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madmax_666
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 Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 4:52 am Post subject: Any of you horrible at dating first time too? |
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| well after sarging i got 2 dates this past week. First one we sat under a tree and she started talking about how her parents blow and she looked like she was sad, she gave me ioi's like " your the wierdest guy i know" and other stuff like that but at the same time she had her body language wrong( arms crossed, legs crossed, wasn't sitting close to me) wtf was i supposed to do? so after 45 min she said she had to go, so me ending the interaction 1st was a flop, and the 2nd date went the same but at the end of the date i wasn't going to walk away from anything so i pretending to whisper to her in her ear and kissed her in the lips fast and said i had to do it, than i left. Damn that stuff is just as nervous as opening agreed? |
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mozyFresh
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| Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 5:13 am Post subject: |
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Try keeping things positive and dates fun, and thats how she will see you.
You want her to be thinking/saying afterwards 'i had a great time the other night'.
(not always easily done i know)
Dont worry so much about the kiss, focus on her attraction towards you. Confidence and assertiveness are key.
If you are unsure run a compliance test before hand to know if she's ready. |
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trifecta3
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| Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 5:57 pm Post subject: |
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This is what I do for a first date...
1. As soon as I see the person to break the ice I say "What, you didn't bring me any flowers or chocolates!?" - with a smile on my face of course
2. I then transition into "OMG you won't believe what happened to me the other day...." and tell an interesting story. This gets the ball rolling and avoids any awkwardness during the first bit of the date.
3. During the date I'll use kino and be highly energetic. This is all basic game though.
4. At the end of the date if you're feeling like a wussy and don't want to go for a kiss on the lips a good way to leave on a positive note is to say, "be a good girl and give me a kiss" while pointing to your cheek.
Hope this helps! |
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jurupa
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| Posted: Sun Jul 27, 2008 7:09 pm Post subject: |
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| trifecta3 wrote: | | 1. As soon as I see the person to break the ice I say "What, you didn't bring me any flowers or chocolates!?" - with a smile on my face of course |
Breaking the ice in a funny way is a good way to start the date.
| Quote: | | 2. I then transition into "OMG you won't believe what happened to me the other day...." and tell an interesting story. This gets the ball rolling and avoids any awkwardness during the first bit of the date. |
Story telling is good if you are nervous or nor sure what to talk about at first.
| Quote: | | 3. During the date I'll use kino and be highly energetic. This is all basic game though. |
Kino should be used from the start of the date to the end of the date. Not just in the middle of the date.
| Quote: | | 4. At the end of the date if you're feeling like a wussy and don't want to go for a kiss on the lips a good way to leave on a positive note is to say, "be a good girl and give me a kiss" while pointing to your cheek. |
There is nothing that says you must kiss at the end of the date. Sometimes it is better not to kiss and end the date with the sexual tension so the next time you see her you already have some sexual tension already there. |
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mozyFresh
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| Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2008 7:27 am Post subject: |
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| Also i'd just like to ad, who says you have to kiss at the end of the date, why not kiss half way through the date? If you wait until the last minute this could cause anxiety and also may not be a good moment for the k-close. And by that time you should be concentrating getting her to invite in/back to her place, or taking her to yours. (unless you're not looking to f-close or following a seven hour rule) |
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Risen
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| mozyFresh wrote: | | Also i'd just like to ad, who says you have to kiss at the end of the date, why not kiss half way through the date? If you wait until the last minute this could cause anxiety and also may not be a good moment for the k-close. And by that time you should be concentrating getting her to invite in/back to her place, or taking her to yours. (unless you're not looking to f-close or following a seven hour rule) |
I totally agree with you on this! Too many guys put undue pressure on themselves by "having" to kiss a girl at the END of the date. What people dont realize is that a kiss is just the natural escalation of kinoing. Therefore, if you have been increasing your kino throughout the date there is no reason to fear the kiss whenever you want! I believe that kissing on the first date is vital if you want to fclose her, unless you are looking for a long term deal or more traditional relationship. I guess its a matter of personal preference but I thought I would chime in on the matter  |
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