Don, first of all, I'd like to thank you for doing this - and all the advice you have given. I read through the first 9 pages of this thread so far and that prompted a reply based on all the good advice.
My text game I feel like is spotty, If I can develop a comfort and a rapor with a girl, then I tend to feel like I do better, but a lot of the time I just don't get there.
There are two instances I have questions about.
This girl was all kinds of nuts. In a fun kind of way. Her and her friend bumped into me at a local bar friday. They bumped into me the first time as they walked by and I (Being a RAFC) didn't realise it was flirting. The second time they did it, it dawned on me and they instantly pulled me away from my friends and started talking.
It was clear they were just out to have fun and game, get free drinks or attention or whatever, perpetuated by the fact that I don't live on the east coast - and they told me they just moved here from oklahoma. After passing the shit tests she threw out I got the cuter one's real name, number, and there was a lot of kino and smiling before I left. I think this was because I have really practiced the eye contact game. Before I left, I set up a date with her for 1pm the next day at a coffee shop. Here is the transcript since.
p.s. she saved her own number in my phone, under the name "God" lol.
Me Sat 12:00 (Local shop name) @ 1 Erin
Erin Sat 12:28 : Ahh I'm sorry. I'm at a baby shower
Me Sat 12:41 : I don't know whether to believe you or not pathalogical liar girl
Me Sat 4:16: Eat dinner with me? Baby showers don't last all day.
Me: Tuesday 5:50 : Hey insane/cute crazy makes stuff up girl, how is your life going? Move back to Oklahoma yet?
Erin: Tuesd 6:17 Haha. I am in class till 7 but we are having a break
Me: tuesd 6:18 Sounds like a blast, what are ya learning? Creative storytelling? lol
Me: tuesd 7:30 What is your name again? you gave me so many, ha
Erin: tuesd 7:40 Haha my bachelor's degree is in creative writing! I'm not a liar, I am just a creative spirit. Now I am changing gears and getting my masters in counseling
Me: 8:24 Why am I not surprised?! Hey maybe when we meet again instead of a story you can counsel me, ya know, help me understand why I like a crazy girl
That's the end of it. The whole night when we met I busted on her pretty bad for lying about her name and stuff - but playful.
I'd really like to transition away from that stuff cause it's not a big deal to me and she didn't know me, and I'd like to move towards developing comfort and a constant flow of texting with this girl, so that when I TELL her I want to see her it isn't out of the blue. I realise that I shouldn't have asked her to dinner but rather said it like we had already agreed, right?
Let me know what you think. Thanks!!!
Will come with #2 from saturday night soon.