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AFC Adam
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 Posted: Thu Aug 13, 2009 12:12 am Post subject: |
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| Rich89 wrote: | Hey Adam,
first of all i wanna thank you for all your hard work you put in this forum and answering all of our questions!
Now here is my question:
im 20 years old and in college, now this is the time where everybody is getting drunk all the time and everybody thinks thats cool. Well, i dont drink and everytime i talk to a girl she ask why i dont drink. They think this is just lame and a big turn off. How do you handle it when a girl asks you why you dont drink?
Many thanks,
Rich |
Hey Rich89,
I completely feel you on this one because I don't drink either. Honestly, just tell the truth. Tell them you don't drink for whatever reason it is. Any girl who thinks it is lame is someone who you don't want to spend your time with, so it weeds them out for you.
What you can do to help avoid those questions is to have a drink in your hand. If you're at a party then hold a Red Bull, Coke or water in your hand. If you're holding a cup or can people will most likely not notice that you're not drinking.
Honestly mate, not drinking really will help your game so don't think twice about it. You will be socially calibrated, able to control yourself and not look like a food. Don't even think twice about it!
Adam |
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Matija
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| Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 9:35 pm Post subject: Situational openers.. |
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You ve sead to me to feel free to repost you here...Well here I am...
Look im having problems with situational openers....I really dont know how to use them and how to practice them...Im using few openers for a month now...And im sick of them....HELP.... |
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Matija
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| Posted: Wed Aug 26, 2009 9:36 pm Post subject: Situational openers.. |
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You ve sead to me to feel free to repost you here...Well here I am...
Look im having problems with situational openers....I really dont know how to use them and how to practice them...Im using few openers for a month now...And im sick of them....HELP.... |
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mR.e
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| Posted: Sun Aug 30, 2009 5:49 am Post subject: Adam |
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Hey Adam
Great PUA man i base alot of my style of talking off of what u teach its good stuff i think it is deff the best
anyways i hav a question, i am 17 years old, read The Game like begining of last year. b4 that i was alright with girls, now i skyrocketed. 16 lays in one year, b4 that only 1.
i feel that i am pretty natural at this stuff but i want to no if there is any advanced bootcamps for ppl more my age? i dont mind if i went to a seminar with older gents but if there was one more my age like 18 range that would be better ha..less awkward cause im a little small and wut not
oh by the way it would be like a dream to go out and sarge with u haha i would love to learn some more advanced stuff. il bring 12 hot girls promise haha
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Pube
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| Posted: Fri Sep 04, 2009 10:27 am Post subject: |
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| Hi mate, basically i got one itis told her i liked her her reply was " if you had said a week ealier things would have been different..but im meeting someone now and im not the kind of person to go behind peoples back" literally could you give me a tried and tested method of turning this round so she chases me. the appreciation would literally be huge haha! ta |
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V3nu
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| Posted: Mon Sep 07, 2009 5:02 am Post subject: |
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Hey Adam keep up the good work 
I only have 2 questions:
1. Let's say you befriended a few girls, and they become a part of your social circle, but now you want to hook up with one of them or some of them. From your point of view what is the easiest way to break out of the "friend zone" that you created and escalate with one of the girls, without making it seem weird?
In your PUA Diaries you said that you befriend the "Princesses" and you ended up sleeping with a few of them, same thing how did you break out of the friend zone, that you yourself created.....
I probably know that you are going to say "Break rapport so you will create attraction" but I can not do because I'm a really C&F/Tease + Touchy + Sexual in nature guy, with everyone I befriend, so I'm already breaking rapport by being me, and I feel if I escalate further to a close it will be weird because I feel that the attraction that I cause just by being me is blending with comfort...What is your thought on this?
2. I was at a party last night and there were this 2 girls, I liked one of them so I decided to make her my target for the night. Of course instead of trying to pick her up, I was being social and basically befriending everyone all night. By the end of the night I started escalating with her more, presuming attraction after all the social proof I created.
Now here comes the problem, while I was escalating, she told me like 2 times that her friend who she was with "liked me" "wanted me" etc. But after saying that she still didn't stop my escalation.
Like I understand why her friend was attracted to me, but now I'm really interested, what she said meant? Like was it just a shit test to see how I react or was she just reasoning out loud with herself, telling herself that "I told the guy you liked him but he likes me more, but I still told him", or was that even a hint for a 3some? o.O
I also didn't take it as a "rejection" I saw all her IOI very clearly...
