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Dionysus
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 Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 5:02 pm Post subject: Handling a shy girl pickup |
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I'm relatively new to the community but understand all the basic concepts well and have been experimenting. I've however noticed that many of the techniques I've learned don't work especially well on shy and quiet girls. I'm particularly reluctant to neg because I'm afraid of destroying an already low self confidence. I also find it hard to use social proof and demonstrations of higher value on shy girls because they tend to isolate themselves in situations that make this difficult. I'm interested in improving this aspect of my game but have difficulty finding a clear path through the attraction phases. If anybody has some guiding words please do not hesitate.
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Chikito
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Im sure you've heard of the concept of Calibration. A shy girl does not need to be neged.
I still dont know a solid method through this, but this is what ive been doing in its stead.
Game her in a group. Stand next to her and when someone else is talking lean over and say little comments to her. Start building comfort with her.
Another thing you could do is get a wing man to be a total asshole to her by putting her on the spot and purposly pushing her 'shy' buttons, and you rush in there and tell him to back off and bam auto-comfort. 
Just remember to take it slow! Shes shy. |
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negsta
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I can personally vouch for the little comments idea. Worked wonders for me as an AFC.
Also, it might just be me, but I feel quiet girls place more value on rapport.
Thoughts, anyone? |
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JUSTINcredible!
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| negsta wrote: | I can personally vouch for the little comments idea. Worked wonders for me as an AFC.
Also, it might just be me, but I feel quiet girls place more value on rapport.
Thoughts, anyone? |
Agreed. Shy girls are just female AFCs. Just think of when you were an AFC. Didnt it feel good to have some one with high DHV come up and just interact w/ u? Feels good.
Not too much neging needed. W/ u as a PUA you'll radiate confidence that they'll be happy you even talk to them. |
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