovering around them
like bees around a fresh flower.
That's why you don't want to linger on a girl or a group of girls.
Say something - and then move on.
Ultimately, if you want to eliminate your approach anxiety, where you actually can say your lines to girls, then I
invite you and anyone reading this to join my small test group, where I'm testing a new AA Cure, that cures
AA in under an hour.
You can read more in my signature.
So follow these inputs, and remember - less thinking and more action. You will learn more about
approaching if you go out and at least try these lines on 3 different women, than if you read 13 books on
Hope this helps,
Thanks for the response. Surprised by your answer TBH as it doesn't involve saying anything ridiculous. Although I totally appreciate the alternative approach which often evokes a response, albeit a negative one from a certain type of woman.