How would you react and take something like that?
First time I remember just saying "No" and keep escalating, and the second time I just told her straight up that my target was my type, and I described herself.
Was this the right move?
ps: I'm also a really touchy guy so without even thinking about it, I was kind of showing IOIs to my friend's target, is that okay to do, or should you limit the touching even if the target doesn't say something like: "my friend likes you"
Thanks Adam
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JCCarter
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| Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2009 4:38 pm Post subject: |
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Adam,
First, thanks for all the help you're providing. Your webite (attractionexplained) has been incredibly useful. The fact you explain why something needs to be done and then go into the "hows" makes everything so much easier to understand.
I'm only just starting out, so I apologise if you've already answered my question, or something like it.
I opened a set last night in which I felt I was doing really well. I spent a lot of time talking to this girl, making her qualify herself, doing kino escalation etc. It got to a point were we both felt very comfortable. She then told me that she had a boyfirend but was going to break up with him as she'd found out he'd been cheating. (long story short) Her mates wanted to move to a different area of the club, so I got her number and said I'd text her later that night.
When I texted, she replied really bluntly that she'd already left the club.
My quesiton is: what could I have done to better close the set and what wud be the best way to try and take it forward now?
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Top Hat
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| Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2009 8:17 pm Post subject: |
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| AFC Adam wrote: |
Hey TopHat,
I'm going to be completely honest with you and say that I did not read that. I have way too much ADD and too busy of a schedule to read entire conversations that span over 6 pages of text. If you have a specific question or a sticking point then I can help you out!
Try asking about a certain aspect of game and I would be more than happy to help!
Adam |
Hi Adam,
massive fan of yours bud, i think that you have some incredible skills!
i especially like the way that you are not ott commercial too - you do what you do because you (seem to) enjoy it and you pass it in because you want to see others with that joyfulness too. Its a really nice trait.
i was reading your stuff and stumbled across this reply to an imposter on my name!
seriously though, MODS: is there any way that this can be rectified? i know the punctuation is slightly different, but its the same name! You're probably a good guy tophat2 and 'Great minds think alike' and all that. But i want my name back!
thank you everyone, and keep up the good work |
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desertfox565
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| Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 8:33 am Post subject: |
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Heya man,
Thanks for all the advices, bro. U've motivated me to continue my quest.
Cheers for you!
Been quite long in the community with few failures and few success, I'm starting to getting a good grasp on how to game properly, yet sometimes I still get the approach anxiety and millions of excuses to not approach. E.g I can't meet girls in mall, I can't this this etc etc and etc. But better things are, I know if I don't do this right, I got a sense that tells me "this isn't right". But my problems are:
1. When I'm in set and I sense that things doesn't go "right", I can feel it. Whether it's incongruencey, emotional overreaching, etc etc. But often times, I don't know how to fix it. How to solve this? Most of the times, it's incongruency and emotional overreaching or trying too hard to fit in.
And sometimes I'm confused when to go the comfort and reduce the qualification a little bit. And how if she doesn't pass our standard a.k.a her answer isn't satisfying but I love her look?
2. Game works really different here. Meeting girls anywhere by being direct isn't a choice, and talking to a girl you fancy in a mall isn't a choice. It works in social circle game like wonder though. Nobody does qualification here.  But,how does game work in a country like this? Or it's just an excuse for me to not approach?
3. One of the girl I approach now (she's one of the cutest girl I've ever met) has just got out from a relationship, how do I get in?
4. When I'm not "in state", you told me that I can always game and go for the "low energy game" by building comfort and genuine deep connection with the person. How to make this kind of game works? Because when I'm not in state, I could say that my attraction game sucks. I'm way too scared to be put on the friend zone. Any advice,buddy??
Thank you for everything mate, sorry if I ask too much
Your best pal,
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desertfox565
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| Posted: Sat Sep 12, 2009 8:56 am Post subject: |
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Heya man,
I forgot to add some of these questions in my previous posts. But I dared myself to ask you.
1. I find that when I'm in set, when the conversation already flows, I'm scared of her to being too comfortable and I'll be dropped to the friend zone instantly. So that's why I always try to break rapport and try hard to always qualify and mantain the attraction high. That way sometimes I can't enjoy the conversation. Sometimes I even try to DHV when it's not so much needed anymore. Is this correct thing to do?
