If I'm in a committed relationship, one where I've sat her down and explained my intentions, my wants and my 'deal breakers', and she's done the same - and we both have discussed it...and we still want to make this work - then I'm giving it my all.

That's happened here.

Since she and I have talked, I have been to several places, I've received noticeable IOIs from other women and have acted on absolutely NONE of them.

To be honest - I haven't even looked at another woman, not thought of one. We went to a small 'saloon' last night after dinner on the water. Little country place, older crowd - great band and a small dance floor. I taught her to 2-step (I wasn't "cowboy'd up" - that's next time), and we talked - but a cool thing happened... We'd made small talk with a couple next to us (late 50's), then later in the evening, my GF went to the restroom, and the lady's husband was over near the bar talking with another gentleman... a fight breaks out. They started immediately moving the melee over by the lady next to where we'd been sitting, and I got in front of her, moved her back, and shoved the two idiots forward. It was wild - ended up making them both stumble, then other men came and broke them up and they were escorted outside. The lady hugged and thanked me, her husband came over to ensure she was OK and thanked me when she told him what'd happened, and my GF....... SAW it all go down. Yeah, that was fucking cool.

I understand odds of this working, I also understand the 'sarge others' rules-of-thumb... But I know me. If I continue to sarge anyone, I'm only opening myself up for a distraction. I like this chick. I was shocked at how much she'd affected me. That said, I don't want to see anyone else.

Damn the torpedoes. I'm all in - or I'll not be in the relationship to begin with. I made a commitment - knowingly and willingly. I've got to honor that, or tell her I can't be with her...



RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

This will get harder the longer the relationship goes -- you have all kinds of cool chemicals helping you out right now. But keep it up


In statistics, you have to understand the numbers you are looking at to interpret them correctly. Yes, the average relationship tends to fail -- although, I'm under the impression the rates have stabilized and declined marginally. At any rate, have you met the 'average' person who comprises those relationships? They employ many of the head games and tactics found on these forums. And just from what I've seen here over the years and with my friends/family/acquaintances, its a recipe for disaster once the 'honey moon' physiological period ends.

The better question to ask is how does the 30% (or whatever) succeed? How are they differing from average? I don't know many people who get into this stuff to become average, they went to become above average. Just like the average success rate with women wouldn't inform us on how to do well with PUA, the average success rate of relationships does not tell us much on how to succeed.

Hope the above isn't too philosophical/statistical, but hoping you get the point.

Ok RR let us know how it all pans out and don't forget about her wearing the cowboy hat:)

James.