KingJoker
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 Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 7:14 pm Post subject: Can anybody help me plz?! |
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There is this girl in my school. Im chatting with her for some weeks now and we are having fun together and so on. But I askes her if she wants to come to the cinema with me and she said she couldnt bcs she hasnt got no money. She didnt want me to pay for her for some reason. Anyway, she also asked me if I wanna go alone or with some other ppl from our school. I answerede her that i wanna go alone with her... Ok the situation is now: We will go to the cinema in maybe 1 or 2 weeks, until she got some more money and the exams are over. I dunno what i should do to get her...
there are some negative things and some positivs things about her:
positive:
- she invited me to come to a yoga with her (im doing weightlifting and shes doing yoga)
- she gives me IOI's sometimes, like touching my leg when i was sitting next to her and she smiles at me sometimes..
negative:
-she never talks to me first in the chat (msn), i always have to start the conversation, i feel like im stressing her... but otherwise i cant talk to her because at school shes always with her friends and i dunno how to get her attention
-i dont think shes very interested in me... but sometimes she gives me IOI's like touching my leg or smth, i dont understand this girl
Ok now my question is: what should i do to get her? waht should i do in the cinema? (how far can i go)
thank you for your asnwers!
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Romeo7
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| Posted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 9:16 pm Post subject: |
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Buddy
Let me tell you one thing
"You're going TOTALLY wrong just about the begining"
I think it's important that you open your eyes at each and every signal that a woman sends. I'll mention a couple from your writing.
| Quote: | | But I askes her if she wants to come to the cinema with me and she said she couldnt bcs she hasnt got no money |
Right...
This is my type of conversation
"Hey, there is this movie that I would like to watch..."
if she says sorry I can't ...
you say
"I didnt say i was going with you"
she will be ridiculized
If she says "what movie?" that's obviously a signal of saying "let's goo"
then you say
"x" movie, let's go, ill meet you at this place at this time, and youre paying for me
(CLUE: On the first date, you NEVER pick a girl up, you make her meet you somewhere, second date is ok, but dont make of it a tradition)
So, if you havent noticed yet
The first thing you did wrong was that you ASKED, you don't ask, you HINT, this is what we call MIXED SIGNALS (please search that, you'll need it)
But previous to that, you made the terrible mistake of inviting her to what I believe, one of the WORST places for a first date, the cinema, for a number of reasons
* not enough ways to build comfort
* it's too common
* it's awkard
I have asked girls their opinion on this, they all say "I hateee it"
But even previous to that mistake you failed to build a sexual connection with her man, even if you built an emotional connection with her, that could be lost within a day or two
I take for sure you're in High school, so am I (about to graduate YEAH BABY!  ), but just as an advice leave the lil games behind.
Then when a girl really wants you, she won't say "i dont have money" she would say why dont we go somewhere else?
Your 2nd mistake...
| Quote: | | she also asked me if I wanna go alone or with some other ppl from our school. I answerede her that i wanna go alone with her... |
why do you think she asked you that?
because she's somewhat insecure about going to the movies with you
I tell you something
if you dont RE-build a emotional connection and then a sexual connection withing the next few days, she'll probably flake on you, and if she doesn't, nothing will really happen in the cinema, C'MON IN THE CINEMA???
Not the cinema, not a good place for a first date, damn
the first date is about getting to know each other
how do u get to know her when the goddamn movie is playing |
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