Approaching = not a problem! Building attraction however....

JackyKernels

alright...approaching is not a problem for me no longer...i can seriously go up to ANYONE i want and say "HI" or whatever the hell i want.

i have the mentality of i am a higher value than anyone. i will ask any question i want when it comes to mind.

however...i can open for example with a question, which leads to an answer from them. after that i am like stuck i guess because she has answers the question and i guess i just gotta say "oh thanks" then leave.

sometimes if i notice an article of clothing they are wearing i would compliment or even neg, they will either say "Thanks","thanks, i got it from so and so", "fuck you! Razz

".

then i dont know how to respond to that to make things interesting...
"cool" "sweet" "nice nice..." "*Laugh".

i dont know how to transition to getting their phone number....getting their name, keeping a conversation going, and maintaining eye contact/good body posture is no problem. The problem i have is creating that "Spark" for her.

Rolling Eyes

Smarts · Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 7:19 am Post subject:

i feel u man. I am in the same boat. I wish I could help out, but i havent figured it out yet... lol

phrozenflame · Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 12:58 pm Post subject:

Ok, you just need to think one step ahead, you ask a question, she answer and poof! thats the end of your routine!, no.

Talk to them, they answer your question, now have a counter-answer to all possible answers they can have to your first question, and in your counter-answer, make sure you steer the conversation towards your another routine, also you will be leading the conversation in this way.

A good idea would be to also have a neg in your counter-answer.

(and btw, I'm a noob, xD)"

Ro · Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2008 8:47 pm Post subject:

Yea, I feel you..

M4rk3y · Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2008 9:10 pm Post subject:

mate, just relax, have a smile on ur face whenever ur talking, as phrozenflame said, be ready with a neg at all times..

im a noob to gaming too, but i was in a relationship for 8 years (since school - through the hormones/sexual adventures/family problems/crying etc) and i think i understand how a girls head works... i coul never axplain it mind!

i suggest if you can approach, plan a routine that stems from the approach... get their opinion on ur appearance or something you can argue. heres my usual.

"excuse me, can i borrow you for like two seconds? what colour is my hair?"
"brown"
*turn to the wing givving the V's*
"sorry about that, its just i had to dye my hair cos it went ginger when i used some chemical straightening stuff... now all my friends call me a goth, and say my hair is black"
"no its deffinatly brown"

then that leads you to neg thair hair... i give them a neg that has a possitive at the end "is that your natural hair colour?"
"yes" - "it looks fake.... *pause* in a 'iv just spent £100 at a salon way"
"no" - "i didnt think so.... *pause* it looks really nice tho"

all the time giving kino... if ur smiling girls dont mind being touched on their side/arm while ur talking to them...

hope this helps mate

M4rk3y · Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2008 9:13 pm Post subject:

sorry i missed a bit...

once uv established a connection and got a reaction from the neg, they should be 'opened' meaning they will want to talk to you asking you questions... probably shit tests!

zen36 · Posted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 5:47 am Post subject:

just stack routines. There's so much out there that if you don't have anything interesting to say just steal from someone else. tell stories, run game tests, but my advice would be opposite of everyone else. don't ask questions. you approached her. She's not just going to start talking just cause you're standing there. you have to be ready to offer 110% of the conversation. If you're not, then what the hell did you approach her for. especially stay away from small talk. when did "so what do you do" ever lead to a hot romantic scene. think about something hilarious and interesting that happened to you and get real good at telling people about it. who cares if it happened a year ago, they don't know that. and like mystery says, its not lying, its flirting.

kasabi · Posted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 6:51 am Post subject:

Ah . . . the # close.

Well, with the way you open, you should try to bring "fantasy conversations" back to reality. So have some basic "fun events" waiting for you in your brain's "file cabinet". So whatever it is that you do, "Compliment, neg, stories, etc . . .", you have to frame it back to real events . . .

Here's an example from last week when I was in some government office for visa issues.

3 set. 1 = Mother Hen. 2 = Little more serious style friend 3 = Carefree cutie. All are attractive.

-------OPEN-------

K: (Looking directly at 1), Hey, what's your number?

