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ssgillgian
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 Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 8:09 am Post subject: problem moving from friend to targer.. |
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Hey guys.. This was my first real time opening up 3 set, 2 HB 8.5's and one 4. It seems the 4 took the liking to me and made it understood to the hb 8.5's but i was able to keep the interest of the other 2, for a while anyway.
My problem is the girl that wasn't my target kept on isolating me from the target ... which I was unable to overcome.... 'yet' i'd like some simple suggestions on how to move the 3 set, or whatever set, back together to get back on the target.
Also.. how have you guys handled a set blatantly asking for drinks..(U'm not here to go broke .. lol .. plus they didn't deserve the drinks!). I jokingly said they didn't deserve it so I wouldn't.. right out they called me cheap!m followed right up by i must never get laid.. . it was COLD.. the target automatically went away.. and the other cute girl made a joke and dissapperad... .. the hb4 kept on me like white on rice... got a # close from her without even asking...
suggestions please!!
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Casual
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 9:04 am Post subject: |
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usually when PUAs are in a set and they ask him to buy them/her a drink.... you should usually say:
PUA: how about I buy you a drink, and you buy me a drink?
HB: that's like me buying my own drink
then you can neg her and say "maybe that's what you should do then" hahahhaha but that'll probably make you lose the set. but it must get annoying when they are just constantly looking to use guys for free drinks.
if you succeed in generating some interest they will usually agree to buy you a drink, that's when you buy them milk or water or something (which is free) and neg them some more.
back to your first question. so when you're in a set and the UG or nontarget is interested in you, you can figure out ways to show disinterest in a nice way. maybe say "you know what, my friend would be perfect for you, you guys have the same type of style blah blah blah" and if you work with it well you could probably set up a day 2 with a double date... you and your target, the UG and your friend (tell him to wing you)
other ways might be to tell her your gay (it doesn't really matter because you can still generate interest if you're "gay"). then you can continue to attract the target, but lighten up and watch out for the UG4. be flirtatious with the target, neg her but DHV... keep her interested, kino more since you're "gay". be natural but friendly with it and say things such as "if I wasn't gay you'd so be mine... don't you think we'd make a good couple?" etc...
i think you learn from experience how to deal with these types of situations. don't worry about it too much, sometimes things happen the way you don't plan... just run with it, continue as you were... act alpha... be unaffected and focus on your goals. women like jerks who fight for there interest in a non needy way. be alpha about it, leave them... come back, throw negs... etc. i guess it's harder to explain.... maybe you need to give us a more detailed analysis of what actually happened.
anyway good luck. there's my 3 cents |
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Marco Polo
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| Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 8:07 pm Post subject: |
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About drinks. You refused to buy them drinks and they left. My first guess is that you didn`t "made impact" after walking in the club, meaning you didn`t set ground by walk arround, saying hi to staff, opening few sets, just got noticed. This 3 set was probably first set you opened end you ended like you did. After that, you can only open few more sets, interact, make impact and then, "accidentally" get close to them and restart in a way like:"you should stop following me if you don`t want to buy me a drink", of course, you have to smile and have good body language and you should have success.
About obstacle. After reopening set, do some DHV, take phone number from target and go away. Next day call her, meet her without ug and problem solved! |
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