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tingo
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 Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:36 pm Post subject: opinions needed |
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Three weeks ago I went to a bar with a friend. We both liked the girl working in the bar (she's an HB 8.5 for me). Later in the evening we wanted to move to another bar and we asked the girl 'we are goint to place X, you want to join us later'. She answered 'yes, I already planned to go there'. On hour later she came to the other place, she was there with some friends, we only talked about like 5 minutes and I didn't see here for the rest of the evening.
The next day I went back to the bar were she's working. She was there and started talking to me. After a while she asked 'you are the guy from, yesterday, isn't it'. I answered 'yes, that's me'. We talked a bit more but she had to go back to work.
The next week I go again to the same place because I really like this girl... Same stuff happened again, just some smalltalk.
Last Saturday I went back, she was there also. I ordered something to eat. I was sitting outside the bar, there was only one other guy inside, he was chatting with the girl. After a while the girl came to me and asked me if she could sit with me for a while because the guy inside asked too direct questions... Anyway we chatted for like one hour, and every moment she had the time she came to me for some smalltalk. She left in the evening and just said goodbye... I'm 95% sure that she doesn't have a boyfriend. I still didn't get her number or so.
Next Saturday I HAVE to get her number. You guys think I screwed it up already ... maybe I'm already in her 'friends zone'? |
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Magnus
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| Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:40 pm Post subject: |
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| it's possible but you have to do something about it now, go there, ask her to come with you to another place yet again, get more intimate tehre, dance with her, put your hand on her ass, see how she reacts, get close, kiss her, see how it works... |
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duck
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| Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:44 pm Post subject: |
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Don't know if you are in the friend zone but you are in danger of simply becoming a nice bar regular.
Here in the states I have a bar I hang out at almost 4x a week. I am what's called a regular.
If I were to go back to that bar again - I would limit my time both with the bartender and in the bar. Set it up like you can only stay 5 mins - just wanted to pop in and let you know I am going to be out tonight at that place where the 2 of you went before - ask for the number that way you can call her and let her know if that place is dead/boring and we can go someplace else.
You have already established that she is comfortable with you (minimally) and she DID remember you (you were worth remembering) - just make sure you don't become the nice guy who doesn't hit on me - a bar regular. |
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EvoJ
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| Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:45 pm Post subject: |
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That is a tough one. While you were sitting and talking with her for an hour last week did you do any Kino? On the bright side, she came to you for protection and that Does help. On the downer if you have seen her face for more than 3 hours without a number it tends to lead toward friendship.
Make your intentions clear with a SOI the next time you meet. Try to use kino if you haven't... and if you have then escalate it accordingly. And for god's sake make a plan and get her number. "Tomorrow (Sunday) I am going to the pool at my condo. You stay cooped up in here too much, Come and get some sun with me." Or something, anything.
Goodluck |
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tingo
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| Posted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 6:57 pm Post subject: ok |
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Thanks for the quick responses. I really think this girl is interested and still have my chances. Next Saturday I will go back for a quick hello and try to get her number, she's certainly not going to take the first step. If nothing happens next time I will indeed be mr. nice guy not hitting on me....
I didn't do any kino or soi...
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