Hi guys, last night i made 2 important observations that i think all people new to gameing should be aware of.

1) Sometimes your past friends are a bad idea to go out with

2)If you dont make aproaches(or cannot get yourself to) then dont bother...get over the aproach anxeity!


Ill explain.

I have a good group of friends, we all go back at least 10+ years. We are even about 50/50 girls to guys however the guys and girls probably segragate and do girls/guys only about 80% of the time subconciously.

What i have come to realize is that in that amount of time we have all fallen so deeply into our social status that it is very hard to pull yourself out of that. I was never the Alpha of my close friends circle and it will take an extremely long time and lots of work for me to climb to that spot. The simple counter AMOG solutions do not work here as instead of having to deal with one person "AMOG'in" you, you must deal with every person in your social circle trying to maintain the balance of the way things used to be.

I have decided not to go out with my immediate friends much as they seem to force the insecurities into me, and thus make it very hard for me to game.


Secondly, i have realized in the last few weeks that i can sit here on the boards and give solid advice, i can anylize someones problem, i know a fair amount of the acronyms and basic concepts. However knowing all this crap isnt enough because when you run that monologue in your head its perfect, your mind filters out all the shit that gets in your way in the feild. The only way to actually game is make the aproaches and get over that voice in your head with a million excuses not to aproach.

I have made a few aproaches and have not had a horribly bad crash landing yet. Its really not that bad and my logical side knows this. However i find myself in places outside of my comfort zone and all the alarms go off, all the excuses come flowing out from that dark place in the back of my mind, and i freeze.


If your new and you wana be able to do this, APROACH APROACH APROACH! then work on forming a new cirlce of friends who consider you Alpha...eventually your old friends will follow suite


GL guys,
-Ka-

**EDIT: I feel like a hypocrit giving advvice to people when i am having trouble getting past aproach anxeity, so i will only post on the forums for help and advice to my own problems until i overcome my inhabitions. thanks guys

good advice...I still have approach anxiety. I never approach all day/night if I don't follow the 3 second rule. It's magic.

I have similar problems with my friends. I met these guys when I was in high school, and naturally being a shy person I was always in their shadow and watched as they talked to all the girls in our social circle. As I grew, I became aware that I was actually a very attractive guy with a great sense of humor that I never got to express with these guys always taking the spotlight.

I moved away for about 3 years, developed some social skills and became the alpha male in my 'new' group of friends. When I moved back and started hanging with the same group of guys, which I instantly became that shy, hesitant guy.

I have just come to the conclusion that I am not able to conquer that anxiety when I am aroungd them. I must step away from my circle and begin to develop another group of friends who I feel comfortable around. I imagine that once that voice is gone, I will be able to step back in with renewed confidence.

I cannot wait to see the looks on their face when I perform in front of them.

JUST DO IT!

I'm the same. With my roommate and all our friends, he is the AMOG and I'm pretty shy. But with my friends at school, I'm the AMOG and it really gives me that little bump. I never go to parties with my close friends, because they all have girlfriends and we usually just have our own parties with each other. But when I go to other parties, I enjoy it more.

But I also can't approach for shit. I know the ins and outs of what to do, and can do it in theory, but everything works in theory. Some things are easier said than done.

Tell ya what. If you approach someone in day game this week, I will do the same.

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Okay, I used to have the anxiety, but that went away pretty quickly. When I decided to just approach women, I was basically on auto pilot. Its a bist strange, but it works. We are all actually born with the ability to communicate with people effectively, so stop overthinking and just go. And I will approach a woman if you will. (I'll do it anyway though.)