Monkey
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 Posted: Tue Aug 08, 2006 12:39 am Post subject: Sticking Point - Guys and Mixed Groups |
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So I've been trying to deal with this for a bit, but I've come to no conclusions on my own, so I'm bringing it to you guys.
I can sarge all-female sets like there's no tomorrow. In a four-set, I can be the center of attention and become the "Life of the Party," but as soon as a guy comes into the set, I get Approach Anxiety +. Normal AA I can handle, and I have been doing cold approaches for a while. But ask me to approach a mixed group, and it's worse.
I just don't know how to deal with guys. I'll actually back off a set if a guy they know enters it; I don't know what to say, don't know how to act. Quite honestly, they frighten the hell out of me. (I have a very large and healthy respect for pain, and wish to avoid it at all costs).
I think in part it's because I've always been more fomfortable talking to girls. Guys scare me. I'm not very tall, and I'm a little overweight. In a boxing ring, I'm not too bad, but I've never gotten through a street- or bar-fight on the winning side, and I'm always afraid it'll end in violence.
Another part is that The Game has become so popular, I'm afraid they'll call me on it. I've had it happen once with a girl, and regardless of the material you're using, the behavioral pattern is pretty well the same.
I'm not sure this has been a problem for anyone else, but any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
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