If not, what should I do? Is the LJBF zone is something you can control? I know that the answer for western culture is sexualization, but here in Indonesia, the only key to get the kiss or makeouts, etc is relationship. So u can't really sexualize things to get the girl. No kiss before BF-GF's relationship! So, what's the solution for LJBF here?
2. I'm gaming 2 girls right now, the other one just got out from a relationship the other one get dumped after the guy took her virginity. So both girls could have the "all men are jerks" mindset.
How do I solve this,mate?
3. Is social circle game the ONLY way to our hands on the perfect 10?
Thanks for everything man
Best pal,
Steven |
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biffle
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| Posted: Sun Sep 13, 2009 2:36 pm Post subject: |
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Hey, forum nice
What do when girl plays hard to get |
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busther
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| Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 5:09 am Post subject: Small College = Reputation Game?!? |
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My question over Facebook:
"I attend a small private college of no more than 1400. I'm concerned about gaining reputation as a "player" or some creep that hits on girls on campus. Is this something I should be worried about?"
AFCAdam's Answer:
"Heya man,
two ways to go about it. Be a player and own it. or keep it quiet and move slowley building a social life and moving form there.
Make sure you choose one and stick with it, negatives included. Trying to walk between the two will leave you looking bad."
Thanks AFCAdam. You're the most pimpin' AFC ever. I'm going to play the player and continue cold approaching women on my campus like there's no tomorrow. I have lost my fear of loss, realizing that life is short and that meeting women is only a game -- I have nothing to lose from women that I'm not even hooked up with. Your advice is wonderful, but every second on this forum feels like a waste of valuable time out on the field. There is no faster way to learn then to jump in the fire. Stay in touch, I may come back for help, but hopefully I won't need to.
Cheers,
FAZ aka Busther |
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Guitario
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| Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2009 4:29 pm Post subject: |
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Hi Adam. I'm 28 and from Bournemouth. As you probably know this town is great for bars and clubs.. something like 40 venues open on a Friday and Saturday night. Trouble is 90% of the girls are under 21 and the type of girl i like is usually mid twenties and above.
My style is very conversational so i rely on girls being stationary and i do well with older women but the majority of the crowds and the bars are high energy and not really my thing. (i also cant dance and wouldnt want to learn either).
I can stay in the few decent bars and also do day game but i feel im wasting a lot of days and opportunities by not getting to grips with these crazy drunken girls. (some have great bodies, even if they cant stand still or hold convo for 2 seconds).
So my question is what tips do you have to cut out all the rubbish and get straight through to these young party girls WITHOUT dance floor game? |
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dealz
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| Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 2:51 am Post subject: hey |
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hey adam,
i decided to sarge today at mcgill. i managed to record my interactions. i decided to post my first interaction on campus which was decent. it was like a 12 minute interaction. i was about to go deep rapport and stuff but she was busy from the start... and had to further continue studying.
nonetheless i approached and managed to have an interesting conversation with her.
btw i dont number close because im approaching daygame only for the purpose of practicing my conversational muscle. im really good at the nightclubs and i am rather talented with fast escalation and getting girls back to my place. however im quite bad at the emotional connection thing so im practicing it now.
so i was hoping you could gimme some tips on my daygame. what could i have done better and what should i improve on.. should i approach girls that are studying like i did.
yes i know i speak extremely fast and i figured out a way to combat it but i just got to get use to it and speaking to myself in my room.
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thanks in advance |
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WillieB.Long
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| Posted: Sat Sep 26, 2009 10:05 pm Post subject: |
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Hey Adam.
Just gotta say I love all your stuff, like you explain it so it sounds so simple and easy to understand, and you teach guys to act normal instead of running these weird routines. You're amazing.
Anyway I have a few problems. I've always been bad socially, mostly thanks to my parents being too over protective of me when I was younger. At the moment I have no friends, and I struggle having conversations even with my own family. I'm in my second year at college, and I still have no friends in my class. I'm still really quiet and shy because I struggle with coming up with anything to say. On breaks they all leave in their groups and never invite me, so I'm always alone. I don't blame them since I don't talk to them much, but I want to hang around with them and obviously I wanna make the most of being in college. I want to make a lot of friends and build a social circle, but I have no idea what to do. Sometimes I've wanted to say something and felt like it would be weird since I've always been quiet before. What do you think would help me out here?
Also I talk to quite a few girls online, and I seem to be able to easily get them interested enough to meet me, but then if I meet them I fuck it up because I run out of things to say really quickly. Help me please? |
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