All three look at me like, "Excuse me????"

K: (Giving them the What the fuck is wrong with you look for 5 solid seconds . . . then smiling a bit) Oh . . . ha ha ha. . . that kinda came out funny. I mean what's your cue #? I'm 315. Looks like there's over 100 people ahead of me.

1: We're 309. It doesn't seem so bad.
K: The last time I was here and there were 100 people ahead of me I waited over 4 hours
2 or 3 . . .I forget: Oh my God!

----break in convo but we're all sitting in same area----

--------DUMB ROUTINE-------

I pull out a sandwich, and 3 is looking at it like the way a croc stares down a gazelle.

K: I don't like the way ur looking at my sandwich
3: Oh my God, I'm so hungry.(laughing embarrassingly)
K: Sorry, I wish to help you but I can't. Only brought 1 and if I give you a piece, I'll have to give him a piece, her a piece, then we'll have nothing left.

Ha ha ha's . . .

Fluff . . .blah, blah, blah . .

Now this is where you bring things back to REALITY.

------ # Close Set Up--------

K: Hey, have you guys been to the ______ bar? I went last Wed and it was crazy! This cute girl gave me a kiss but I think she might have been a hooker. I dunno . . . she gave me funny vibes. Both satisfying and a bit yucky at the same time . . .

1.2.3.: Weird. . . gross . . . that's funny . . .(Whatever)

Then . . . Don't know WHO exactly but all three broke in with: No, but we go to _____ and ______ and last weekend we were like hanging out at ______ and blah, blah, blah.

K: Oh yeah, _______ is hot. Hey, I know this guy who just opened up a bar on _____ Street.

1. Oh yeah, we live like 10 minutes away.

K: Cool. Grand opening is on Friday. I'm going to gather the troop and the guy says he's going to grab us a table. We'll crack open a bottle or 5. (Addressing the mother hen now) Give me your number, I'll ring you guys. It'll be a blast.

Done.

Yeah . . . the 'give me ur #, let's go for coffee or something' works IF you open with that, "Wow, you're really cute and I just had to meet you . . ." However, if you go under the radar, the example above is the way I do it.

Synckpua · Posted: Tue Oct 28, 2008 7:28 am Post subject:

what i like to do if i have trouble stacking forward is assume something about them but make it relevant hahha well if u want to be funny or just for laughs for ur self don't be relevant

for ex. if she has tights on say ooo did u use to do gymnastics and then explain something like how u found something interesting or wat ever u know be creative

and if ur going to ask question make sure they stir some type of emotion preferably good.... hit me up for anymore tips

Hell's Angel · Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2008 10:45 pm Post subject:

a really good routine to get a girl to think you're above the rest is the cube. by the book, it's on amazon for like ten bucks, and study it and you can open any girl with it. this routine has probably gotten me the farthest of anything i've used. if you have a problem getting into the subject just try this.
PUA: hey have you ever played the cube?
HB: no, what's that?
PUA: well i'm a personality analyzer and i can tell you things about yourself that you don't even know through this little game.
HB: Really?!! I want to play!

after this you run the cube on her. this usually leads to a deeper conversation and attraction. try not to do this on girls with a short attention span because they tend to get bored of the game.

roady · Posted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 7:53 am Post subject:

kasabi that was a great tip that i found very usefull thanks

Carbon24 · Posted: Sat Dec 06, 2008 6:16 am Post subject:

if you can steer the convo into one these conversation peices

-that " where you at?" tracking phone and how stalkers/cheaters can do that anymore cause your like" my gf at her house....wait so if my best friend"...so on so forth

just think of something normal and add something odd into it like

shopping
girls like shopping
you can say
" this one 5'1 petite girl almost completly hulked(ran over me) at the mall the other day just to get to the shoe store...i guess she saw a sale"

just stuff like that

kasabi · Posted: Sat Dec 06, 2008 7:21 am Post subject:

Carbon24 · Posted: Sat Dec 06, 2008 6:36 pm Post subject:

o lol it shows that your funny for one but with time you can put DHV spikes in it

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