I have social anxiety. I cannot interact with women. I try to muster all the courage possible and I just can't do it. I always embarrass and humiliate myself somehow. Obviously no girl wants a guy who has social anxiety. They have far better options to choose from. Any suggestions on how to approach women despite having social anxiety
I have social anxiety as well, but i've been working on it very intensely every since i started doing pickup & self-improvement almost 4 years ago. So i can really relate to your struggle.
When you approach any girl, assume familiarity
. And that is basically..go up to her as if "you already know her", and as if "she already knows you". If you approach every girl with this mindset, you will minimize your approach anxiety on the approach. FYI..you have to mind fuck yourself into adopting this mentality on every approach. This is a technique that is no different from any other type of affirmation or the un-wiring of limiting beliefs that intermediate & advanced puas had to learn to overcome mild to severe approach anxiety/social anxiety (probably through alot of practice & repetition of approaching hundreds to thousands of girls, from going out daily for years). If there is somewhat of a shortcut, than this technique is probably it. You don't have approach anxiety with people that you already know, correct?. So that is the whole premise to this technique.
This is an epiphany that i've just started experimenting with. It can help to reduce AA (Approach Anxiety), and you worrying about what on-lookers (people close by who see you approaching the girl) might think about it..because for all they know..you and the girl already know each other. So when you approach her, it appears from the on-lookers point-of-view that you and the girl are already familiar with each other. Again..this inner-game technique is a mind fuck on yourself, so it will take practice for you to perfect it. Of course you don't know the girl, because it is a "cold approach"..but mind fucking your brain into buying into the belief that you and her already know each other, will help you to approach her with far less anxiety and a far more relaxed demeanor than you probably would've otherwise. And in return..the girl will probably be more comfortable with you and more receptive to you, if you are cold approaching her from that state of mind (if you are familiar with "The Law Of State Transference" - Whatever you feel..she feels). I found it to be helpful, particularly in extremely high social pressure situations like; when i have to approach a moving target (an HB walking) from a distance..which would require me to run up to her, and stop her. Probably with other people around watching me do this.
Try this out, and let me know if it helps.