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KingJoker
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 Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 9:36 am Post subject: Asking a girl to come to a dancing course?! |
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hey guys...there will be a ball at my school in about two weeks and before the ball the school is organising dancing courses. I really wanna go there to learn how to dance these salsa, rumba things  I know that women like men who can dance^^
anyway i dont have a partner (girl) yet. How should I ask? I thought about smth like:
" hey, i wanna do that dancin course but i think i gotta ask somebody to come with me...wanna join me?"
Thanks for the help
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skittlepimp
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that sounds good, but dont sweat it dude, its ok just to just go by yourself and check things out. plus you might even meet someone there.
im going to a salsa dance class at my school, its full of chicks and its a great way to meet people. if you feel funny about going alone just say you wanted to check it out. |
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The Doctor
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| skittlepimp wrote: | that sounds good, but dont sweat it dude, its ok just to just go by yourself and check things out. plus you might even meet someone there.
im going to a salsa dance class at my school, its full of chicks and its a great way to meet people. if you feel funny about going alone just say you wanted to check it out. |
I agree, I used to have lessons twice a week and every wednesday night we had a social dance open to all the students... let me tell you a male without a partner is a rare and valuable commodity... At those dances there were only 3 of us who didn't have set partners... and the other 2 guys were gay, lol.
Learning the basics of a core group of dances is just super helpfull. I say if you have the choice learn- Rumba, Cha-cha, Salsa and Jitterbug. Good luck bro! |
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dan0mac
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If you really don't want to go alone ask a friend (girl) to go with you. If you find a set intro her as your cousin, sister, or friend since elementary school. If she is really a good friend she could be a pivot/wing and help you in the set.
Otherwise i agree, this sounds like a good place to go and meet people. Give it a shot. |
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Sociologist
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| Posted: Wed Oct 24, 2007 7:54 pm Post subject: Re: Asking a girl to come to a dancing course?! |
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| KingJoker wrote: | hey guys...there will be a ball at my school in about two weeks and before the ball the school is organising dancing courses. I really wanna go there to learn how to dance these salsa, rumba things I know that women like men who can dance^^
anyway i dont have a partner (girl) yet. How should I ask? I thought about smth like:
" hey, i wanna do that dancin course but i think i gotta ask somebody to come with me...wanna join me?"
Thanks for the help
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I know you have to have some girls that are your friends... Ive taken some salsa lessons before even though you come with a partner they put you into a male and female line any you are constantly switching partners. So who you bring really doesn't matter, so approach someone you are comfortable with because dace lessons in the beginning can look not so seductive. So if you have a friend or target in mind hit them up like "so and so you know how that ball is coming up, well i was thinking of brushing up on my dancing skills and thought it would be cool, or you can use fun and exciting to hit up some of these lessons and so and so should come to. |
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Advice
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| tell any girls you're interested in you really wanna learn to salsa dance or whatever... most likely one of them will say me too!! then you say hey theres some classes going on wherever, would you wanna go??? you set her up and she knocked it down... its easy dude, most chicks would jump on that b/c its not the usual dinner and a movie, its something creative and out of the ordinary... |
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The Wild One
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| Yeah man set it up and make sure you can transition from the dancing to seduction. This is excellent building to foreplay. |
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PrettyBoy41
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| when you say "but i think i have to have someone come with me...wanna join me?" it kinda sounds premeditated in an almost hesistant way. personally i would throw it out there with somethin like, Im hopin to catch those dance classes for the ball comin up so i dont look like a COMPLETE jackass, and I think you should join me, are you bizzy those nights? or somethin like that. thats not perfect, but if you played around with it, i think you would come accros a little more confidently. |
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Z_dubya
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| PrettyBoy41 wrote: | | when you say "but i think i have to have someone come with me...wanna join me?" it kinda sounds premeditated in an almost hesistant way. personally i would throw it out there with somethin like, Im hopin to catch those dance classes for the ball comin up so i dont look like a COMPLETE jackass, and I think you should join me, are you bizzy those nights? or somethin like that. thats not perfect, but if you played around with it, i think you would come accros a little more confidently. |
If you're gonna ask someone to go with you, at least be alpha about it.
"Hey, I'm gonna go check out this dance class and I decided I'd let you come with me. It's tomorrow night, I'll call you." And smile when you're saying this, so they know you're being playful, but serious. This doesn't give them an opportunity to say no.
Don't ask them if they're available. That's like saying, "If it's not too much trouble for you to squeeze me into your schedule, would you please do me a huge favor by taking me to a dance class?"
-Z Dubya |
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PrettyBoy41
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| I agree with you Z, but I have found that a lot of girls just dont respond well to this. for some girls, if they are in a setting that permits this kind of behavior, ya it works, but when you are in an evirnment that is a little more formal, for example a school that has balls, I would suggest being a little more passive and curtious. but thats just me, Z may be right. |
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Z_dubya
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| PrettyBoy41 wrote: | | I agree with you Z, but I have found that a lot of girls just dont respond well to this. for some girls, if they are in a setting that permits this kind of behavior, ya it works, but when you are in an evirnment that is a little more formal, for example a school that has balls, I would suggest being a little more passive and curtious. but thats just me, Z may be right. |
The way I see it, the girl should feel honored that you thought of them, and that you chose them to join you. If the girl is attractive (hb8+), and the event is big (prom, homecoming, balls, etc.), then it's important to ask them early, so they won't have already made plans with somone else. Most guys (afc's) will say something like "Would you please come with me?" The PUA is always the exception.
This is the typical reaction I get:
me: "You know that dance that's coming up? Well I decided I'll let you come with me.  "
her: "Oh you'll LET me come with you? I feel so honored.   "
me: "Yea, you ARE honored. I'm gonna be your arm candy for the night  ."
her: "Haha, awesome. I'm one lucky girl.  "
me: "yea you are. I'll pick you up around 9. So you better be looking good ."
her: "haha okay, call me! "
I used so many emoticons because it's hard to show attitude any other way. But HOW you say it is just as important as WHAT you say. Everytime I use a line like this, I'm smiling big, and the girl can tell I'm not being completely serious. And I expect them to play along in the little game that I've created, by also not being completely serious. It makes the whole interaction more fun for both of us.
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Numen
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| Quote: | | hey, i wanna do that dancin course but i think i gotta ask somebody to come with me...wanna join me?" |
definitely don't say it like this.. that makes her sound like you're desperate and telling everybody the same thing.. which you are..
reword it to make them sound special
"hey, they're doing a dancing course for the ball and I need a partner for the class. Care to join?"
it should sound like you specifically targeted her. |
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LuvShaman
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Just ask her:
Me: Hey are you any good at Salsa dancing?
If she says "Yes" then you can transition into having her give you private lessons
If she says no, THEN, you can transition into taking lessons together.
But usually these places have more women than men, so why take your lunch to a banquet. Take a cool female friend or cousin/sister that can be a Pivot. |
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Kaine
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| Dancing is PUA gold I tell ya! |
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Starfox
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| For those of you that attend these dance classes alone. Do the girls assume your there to meet women? Because I'm interested but I don't want to come off as a creep. |
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