Arch Stanton wrote:
say, "Cool, I don't mind. You can follow me to Bar X, tonight at 8 for a drink."
That's not going to work. Realistically speaking it's a guaranteed flake recipe. This is daygame. A woman won't agree on a date (at a later time) and
show up just based on 3 minutes of witty banter.
That said, OP, you did well. But here's the thing with daygame, there are two consistently achievable outcomes. The instadate and the number.
The instadate is always
better than a number, for obvious reasons, and is the best way to reduce the chances of future flakes. It's not always likely however. Meeting at the supermaket when you're there doing something doesn't really go hand in hand with the instadate idea, as opposed to meeting her in the park, when she's walking her disgusting french bulldog, and little more.
So if circumstance permits, aim for the instadate. If not, get the number. In your case, you should've went for the number.