So she went out to the club last night. She texts me this morning and we have been texting back and fourth. She normally texts me really flirty but today it wasn't so flirty. I asked her how her night was, she then tells me it was amazing and that she met someone.

My reaction: Yea? Cool. And proceeded to talk about what her plans were tomorrow and what i'll be doing etc...

In other words, i acknowledged it by saying (yes?) but sort of ignored it by not asking her anymore questions and playing it cool.

I think she expected a reaction because her text was very short after that.

This could be a shit test or not a shit test. Maybe it's true and she's not interested anymore and that's her way of telling me.

What is the best thing for one to do in this situation? Should i let her call/text and make plans with me or should i continue to game her?

I have a very similar situation.

The girl is very young and naive and yesterday we was texting fine and it was very flirty. Then this morning I see her (I work with her) and she's flirting with someone else, they sat on break next to each other and she practically ignored me all day.

He's out-gamed me. But he is more expirienced than me and I don't know what to do. I wasn't that fussed about her before, but obviously now they are flirting, it seems to bother me more and would like some advice.

It was extremely annoying, but I didn't let her know this.

I dunno man, i dont think its a shit test. If she really liked you she wouldnt have said it. Id say she either genuinely did have a good time and she feels that you're not as exciting, or is trying to get you jealous.


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I say ignore her back, dont start jumping through her hoops. Hands down to this fella, learn from him. But unless you can match his game, your gonna have to play dirty. I say freeze her out for a day or two, then get back in there. If she continues to be like that, i say cut your losses. Make yourself the prize, not her.

The other day she said I have an amazing personality. I did everything right in the book and I make her laugh. She seemed really attracted to me. Although she has told me that it's hard to read me sometimes and I send mixed signals.

So what should I do now?

call her out on it but dont be blatant about it, ask her if she still wants to see you either way youll have your answer, if she says no then cut your ties to her and ignore her

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Hmm, but wouldnt she want that? I dont think shed have said it for shits and giggles, unless she wanted to be outed on it

theres always factors which wasnt written about have they been sleeping together long (if at all) how long have they known each other, how serious is it

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Well from what i got they only went as far as flirty texting

I'm not going to lie but if it's true then it sort of sucks because I really did see this girl as a potential. I still talk to other girls but she was one that i could see myself with.

Her reason for thinking that I give mixed signals is due to my push and pull. PUA's swear by push and pull but I guess push and pull (and yes I am doing it effectively) doesn't seem to be working on her. She has said several times that it's hard for her to know if I am genuine or not.

In any case, I know she did like me but now im not sure. Just not sure how to react or handle it. I'm sort of new to the game and I don’t want to come off like an AFC.

I think this person is someone completely new that she met last night.

Heh and theiren lies your flaw. Push and Pull is used during the validation stage, when your trying to get her to validate her importance at you. You either overdid it, or just mixed both attraction and validation into one.

Well when is the validation stage?

And what should I do now? Should I talk to her about it?

The validation is usually at the stage when your running your initial game on her, or at least thats the way i use it.


Hmmm, what to do now....well tell me, what kind of terms are you with her now? Leave out no details, and the fellow forumers and I will do our best to answer.

Well, we're not in a relationship but she has mentioned that she is looking for someone to settle down with now.

But she seemed really into me, until this morning with the new info. So I have no idea on what terms we are at now.

Should I talk to her about it? And tell her how I feel and re assure her that I am not messing with her head like she thinks I am?

Or should I go no contact on her for a few days now that she has mentioned this?

Or should I just treat as as a friend now and keep her on the sideline?