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Stealth7 PUA Forum Zealot
Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 463
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 4:50 pm Post subject: Follow 3 second rule=NO AA! |
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Practice makes perfect guys! However for some men it's hard to approach a sexy-elegant social intelligent woman. SHe might blow you off, cut you down and be damn right out rude.
But guys! Women aren't suppost to be higher than you! Yes they get alot of approaches and yes they decide whether to to a chance or not. Women are intuitively smart because they don't want to be lead into a dangerous situation. Many women get raped these days that of course when a male comes off aggressive, needy, or creepy-they choose to flight.
There is "Fight & Flight" response in every animal and us. What do you do when a man holds up a gun to you head. He may have alot of Complainace over you because he's threatening you with a gun!
Same goes for women. When they meet a stranger; people's general reaction is to "wait and see". If things turn out poorly then they bail if not great.
AA (Approach Anxiety) is our evolutional program inside our biological mind. We can't get over it; but we can manage it. We can push ourselves to approach a beautiful woman over and over again. This will desensitize you in the future. Pretty soon you'll see that there is no "real" threat and gain confidence. You'll be able to master the approach and spontantiously open with your own lines or routines.
Fear itself is the real fear. But not the actual person. You fear what you feel deep inside of rejection; not the person. The person can be loving, fun and exciting as you can be.
First-follow the THREE-SECOND RULE. Within three seconds approach the woman no matter what. This will help your anxiety from taking over and making you chicken out. More you think that you'll get rejected more the anxiety builds up then you bail or make a fool out of yourself. Don't let this happen. Just approach within 3 seconds and say and opener and see where it goes from there.
Also remember to train your inner whiny voice inside you head. You can do this by 1) Before the approach, make visual contact with girl. 2) Tell yourself inside your head, "Hell, I don't give a fuck if I blow it! I'm gonna try and learn!" 3) Say this 3 times until you feel relaxed and confident. 4) Then approach.
The opener I use is, "Wow! It's nice weather isn't it?" With tonality that I'm excited. Remember, if you believe you can do it then you will start doing it-only this time without hesitation.
I'll give some more openers here:
"I wishi it wasn't so (hot\cold) out! Don't you agree?"
"Hey-do you know where I can get to [place]. I'm not from this area."
[Walk in front of her and say, "Your honor! I object!" She'll mostly likely be like, "What?!" then throw a neg, "Your shoes are dirty, but they look nice!" She'll look down and giggle at your NEG. Follow up with, "Hey I wanted to show you something-[Do routine like mind-game, esp game, the solar system game, cube, number-six game, any other routines possible to capture her group or her.]
ALso note, that beautiful women flock in a group like birds fly in a group. Or a wolf in it's pack.
What do you gotta lose? You're not gonna die except from losing your hair by worrying about it! Sleepless countless nights of wondering why you didn't approach.
You have to love taking risks. Risk is part of living. A risk can be fun or dangerous (Now I'm not suggesting that you drive 120 mph down the street having police chase you. That is exciting but also stupid! You'll get more than a ticket, more a slammer with big Bubba as your girlfriend.)
Guys, but seriously! A woman isn't a dragon that is gonna burn you into a crisp. A woman isn't a unruling Goddess that will determine your death. Woman are just people; just like you and me. What makes them so special is their abilities to sense things beyond the realm of any man can comprehend, called Intuition.
So what you gotta lose? What you gotta lose is nothing. Maybe a wound but remember it's not her-it's you! Your the one who fucked up. However to a woman if she get's bored during the convrsation then she'll most likely blame it on you. This action is called ,"Pausible Denial".
Remember the three second rule, and remember telling yourself you have nothing to lose by approaching her and not to care about it. In PUA there is NO PROBLEMS. So what I'm saying is DON'T CARE so much about screwing the approach up. GO out and have FUN!
If you project your fun and socialible and with social intelligence; you'll be mostly granted the door to a woman's dreams. Good luck and Peace! |
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Shreder PUA Forum Enthusiast
Joined: 27 Jan 2008 Posts: 85
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 4:09 am Post subject: |
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Lovin' the kamikaze vibe here Stealth! Tis truth you speak!!!  |
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victora New to PUA Forum
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Posted: Sun Mar 16, 2008 7:49 am Post subject: |
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this makes so much sence
iv been in a situation where i want to talk to this girl but the more time that passes the more awkward and hard it gets
so yeah props to you  |
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spear PUA Forum Enthusiast
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Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2008 6:43 am Post subject: |
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Brotherly salutations!
Awesome in the true sense of the word mate!!
But I'd have to disagree regarding the mindset.
Not people just like you and me, but YOU are the Alpha MALE and they must serve you |
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Clancey PUA Forum Addict
Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 241
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Posted: Wed Mar 26, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: |
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| I think this is one thing I really need to bring in. My AA is definitely the biggest sticking point of my game... |
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unforgiveable9 PUA Forum Enthusiast
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Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2008 7:17 pm Post subject: |
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| ya after 3 seconds it just gets worse and worse. its horrible |
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undefined PUA Forum Enthusiast
Joined: 01 Apr 2008 Posts: 56
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Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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Yeah that makes sence, ironecaly girls think the same way about us(usualy not the HBs 7-10) they too get shy n akward,
I remember going out with a girl who was ridicolously shy around me, n me being shy enuff as it was, ughh it was horrible!! Lasted less than a week, =(.. That wus like 3-4 years ago, but am glad to say iv moved up =), I wish I had found out about you guys years ago.... |
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darkme_legendary PUA Forum Enthusiast
Joined: 09 Jun 2008 Posts: 30
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Posted: Mon Jun 09, 2008 10:38 pm Post subject: |
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| unforgiveable9 wrote: | | ya after 3 seconds it just gets worse and worse. its horrible |
This happens only because you expect it to happen.
Doing the 3 second rule doesn't destroy AA. Most of the times you get directly in the present moment and you cannot feel any negative emotion when you live in the present.
What about the attractive girls that you see and the 3 seconds are long passed...don't you approach them just because you didn't do it earlier(in less than 3 seconds)? Do you have still have to feel AA? |
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UndeniableSpirit PUA Forum Enthusiast
Joined: 09 Aug 2008 Posts: 31
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 3:15 am Post subject: |
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definitely bookmarking this post bro!
this approach seems like it is suited for me.
gratitude.
later |
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$Money$ Member of PUA Forum
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 10:13 pm Post subject: |
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| this is so true stealth but my fear is to actually talk to a girl i have no problem with the 3 second rule i just cant follow it because i fear that that others students will hear me or that some girl that hears says Hey hese doing a pickup on you or something like that. Anyways can anybody help me with this problem? |
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Weasley Member of PUA Forum
Joined: 02 Sep 2008 Posts: 104
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| I'm starting to think that every time any of us gets AA God laughs a little. I mean, there's nothing better than the high you get by actually being with a girl that you find attractive and is interested in you. However, there is no fear that is greater or more unfounded than that of approaching women. It's like our body is hardwired to desire inaction, but still want to fufill natural needs. I think theses are the two forces that cause AFCs to be AFCs |
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Wharris1985 PUA Forum Enthusiast
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Posted: Mon Sep 15, 2008 2:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Good post... |
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