ould take your post Redzum, copy and paste as mine. Seriously. Sometimes it's amazing how same problems we are dealing with. I have that feeling reading many posts here. I'm also a ginger, and went through a lot of crap because of that, which shaped me in a very very bad way. Being the ugly ginger kid was not helpful at all. Moreover people tend to keep saying and showing it over and over and over. Countless amount of times I heard that guys talking just next to me that 'id kill myself if i was a ginger' or girls laughing at you in front of everyone just right in your face. I'm almost 30 right now and still can hear it from time to time, or simply have to deal with pseudo-friends joking about it (haha, recent one was 'you know 2 rules of dating women? 1- you have to be alive 2-you can't be a ginger' haha, wanna bet? ). They do that to feel better, feed ego. They do that also when they are jelous ie seeing me with a really hot chick.
It's always so weird for me to read complains from guys, saying that they are tall, handsome, girls are opening them (!) , and they have still huge AA and can't do sh!t about it. Holy crap, then I always think to myself, that I'm on a hardcore level of life and if I can close a girl, I have to be next to GOD
Anyway, I'm still fighting with tons of blockades. For the same reasons I can't approach any girl, or at least not when I'm sober. AA is eating me like hell. But I see somewhere deep inside of me, that behind this crap which grew up on me for years, there is a person who can be extremely successful with woman. I just have to overcome AA and build self-confidence. For some weird reasons I don't understand, women want to be with me, they are falling in love, they find me attractive. My problem is that it happens only after they have a chance to know me better. I sucks at the very first part of interaction. Well, maybe it was not superhelpful post, but there are plenty of great advices over here, really. Read few, then stop reading and go out. I'm crossing fingers for you. Good luck dude
I don't see myself as ugly. I think I'm pretty good looking, albeit kind of skinny. But I don't care. If others don't like that about me, it's TS for them. I lucked out and got the auburnish hair, so I can actually tan a bit in the summer and not freckle like crazy, so yes I'm a redhead but I don't have it quite as bad as some of us gingers. I can empathize, of course, though.
I do have some inner game issues, but I think most of my problems are more related to having been fucked over by a few women before in my past. Emotional wounds and all that garbage. I don't really like women very much, which might explain my attitude and lack of initiative with them. (No, I'm not gay, just kind of bitter.)